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fishvirgin88
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Well, have you? Forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things, so I'm expecting an extremely low percentage here! laugh

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I have. But I guess I didn't think it was as heinous as they did.

I have definitely reconnected with people who did me wrong in the past, but I would not say it's usual.

I think it's love that does it. If you've ever really loved someone, it's easy to forgive them and hard not to, if they come to you with a true apology (which is exceedingly rare).

Great question!

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My sister and I reconciled with our birth dad a few years ago. When we were little, he failed to pay full child support--just couldn't afford it--and he disappeared after Mom remarried.

I had to transcend all this to open my heart to him. But we knew there was no time to dwell on the past. His health was not great, and building a new relationship was priority--he didn't have much time left.

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Elsa said
I have. But I guess I didn't think it was as heinous as they did.
I have definitely reconnected with people who did me wrong in the past, but I would not say it's usual.
I think it's love that does it. If you've ever really loved someone, it's easy to forgive them and hard not to, if they come to you with a true apology (which is exceedingly rare).
Great question!

Interesting. 

I've had the converse happen to me which is the other side of the story. I've had misunderstandings with people who didn't reconcile with me! They probably didn't like me in the first place. 

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blue_rose said
My sister and I reconciled with our birth dad a few years ago. When we were little, he failed to pay full child support--just couldn't afford it--and he disappeared after Mom remarried.

I had to transcend all this to open my heart to him. But we knew there was no time to dwell on the past. His health was not great, and building a new relationship was priority--he didn't have much time left.

 

That's beautiful. Although I'm sure it wasn't as easy/poetic as it sounds! 

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Yes. Maybe not a true reconciliation, in that while I would consider us friends still, we're not as tight as we once were.

My mom, definitely. She was our abuser growing up and there were times I would have happily killed her ass. *nods* After one particular incident when I was an "adult" (18), I quit speaking to her for almost a year. Now we live together and actually enjoy one another's company. :)

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