What is the single worst piece of advice you've ever received?
ooo... juicy... my life is a series of events where I felt I did or did not do something on someone else's advice or did not follow someone's advice and later felt bitter about the outcomes. I think somewhere I may have eventually stopped following any individualistic advice. Also, I have become such a skeptic that alarm bells go off every time someone tries to advise or help or asks me to trust them.
At the same time, I am learning to hold back my advice to anyone.
Sadly some of the worst advice I've ever gotten in my life came from medical doctors! So much of it is about taking my own health out of my own hands, and putting my trust in pharmaceuticals and things to shoot up. No thank you!
“Be open” and “go with the flow” Following that shitty piece of advice caused me so much drama and heartbreak.
@libra-noir I see how that could happen. There are so many scenarios in life when we have to stay closed or distance from something harmful, and not be open and go with some toxic flow. I think it all depends on our gut instinct whether we should open or close, stay near, go far away, bend or stay rigid!
@rapunzelsoldierfish In my case I think it was people projecting their own need for balance in that regard. I’m really thinking about a time after coming out of an intensely abusive relationship and friends would encourage me to go on dates with anyone who asked. I felt like they were older and knew better but I wish I would’ve given myself the space to heal. I see now that how lost they actually were.
Hi Elsa, great question! I have actually been thinking about this the last couple of days. The worst piece of advice I have ever gotten is to do something that is out of my character. I have Moon in Libra and I try to be very polite, diplomatic, firm, but fair. I have been in a couple of instances wherein I needed to be "tough", I was told I should tell someone under no uncertain terms, "this and this" and to just let them have it". And all of the different advisory comments came from men telling me how to handle a certain business situation and they all turned out horrible, awful and I felt terrible. I have learned a great deal from these scenarios and about myself as well. I visit your blog often but rarely post, but this one stirred me to respond. Thank you for all your wonderful work and the fantastic topics you consistently have on your blog. You are the type of friend everyone should have in their life!
Honestly? I can’t even remember the worst piece of advice I’ve ever received. I hate to admit it, but I never really follow other people’s advice. I will take another persons opinion into consideration if coming from someone I respect, and possibly even let it influence me, but I’m way too strong-willed to blindly follow advice. Not to mention everything I think about gets filtered through my Mercury-Uranus/Jupiter square which is extremely individualistic. So I can’t remember, because it probably went in one ear and out the other so to speak. :/