I’ve been with this man for eight months now. We were really good friends in high school and got together after we each got divorced. I adore him. I know he cares for me, but he’s not as quick to commit as I am. He’s taught me SO much about love and patience that I feel kind of guilty that I have this issue.
Before we got together, he made plans for a week-long post-Christmas vacation, taking his child, his mother, and his friend’s family. That same week, I will be alone without my kids. I’m going to be so lonely if they go without me, but there’s no way I’d insinuate myself into an already planned trip.
I have this deep faith that we’re going to be together from here out. But what do I do – do I bring it up? I don’t know if I can do that and not have him think I’m being manipulative.
I brought up the possibility of taking my own trip with a friend at that time and he seemed a bit surprised. Now I’m confused.
Trying not to pout,
Okay, wait a minute. You have deep faith you’re going to be with this man forever. But you’re worried about a week-long trip in December… and it’s still June.
I really don’t think your man is going to abandon you – leave alone on Christmas, preferring the company of his MOM and his pal. He obviously planned the trip eons ago and if he were prone to taking off and leaving you on the side of the road, you’d know it by now.
I looked at the astrology and I agree with you. Your man is cautious, with his Venus tied up with Saturn. Basically he’s afraid in relationships, and people who are afraid in love do not plan trips with their lover six-months out. They lack faith!
And this is why he’s met you. A Pisces dreamer. Hitchhiking on your faith, he can learn that sometimes things do work out. In fact they work out beautifully. They work themselves out if you let them and this is what I suggest you do.
Nothing. When you’re still around in September or so, he’ll get you a ticket. You’re going on the trip. Wanna bet?
Send me a postcard.