Venus in Aries will likely show affection through physical actions like play fighting or punching. While ..
Venus in Virgo might show affection through sweet words, love letters etc.
How do you show affection?
What planetary aspects, houses or patterns to/with Venus influence how you show affection?
Where is your Venus?
I have a retrograde Venus in Aquarius. I have no idea how I show affection or how Aquarius shows affection.
My Venus is tightly conjunct my Moon and I have it in the 3rd house (Capricorn rules mine). It also sextiles my 2nd house Mars in Sagittarius, is inconjunct my 8th house Jupiter in Cancer (retrograde), and squares my Scorpio ASC.
I have Venus (r) in Aries in my 3rd house. I show affection with friendly teasing, calling people by pet names and being physically affectionate but never through play fighting or being rough.
I have Venus in Virgo. My husband has plenty of very healthy home-cooked, home-grown food. Friends and loved ones alike know they can come to me for advice regarding their various ailments. Over the years I've acquired an almost encyclopedic knowledge of health problems and can often share the best of the tried-and-tested remedies to cure or alleviate them. I give my special peeps books - my way of saying 'I love you'. I'm very tactile for a Virgo, just a light touch or a hug. I send all my loved ones good 'vibes' every night - Venus in the 12th.
I just realized something. I buy all my loved ones expensive things that they would not buy themselves, thinking they are frivolous! Venus in Capricorn in 5th! ??♀️ Does that mean that I need loved ones to buy me things in return? Nobody ever does!!
My husband's Cancer Venus provides me with financial and emotional security. It's too easy sometimes to take him for granted. I mentioned paying for something recently, and he got insulted and found an overabundance of this particular item for free online, went and got it, and made it a point to showcase it to me. "See??? Stop trying to spend money!" ? He expects me to rely on him in this way and I don't begrudge it. Combines well with his Scorpio Mars.
My Gemini Venus is superficial and ridiculous and makes him laugh. But I also bug him because sometimes I don't take things seriously enough, and when I get fixated on a topic, even if he isn't interested in it, I insist on talking his ear off, calling it "bonding." "I need you to know what's in my mind!!" ? Combines well with my Libra Mars.