My husband is still shaken and not entirely sure what to say to a “girl” so has opted to email her first which makes sense to me. You call someone these days and no idea where they might be when they pick up the phone.
This will also give my husband a chance to compose and he’d just feel better talking to her if he takes this interim step. He knows the girl of course, but hasn’t seen her since she was 6 years old and seeing pictures of her grown makes him very aware his friend did not get to see his daughter grow up which is horribly sad no matter how you turn it. I just makes you feel bad to think about it.
In whatever case, he’s also having me scan pictures he has so he can send them with the mail and I just want to say that while we’re getting through this, it is intensely emotional.
This grand cross / the lunar eclipse is all about doing the right thing even if it is painful and so we are. We play our best game, you just wonder sometimes, about the cards you wind up holding and no matter what you do it never seems like it is enough.