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I kissed a guy and I liked it. Then it all went wrong
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Thursday, February 7, 2019 - 3:53 pm
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chart-1.pngSo, I went on a date.

Him: ”Why don\’t you go on and kiss me!?

Me: ”Because I can tell you are hurt” (his girlfriend dumped him 10 days prior. I did not want to be his rebound)

After talking back and forth he leaned in and kissed me.

Me:”Why did you just kiss me?” thinking he was going to say something like I am really sweet or beautiful etc. 

Him:”To see if I dared to do it. And to see if it would be different from kissing Natasja”

So now I am upset! I let him know he should kiss me for Me! Now, he won’t text me back! I really like this guy! Help!!

Is Venus in Aries always about the challenge? Kissing before you are ready? How about that Sun-Pluto opposition? Pushy much? Do you know guys with Venus in Aries and Sun opposition Pluto? What are they like?

Please note I do not know his birthtime. 

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Friday, February 8, 2019 - 5:15 am
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I’m sorry but it sounds as if he is nowhere near clear to start a new relationship. Sorry!

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Friday, February 8, 2019 - 8:23 am
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You said it correctly : “he should kiss me for Me!”, and if he’s not texting you back, then there’s a (not good) reason.

No wonder you are upset.

Yeah, just dump this guy. Move on to someone more interested in you.

And I’m not even taliking about astrology!

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Eek, Id be so turned off by that. Hes not texting you back? Oh man, Id definitely move on. Definitely. Theres nothing about this that sounds fulfilling. 

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Saturday, February 9, 2019 - 3:26 am
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He did text me to thank me for a wonderful evening. Then I texted him to tell him I was sad.

He asked why. I wrote: ‘’You should kiss me for Me’’.

He wrote he was sorry.

I said I would like to see him again but that I can’t be his rebound. Then he did not texted me again.

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It doesnt sound like hes emotionally available. Why the attraction to a man who cant reciprocate? Id look inside you for that answer. Whats going on with you in this equation? Thats what you have immediate access to. I know its tempting to try to get into the other persons head, but you abandon yourself when you do that, in my experience. Ive done it enough to know that I dont need to understand anyone else, but its vitally important that I understand myself. 

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That Chiron/Venus lineup in Aries stood out for me. He is definitely wrapped up in his own relationship pain. I’m sorry.

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Saturday, February 9, 2019 - 3:28 am
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I noticed it too. Could you please elaborate a bit more on the Venus-Chiron conjunction?

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I guess I was thinking Venus (relationship) pain (Chiron). Venus in Aries likes to chase, but with Chiron is involved, it’s like the past pain is always there and messes up relationships in the present. (Maybe I’m wrong.)

It appears that no one else sees the astrology as relevant in this case, so I hope my bringing it up wasn’t a mistake. 

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I don’t think any of the astrology matters here.

We have a person who has just stepped out of (been ejected from) a relationship.

Nobody is ready to start dating again within 10 days.

And you don’t seem ready yourself. On one hand you say you don’t want to be his rebound, and on the other, you want him to kiss you.

I think this is a disaster in the making if it does go ahead.

He is doing the right thing by not texting back and I hope for both your sakes he continues to stay away. He has work to do, solo.

Sounds like you might be better served by examining why you are doing what you are doing. That would be a whole other set of astrological questions.

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Monday, February 11, 2019 - 9:57 am
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I have Chiron square Sun, Mercury, Venus and Mars, so if there’s anybody wounded between the two of us, that’s gonna be me.

Furthermore: my question to any of you peeps out here is there anybody alive today, anybody astrologically inclined on this forum, who would like to answer above asked astrological questions with an astrological answer?

‘’Is Venus in Aries always about the challenge? Kissing before you are ready? How about that Sun-Pluto opposition? Pushy much? Do you know guys with Venus in Aries and Sun opposition Pluto? What are they like?’’

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Okay, forgive me, but I’m going to sound a bit blunt here.

First off, you posted HIS chart, not yours. I was under the assumption that we were analyzing HIS chart, and I happened to mentioned the first thing that jumped out at me. I don’t know your chart. Maybe you have posted somewhere on the boards. I don’t know.

Second, I AT LEAST attempted to give an astrological answer, even if it was short and incomplete. I’m not a professional astrologer. No one else here even attempted to touch the astrology of this, but I suppose they had very good reason not to look at the chart. 

Third, I didn’t realize we were being expected to answer every question you asked in the first post. I kind of tried to answer the first one but I should have mentioned that.

As far as experience with the aspects you asked about, I will say this: I dated a Venus in Aries once. No Pluto/Sun aspect. We didn’t hit it off, though he was a nice guy. He seemed more interested in himself than me, and he was an ex-cop (he LOVED dinging people for breaking the law–it was clear to me he missed the adrenaline rush). If a Venus in Aries isn’t that into you, they don’t pursue you. They don’t call, they don’t text. Just silence. He had Libra, so he’d text once in a blue moon–to invite me to his singles group at church. Yeah, okay. confused

Pluto opposite Sun–I have no idea. I think with harsh Pluto/Sun aspects, the person either tries to be in control all the time, or attracts controlling types.

Hope this helps. 

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Tuesday, February 19, 2019 - 10:52 am
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Thank you for your insight in the Venus in Aries male, NotMyCircus

He did text me back. The break-up is very painful and he needs time to process. That’s natural. 

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