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Elsa
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Saturday, December 29, 2018 - 9:53 am
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You’ve probably noticed the forum has a lot more traffic lately.  The traffic is real.  

New people bring new energy and new ideas.  That’s good! I like it.

If you’ve been here awhile, you’ve seen all kinds of things, both good and bad. 

This forum is just a stage. It’s a room where people can interact. I want them to be as free as possible. Jupiter is in Sagittarius. We can’t resolve things if we can’t talk.

AI technology is now being honed as machines interact in forums, getting better at being “people”. I have to watch for this and nuke the bots when I see them.

Because of this, it’s become more important that people posting here, write coherently.

As for the rules… I ask people not to attack people. That’s usually enough. Last night we had a clash here… regulars attacked regulars.

I know there are some of you who think I should ban, Phoenix, and I may, depending on his next move. But the way it stands, if I banned Phoenix,  I would have to ban soup too, because she attacked, Phoenix, first.

She did not call him a cow or say he should have been beaten but she did insult him pretty severely when she compared him to her sons and suggested he was full of shit, a loser and such.

That’s a personal attack. That’s what set him off and frankly, it would have set me off as well!

It was also stated this is a forum full of older women. This might be true but it’s not always been the case and I don’t think we’re headed in that direction.

Saturn is in Capricorn!  People who are 20 and 21 and 27 and 29 need help with this transit.  How they deal now, will impact their lives, greatly.  I’d like them to be able to come here and get help from people with more experience. 

As for someone who comes on the forum, wildly (Calling), I’ve seen this many times. It doesn’t always end badly. In fact, generally, it’s the exact opposite.  The person realizes they can speak here – they value this and they adapt. 

Blocking is easy.  It takes a couple clicks. I like to give people as much time and space as possible before resorting to that.  People do get drunk and say shit.. they regret the next day. That’s just an example. I can tolerate this, depending on the situation.

Last, I am a person. I am a human being. Right now, Saturn in Capricorn is squaring my Mercury and Mars in Libra. I cannot act rashly or become people pressure me. 

I will take care of problems, I always do.  I’ve just got a stack of work and can’t read all the interactions between two people across 100 threads to figure our what’s been said.

Please help me by flagging flagrant crap or anyone who is “shit posting”. These things will bring this forum down and the VAST majority here don’t want that.

Also, thanks for welcoming newcomers and helping them. It also helps if you link threads or just the forum(s), if you can.

Thanks!

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Thanks Elsa, I didn’t read soups comments any further than her still think I was Calling, and I explained my position. I found it uncomfortable to defend her and… you know, additional stuff. 

I find it a bit odd that anyone would think I was obsessive enough to start another profile about someone I don’t care about one way or the other.

It does not massively surprise me the loser comments but I don’t have any particular repsect for Charpy and whatnot and that female tendency to moronically pile on. I assume if you say something like that on a female forum you are banned. Pretty much if you offend one woman, no matter how slight they act as a unified whole.

Which was why I stepped in with Calling, to take the situation down in a careful way rather than subject him to whiny moronica group think that I experienced when I frist came on here (I specifically remember the Pluto thread where people had a go at me and accused me of being the bad guy when I was just putting forward a different perspective). I.e. if you want to have men on the forum, rather than just women, and the stale emotional circles that brings after long periods of time, then you have to be able to relate to them.

The only one I didn’t want to offend with the comments is Libra Noir. I couldn’t give a toss what the rest of them think about it.

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Saturday, December 29, 2018 - 10:38 am
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Phoenix, what you said was immature but you were provoked and everyone, even the women on this thread have said something or called someone a name in anger that they later regret.  I forgive you for what you said but please try to think about what lesson you can take from this.  

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It was hurtful to read and I was disappointed. Offended isnt the right word, just sad. Plus I kind of missed the whole thing, and read it all after the fact, but I dont know how I wouldve gotten in between the two you anyway. Pretty gruesome:( 

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Thesecondphoenix said
Thanks Elsa, I didn’t read soups comments any further than her still think I was Calling, and I explained my position. I found it uncomfortable to defend her and… you know, additional stuff. 

I find it a bit odd that anyone would think I was obsessive enough to start another profile about someone I don’t care about one way or the other.

It does not massively surprise me the loser comments but I don’t have any particular repsect for Charpy and whatnot and that female tendency to moronically pile on. I assume if you say something like that on a female forum you are banned. Pretty much if you offend one woman, no matter how slight they act as a unified whole.

