12th house - I almost went to a prison
So my husband and I are in the UK and we are separating, we have a son who is 6.5. About a month ago, he told me that I would be the primary carer and since I have been unhappy living in the UK he would let me make the choice of whether I wanted to be in the UK or go to my home country. Then without informing me, he changed his mind and hid the passport of my son. When I found out, I tried to avoid seeing him for the evening as I knew I would flip out. I went to a friend and shared a bottle of wine and came home at 2 am, hoping he would be asleep, but he wasn't and I ended up hurling insults at him as I was really upset and frustrated and had tried my best to avoid the situation. In the middle of my ranting, I realised that he was so quiet and that he was recording me, I tried to grab the ipad from him and his t-shirt got torn in the kerfuffle, he called the police on me and claimed that I assaulted him without telling them any of the background. I spent a day in the lock-up to finally be interviewed and when a very wise nearly 60 year old woman interviewed me, she realised that I was a victim of coercive control (financial and due to my visa status dependant on him - he has all the money, i use a card that is on his name, he changes bank account access passwords every time we have an argument, he also has been threatening me with divorce for the last 4 years, if i divorce him i lose my right to be here and access to my british national son). Due to the police here wearing body scanner cameras they also established that I was not drunk. They gave me a total clean chit and I returned home after spending a day in lock-up, next day since they suspected the crime of coercive control, the same lady came to take a statement from me as a victim but she also informed me that if the allegations against me were proven, I would have been deported! Without even managing to say goodbye to my son. 12th house is associated with prisons and isolation, I am super scared as I came very close to all that. Not sure what the point of this post is but just wanted to put it out here. x
Oh man. Jeez, that woman was an angel.
Thanks for posting this. No telling who might be spared.
I thank God for the help you and your son received. What a nightmare! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers ((((flaneurita)))).
((Flaneurita)) I was in a similar situation (kinda). I was almost charged with kidnapping after fleeing from my ex when he told me multiple times he was going to kill me. The system can be fair (how often is actually debatable) or it can be used to abuse unfortunately. I had some guardian angels but it was rough too. I suggest making as clean a break as possible. I’m here rooting for you and your child.