I read somewhere that the 8th house shows how we deal with trauma. This makes sense to me because i have the 8th in pisces with the sun and moon conj in this house and when I was traumatized by my parents divorce as a child, , I constantly went into this dream world where I would dream about all being right again, where love was huge and we were all happy (i have neptune in sag), they would be married again, basically my version of an ideal life.
All my life the dream has not changed much at all. The only difference now is its not about my parents getting back together but about myself having that kind of ideal life/love/marriage.....
I find myself escaping with this ideal dream that seems so all consuming. It feels like I can't escape it and it's something I must do in my life. In a way its an obsession I can't let go of because it feels so important to my destiny somehow. Or my soul. Like my soul is aching to get this back, to believe it can happen, and then to act on faith.
Crazy and TMI, But anyway,
Do you think the 8th house has to do with trauma and do you think it shows how we deal with it?
I have Neptune in the 5th conj SN square my Sun and Moon in the 8th.
Btw, it is really hard to put my experience of the 8th into words. I can't convey the depth of it completely but I think the jist of what I want to say about my experience is there. The wording is not exactly right though. It's hard to convey.
You know I think the wording of what i wrote about my 8th is wrong in so many ways but when i think about the word "ideal" and how we think of that word as something unattainable, that is not my problem at all. My problem is it is attainable, it has been tangible and real in my life, and it can be again but I dont let it. Which is a whole other story.
Ugh see nevermind.
Thanks Scribe! I didn't know feng shui had all those different sectors. I'm gonna check it out.
Ugh, in my original post I sound so entitled- who says that it's their destiny to realize a love ideal?. Lol. See, it sounds like i am full of myself. I'm not really, i just can't explain it correctly at all. For the life of me. I don't know why I try, because no one will understand it, like ever. It is pathetic really, just miserable. To feel something on a soul level you have to repress and hide and feel isolated for. A dirty shame.
I don’t think you sound entitled at all, la sirena. I can hear and feel the real desire and need to find ideal love. I think we all feel similar in our own ways, with whatever we have defined as ideal love. The only thing I might say is that you sound like you are searching still. I think that with Pisces, you have to also acknowledge that the person you love or idealize is also human and can have flaws and to be realistic about that.
I have an empty 8H in Aries but I do have Pisces in my 7H, so I’m probably better speaking from that perspective.
The 8th house is ruled by Pluto and deals with those areas of life that can be traumatic. I definitely think a person's 8th house can indicate how they handle them. I've been blessed with the ability to help others cope with their traumas. My 8th house has my sun, mercury, Jupiter and Chiron. Jupiter and Chiron are in conjunction within 1 degree.