My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year and a half. We dated for a while in high school, then went our separate ways. The summer after we graduated, we rekindled our love and we’ve been doing great ever since.
But today we spent about six hours crying and talking about our relationship. We both feel that we are in a routine more than anything, and he doesn’t know if he still loves me. He says he doesn’t know why he feels this way all of a sudden.
He thought that maybe for now, we should try and spend more time on our dwindling social lives… and take things from there. But we are both full-time college students, working part-time jobs with conflicting schedules.
I love him with all my heart. And although it kills me to think that there might not be an “us” anymore. I want him to be happy, and I know we will remain friends no matter what. We are both willing to do what it takes to make this work.
How do I help him find his love for me again?
I understand that you don’t want to lose him, and that you’re enormously invested.
I am sorry, but I am not sure I can help. You are not going to be able to keep a relationship together when it wants to come apart. It’s like a plane in the sky that runs out of fuel. There is no way to keep it in the air. The best you can do is try to land with some grace.
So I am not sure you can help him do anything. All you can do is be yourself. And understand that if your relationship is meant to move forward, it will. And nothing will stop it. On the other hand, if it destined to die… then this will happen and nothing will stop that either.
If you do lose this man, it will hurt. It already hurts, doesn’t it? But you have Venus conjunct Pluto in Scorpio and I promise you this: if this relationship burns to the ground, you will evenutally be back up from the ashes, stronger and more powerful than ever.
Good luck and much love.