What if you’re single and you’ve had a string of lousy and/or very short-lived relationships over the course of several years. You’ve had some involvements or even a lot of involvements but none of the people you’ve mixed it up with was very good for you so you’re getting nowhere.
But then someone comes along with all the qualities you thought you wanted. These are the same qualities people tell you that you’re supposed to want and on top of that they are inordinately interested you. They want you badly! But for some reason, in spite of their appreciation of you and in spite of the fact they can “see” you and acknowledge you where others have not, you’re not interested. If you’re a thoughtful person you now have to question yourself: Why do I want the person who is no good for me over the person who is good for me? Do I like to be treated poorly?
And if you do not want this person who treats you so well ( the guy on the white horse) does this mean nothing and no one will ever satisfy? Hmm…
Let’s say you opt to pass on this person. What do you do for an encore? Go find a jerk?
If you do go find a jerk, what does that mean? That you are doomed to dating jerks and this is all you’ll ever do?
Or what if you don’t pass on the nice guy? What if you marry them? Everyone thinks you should. But then you’re married and everywhere you go, other people turn your head.
Does this other person simply lack charisma or does your lack of attraction have to do with you?
These are the hard questions facing one of my friends at the moment.
Have you ever had to take a hard cold look at your love nature? What did you learn and where is your Venus?
pictured – Sleeping Venus, c. 1510, Giorgione b. 1477, Castelfranco, d. 1510, Venezia, Oil on canvas