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Not that I am blaming Mercury Rx for this, but the past few days, I have been trying my hardest not to lose my job and/or get fired. 

 

So basically I started at this place last fall, after several months of being furloughed. I worked there before several years ago, but was headhunted to applying there for a position within the company. After much hesitation on my end, I did. Unbeknownst to me, I was merely hired as a "temp" because a girl was going on maternity leave. At first, I felt that was a bit odd they did not let me know before hand she was going on leave for 3-4 months, I just brushed it off as maybe they didn't choose to let me know. In which I somewhat understand. 

I got about a weeks worth of training before she left and tried to work through it as much as I could. The rest, I basically learned on my own. Mind you, I did not complain, or question why things were happening in the way they were. I did my job, it's what I am getting paid for. On top that, I really needed the money, I dislike to admit it.

 

So.....she goes on leave, and for 7 months, I worked my butt off, basically did 2 jobs for the price of 1, did everything I could to keep it afloat, so much so, I ended getting Covid and missing 2 weeks of work. Even in my absence, I was worried, the tasks were not getting done, they had a backup, but they were not trained with some of the tasks. After two weeks, I returned and hit the ground running with no hesitation. 

 

Flash forward to a few weeks ago, she returns and with an attitude and very little to say to me. Not even as much a "Thank You from me sitting in while I was gone on leave kinda" thing. But I guess we don't do that anymore in this day and age. I went on working as usual, thinking everything there's nothing but tension in the air for no apparent reason whatsoever. On one hand, I am confused, and on the other hand, ticked off because I have no idea where the hostility is coming from. I let the point of contact know what was going on he said he'll call a meeting next week about what's going on. 

 

She can try and say she's stressed out or have a lot on her plate. I am not falling for it. I am going through a lot at home, trying to find a second job to make more money, and keeping other things afloat. I can come in every day and make it hard on her until get fired or leave but I choose not to. It's not how I work and not how I was raised. I am not in the mood to deal with no one's attitude and them bringing their stuff into work, it's not my problem, and not my job to take her plights or whatever her problem is. 

 

I've been NICE ENOUGH and professional enough to stay there knowing I am ready to move on and not leave them hanging knowing how heavy the workload is. Thus, we are in the middle of Mercury Rx and they say leaving a job is a no-no, I am ready to come in Monday morning and put in my two weeks notice and let the chips fall where they may. 

That said, I come to the community and see what I should do. It's an embarrassing shame I have to go through this, knowing we are both grown women and if she has a problem, she should be woman enough to pull me aside and let me know what the problem is. There is enough turmoil going on in this world to the point where people are tired of going through things like this. 

 

Fed up. 

 

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I would wait and don’t take it personally how she’s treating you. I think you might think that doing this will bring you relief but you might be cutting off your nose to spite your face at this point if you take an action based on emotions. You never know- there might be other opportunities within the company and keeping a cool professional head is a good look. 

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@libra-noir 

To be honest and while this is no excuse...with my Cancer 6th house, I secretly want to at least get along with everyone I work with, have a peaceful workplace, or at least have a decent working relationship with. The workplace environments I've been in has not been the best, thus, it makes me sensitive all over, to make point where I get ill. I am slowly beginning to accept the fact I am better off working alone, and/or working for myself. Indeed, It has triggered me, in a way, but as my Super-Scorpio mother has always told me since I was a kid,  "Not everyone is going to like you, you need to understand that". 

 

Update: We met and talked. Seems like we assumed we were both upset. We worked it out. I believe she is just busy and has a lot on her plate. She also thanked me for always being there when things get too busy at work. 

My apologies.

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@citygirl1980 Wow that’s a great outcome! So happy you two communicated and worked it out!

I’m the same as you in that I’m very sensitive to underlying currents, internalize things and detest conflict. I’ve worked for myself in the past and enjoyed it but did not like the financial instability so I totally get where you are coming from. I work now with others and I really don’t like that part but I like having money when I need it so I’m biting the bullet for now because being poor is really unacceptable to me anymore. I’ve been there and it truly is demoralizing, stressful and confining to be financially unstable so it’s a choice I suppose. I still bitch about it though lol and admit to myself that it’s hard. It sounds like it is for you too. And if you were born in 1980 you probably have Saturn in Libra like I do. We have a real focus on the standard of fair and respectful relationships that not everyone shares. When others don’t abide by what we feel to be decorum, it really touches us on a deep level I think but can also make us somewhat rigid in that regard- at least I am guilty of this. 

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It sound like she may be projecting something on you but here's the stickler... right or wrong, people who have just had a baby are in a protected class. This is my opinion, of course. My point is, people would be inclined to be forgiving of her and less so of you.

I also don't understand why you are quitting your job. It sounds like an impulse / anger. I don't know what you do, but I would try to keep a cool head and leave the job in a cool, collected, stable way so this does not continue to be upsetting/

I guess you sound a bit triggered. It's generally best if you can figure out what, if anything, is subconsciously driving you.

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@elsa 

To be honest and while this is no excuse...with my Cancer 6th house, I secretly want to at least get along with everyone I work with, have a peaceful workplace, or at least have a decent working relationship with. The workplace environments I've been in has not been the best, thus, it makes me sensitive all over, to make point where I get ill. I have to accept the fact I am better off working alone, and/or working for myself. Indeed, It has triggered me; but as my Super-Scorpio mother has always told me since I was a kid,  "Not everyone is going to like you, you need to understand that". 

 

Update: We met and talked. Seems like we assumed we were both upset. We worked it out. I believe she is just busy and has a lot on her plate. She also thanked me for always being there when things get too busy at work. 

My apologies.

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@citygirl1980 no need to apologize. This is great!! Smile

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