Which was why I stepped in with Calling, to take the situation down in a careful way rather than subject him to whiny moronica group think that I experienced when I frist came on here (I specifically remember the Pluto thread where people had a go at me and accused me of being the bad guy when I was just putting forward a different perspective). I.e. if you want to have men on the forum, rather than just women, and the stale emotional circles that brings after long periods of time, then you have to be able to relate to them.

The only one I didn’t want to offend with the comments is Libra Noir. I couldn’t give a toss what the rest of them think about it.

  

This is enough.  Find a non-whiny, no-loser forum that has fewer morons and that’ll fix this for you.

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Saturday, December 29, 2018 - 11:20 am
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In his defense, he meant soups comments calling him a loser dont surprise him, but he did not read them.  He just felt attacked in the past and is blaming women even though it is really a thing across most groups, not just with women, it’s groupthink. 

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It doesn’t matter. I let him on this forum when no one else would. I spent hours plucking his posts from spam to repair his reputation.

He never once, thanked be for this.

I just gave him the opportunity to NOT insult people. I made it clear that whatever people said at this tie would count.

Among other things, he singled out Charpy… I like Charpy. I like most the people here… and I want them to feel somewhat safe in posting here.

He had no cause at this time to fling shit at anyone, this forum, women in general or whatever.  He, himself was surprised he was not banned last night. I gave him this period of grace and guess what? I don’t like his response.

And it’s my forum.
And I have problems and endless work so guess what? If you’re going to waste my time and degrade my quality of life, I’m going to ban you. Particularly if I have worked for you personally, for all these months.

I say this often enough. This is a forum for adults who have some social skills!  If anything the standard will now be raised. You’ve got to know how to spell and write a coherent sentence, otherwise you might be mistaken as a bot.

Spamming will not be tolerated.

I don’t care if you’re provocative. I enjoy it. I like drama!  But you’ve got to have some sense.

This used to be a great forum with great content, great people who helped each other. It is getting back to that now.

If you want to stay and be part of it, then stay. If you want to go, go. 

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Saturday, December 29, 2018 - 11:55 am
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I didn’t like his response either, I am really disappointed.  He really could have done better.  Oh well, I guess we all could take a lesson from this one.  Btw, I really appreciate you and your generosity to the members of this forum.  I don’t blame you at all.  It’s just a shame he could not come up with a better response.

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Saturday, December 29, 2018 - 12:00 pm
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Well let’s not talk about anymore, because he can’t respond.

 

Thanks,

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I used to go here

The Topix Forums Have Sailed Into the Sunset

For over a decade Topix has proudly served up your town’s latest news and hottest takes. In that time a lot has changed. We have grown to be one of the internet’s largest entertainment sources.

We want to thank all of our forum readers and contributors. You helped shape our company and push us in directions we never thought possible. We hope that you continue to enjoy our content no matter what form it might take.

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It was there three days ago – now gone. 🙁

This is what I guard against.  Things become too expensive to maintain and/or more trouble than they’re worth.

It’s just fact… if you like something, then pitch in to help and protect and such. Thank you!

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The internet tends to have a lot of group thinking, piling on. It’s not just women. Haha, things got hot last night!

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I really dislike group-think. It’s the Mercury-Uranus in my chart. I feel so sorry for people when they are targeted unjustly due to group-think so I invariably defend them even though it ends up hurting me sometimes too.  I can’t help it, I know what it’s like to be targeted, because I also sometimes have a non-conformist mentality.  Anyway, I’m sad it came to this.  I really am.

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Saturday, December 29, 2018 - 1:49 pm
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But I also understand 😔

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Saturday, December 29, 2018 - 1:53 pm
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@la_sirena,

it’s human nature. 

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This has always been a unique place. It’s truly tolerant and far more balanced then anywhere else you can go.

But it does evolve and clearly something is up because the traffic has doubled,

This is very good. The more people here, the more likely you are to get an interesting answer to your question or whatever.

I really think people have had it with being tracked and whatever I am, I am not a zealot or a control freak. You just have to stay NEAR (not inside) normal social norms… manners and such.

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New people might not know, I started tending bar when I was fifteen years old.  This forum, to me, is like my bar.

You can come here, drink, don’t drink, shoot some pool, make friends or whatever.  You can even get shitfaced now and again.  But if you bother me (the person actually working here), or you make other people want to go elsewhere to escape you (ruin my business), then you will be 86’ed.

I stood behind a bar as a teenager and told people three times my age to get the fuck out.  You can only piss on the floor so many times, before I am going to send you ‘cross the street to my competition.  Let them deal with you… and you with them.

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