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8th House Fascination

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(@paixguerre)
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People with planets in my 8th bore the heck out of me romantically (that's where my sun is) but have been good confidantes. How is the other person affected with their planets in my 8th? Well I'm careful not to come on too strong and I respect their boundaries until I know they are trustworthy and can deal with the hard issues because I'll "go there" lol - it's about intimacy and trust - therapeutic, even

When my own planets show up in a man's 8th - I am always YUCK, cuz it's often the insecure form of 8th house energy and it can be pretty ugly (the controlling aspect)

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CocoPeaches
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oh wait, actually I wasn't thinking of my planets in their 8th...

Taurus moon guy, I had Sun and Mercury in his 8th. He was my first kiss, and then we had strong camaraderie growing up. I tried to get him back a couple times later in life, but to no avail. He told me we had "different interests." It's true, we really grew apart. And he's now engaged to a woman who has interests identical to his.

With Aries moon guy, I had Venus and Jupiter in his 8th. I was interested in him for years and years, starting in high school, and lasting well after I graduated from college. He was so kind and supportive, and always seemed so interested, which kept me interested. He let me feel comfortable sharing all of my personal stuff with him. I think I inspired him greatly, but he just didn't want a relationship with me. Told me I was too "beneficial" for him. He's dating a woman who is also a do-good'er, so I don't know what that was about.

Those two were in my teens/early twenties. 

And the stellium guy, who I dated recently (I'm 27) he actually did have Jupiter in my 8th, but most of his stellium (Mercury, sun, Venus) fell in my 7th. I was really comfortable with him, and felt good about everything between us, until my jealousy took over. He had baby mama drama, late nights with his female boss, was long distance pen pals with ex lovers, shared his netflix with ex girlfriends, let a homeless girl sleep on his couch, it was too much... and finally I found out from the homeless girl that he was cheating. Well, that was over a month ago, and now I don't really think he did cheat and my urge to be with him again is strong. But I made an emotional decision (to leave him) and that's what I have to live with. I am going to wait another week or 10 days and see how I feel, then maybe try to see if he'll talk to me again. But I remember having such incredible anxiety about his will to help, or just be available, to so many other women. He IS the type of guy who will do anything for anyone and I love that. I tried so hard to accept that that's who he is, and it didn't mean anything against me. I don't know. Our bond did not support that much trust from me yet.

Ok , now I think I understand what the other guy meant by, "too beneficial." I think Jupiter in 8th in synastry = hard for the 8th house person to be comfortable with the planet person's extremely good nature.

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(@paixguerre)
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Coco, don't mean to judge at all but "stellium guy" sounds like he has a savior complex and serious boundary issues - careful with that one

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Opal
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I have crazy psychic connections with people whose planets fall in my 8th. I have Moon Neptune in the 2nd which probably amps it all too. 

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LovexAstrology
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But how does the house person feel. About someone's planet falling in their 8th house in synastry. When they don't have any of their own planets in their natal chart?

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Poppy
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In my observation - as the planet person occuping others' 8th house (i.e. synastry chart, with their natal chart on the inside, for easier seeing things from their point of view) - they respond to me in an 8th-house-y way.  One friend said, "With my other friends, I don't have conversations like this, about difficulties that really affect me."  She could express deep feelings of hurt, angrily, and I'd empathize, and not feel shocked nor repulsed.  Rather, we shared laughter about some of it. (My Moon in her 8th, her Jupiter in her 12th.)

ETA I think sometimes, in synastry aspects, that the exchange can flip sides: e.g. when my Sagittarian brother called saying, "We're going to get groceries for you, so make a list - we'll be there in half an hour to pick it up," I called my friend while writing my list.  "I'm adding whatever you want, too.  I already put some of them in it.  He's most probably going to agree to deliver them to your door, too, because that lets him be twice as generous in one only slightly longer trip. If not - unlikely not - we'll figure another way.  Come on, tell me more items, the clock is ticking!"  I was sharing my sudden bounty: 8th house.  (And my brother was truly happy to participate, so easily on his side.  Especially because I took only a minute to put my friend's groceries together into bags.  He told her so, too.)

Forgot to explain that I was in the early weeks of healing from a broken bone, which was the reason for this "good deed."  My friend was somewhat limited in her mobility, longterm - especially for carrying heavy things.

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