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Kleo2
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Just recently I have started going to therapy, my main issue being that I don't know how to be assertive without fearing that I will be perceived as mean or provoke conflict. Anyway, this is just one of the issues I need to work on.

My therapist's goal is to make me have a voice of my own, to be more assertive and to bring out my best version.

Of course, being so saddened that I am this way, I have some thoughts that what if it doesn't work for me. What if, because of my astrology (Moon in 1st house conj Asc, Neptune in 1st house, Saturn in 1st house, having Pisces Sun) I am too soft and don't have the necessary material to become more powerful and brave? 

I told my therapist that now I find it more probable to find a boyfriend than me to be this powerful person, which in the past, finding a boyfriend, was like finding a unicorn lol.

So I need to hear your experience if you have been to therapy. How did it change you? What were your issues when you began and how long did it take for you to feel you can tackle them better? Also, did your astrological placements contributed and helped in the process better?

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I am so grateful for my experience with therapy. It was a huge turning point in my life. 

Elsa has written pretty extensively on this site about therapy. If I remember correctly, she talks about Jupiter and or ninth house influences being helpful, but other things, too. Jupiter is the classical ruler of Pisces. Pisces and Neptune also rule transcendence. 

For me, I have a ninth house sun (perspective, expansiveness, philosophy) and an eighth house Jupiter (psychology). 

Lots of luck and good vibes for your experience. 

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Elsa
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Truly, you have to get the right therapist at the right time.

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I only went once. 

It was a dark time for me. My youngest Gemini son was just hideous. Risk taking...he kept me scared to death almost every day for years. I have never been so low and so scared in my life. It was taking my lifeforce away. No matter what I tried it didn't make it better and I felt like all the talking and worry was wearing the people close to me down. So, I went to talk to someone. I went to talk to someone because I really thought my kid was going to die, and I was going to die with him. 

The first couple of times all I did was cry my guts out and the poor woman didn't get to say a word. She just let me unload. Then, I felt like I was just reliving everything that I was trying to get through over and over. 

She finally said....you need to tough love that young man. Do it NOW. Seemed like she was just getting pissed at him, and that wasn't helping me. She gave advice. She said, walk away from him and give no more of your energy until he decides to act right. Well, everyone else already walked away from him. I just couldn't do it. 

I went a couple more times. She had no mercy for him for certain...and I felt like she just expected me to detach. 

Me detach? That would be like me becoming another person. I would have had to have shock therapy to remove my memory. I couldn't do what she was trying to get me to do. How does one ever detach from their child. Your children can take you to a place in hell where you have never visited and where you can't climb out of. 

Finally he went in the Army and a drill sergeant knocked the stuffing out of him until he decided to be a man instead of a punk. His life changed in 4 months. He came home a man two years later. 

Therapy felt like I had to keep telling all the stories that were painful over and over causing me more pain. I have to amputate for pain release. I can't do it any other way. The situation has to be dead to me for forward movement. so for me personally....it did not work. I was as heartbroken in therapy as I was irl.  I have yet to find a way one amputates their child. So, I was where I was. 

I have a packed fixed 4th, a Taurus moon and a Cancer rising. I am a mother before I am even myself.  Also, I am sure I was having some sort of Pluto transit because I have been having a bad Pluto transit since I was born! 

When I look back, she did help. Why? Because she was on my side. Whether she felt sorry for me, was paid to be, or was furious at what one person can do to another ....well, I don't know. The time allowed me to give friends and family some rest from my non stop sorrow. I do not think I would ever go again, but who knows? I mean, Pluto kicks my ass. I may have to again. 

I am not saying this to gain brownie points... I will tell you the truth. When I have come to a place where I can't breathe....I call Elsa. I have called her without an appointment crying, screaming....beside myself. That woman has talked me off more than one ledge. And she don't sugar coat it....she sets it straight. One time she told me to calm down....she said, my God, you sound like a murderous nut hahahahahahahahhaha (I was pissed about something lol) (I am not a murderer by the way LOL) I guess my point is, I have learned to do better by trying to understand energy. And, when I did not, she did. She also has helped me to understand another person's energy so I can navigate better. This is what works for me. 

Her words...more than once....Soup, DON'T TAKE THE BAIT!!!! This has changed my life. 

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Thank you, soup.
You really need to find someone you trust. Someone with good judgement.
They don't have to be perfect but they do need to be trying and they do need a certain amount of brains.

Then you go for it.

I think you should be able to tell pretty quickly, if a therapist is benefiting you. And just because the benefit you for some time, doesn't mean it will always be that way.

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Thank you, soup.
You really need to find someone you trust. Someone with good judgement.
They don't have to be perfect but they do need to be trying and they do need a certain amount of brains.

Then you go for it.

I think you should be able to tell pretty quickly, if a therapist is benefiting you. And just because the benefit you for some time, doesn't mean it will always be that way.

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