The Astrology of Life’s Unhappiest Year

unhappiest yearHappiness throughout life is generally seen as an inverted bell curve. We start out relatively happy as children, then happiness steadily declines until mid-life, after which it begins inching back up. By the time we’re in our 70’s, we’re back to roughly the same degree of happiness as we experienced as children. And the age at the very bottom of that curve? 47.2.

This is interesting to me, because that is around the age that we finish up our mid-life transits. These are transits that happen to everyone between the ages of roughly 36-47. These transits are hard, and they can have the effect of making us really question our whole lives.

These transits occur at different ages and in a different order depending on your generation, but here are the highlights:

· Pluto square Pluto: Thought you left the past behind you? Think again. With this transit, much of the old trauma that we’ve experienced and worked through comes rushing back to the surface. We are forced to reckon with the ways that our trauma has impacted our lives, and we decide whether we’re okay with that or whether we need to do more psychological work. This is also a time when we confront some of our limitations. We recognize that we don’t have the power to affect all the change we’d like to see, and that there are far greater powers that hold us back. We realize how small we really are.

· Uranus opposite Uranus: This is the classic mid-life crisis aspect. We see all the ways we’ve stagnated and we’re driven to shake things up. This transit can be highly disruptive to the stable, steady life we may have built, but it can also be tons of fun. We finally have the resources to do the fun things we dreamed about during our first Uranus square around age 21. In your 20s, we may not be able to afford the fancy sports car, but that might be different in our 40s. This time can feel like the last call of our youth. We’re not old yet, but we will be soon, so it’s time to play while we can!

· Neptune square Neptune: This is a time when we look at the big dreams we’ve carried throughout our lives and realize that they may never come to fruition. Doors have closed, and certain fantasies must be relinquished if we’re to move forward. We look around us and see what we’ve made of our lives, and we’re often disappointed. We are often halfway through our careers, looking ahead at another 20-ish years and wondering how we’ll make it through. We say, “Oh. So this is what life turned out to be.” But we can also begin dreaming new dreams that are more in line with our current reality.

After all that upheaval, confusion, pain, and the reevaluating it requires, it’s no wonder we’re a little bummed out. Life is a wild ride, sometimes exhilarating, but often disappointing. But there are important things to remember! No one is on Plan A. Most of us aren’t even on Plan B, C, or D. It’s okay to change course. And the beauty of these transits is that we are given the opportunity to assess where we are and figure out where we want to go from here. And when all these transits have finished, statistically speaking, there’s nowhere to go but up!

Are you entering your mid-life transits? How do you feel about it? And for veterans who have already gone through these transits, how did you fare?

Consult with Midara.



The Astrology of Life’s Unhappiest Year — 19 Comments

  1. Beautiful, no worries; was thinking
    The other day about the expression
    “ down hill”pushing up can be hard hard,think of the roller coaster????Now,think about the little Geico pig going “Weeeee “ all the way down
    yippee Skippe!!!!getting older doesn’t
    Hurt ,it’s the pushing up,whatever
    Point you are at, enjoy the damn ride
    You paid for the ticket

    • Hahaha, Sara. I hear you. I’m riding the Z train at 73 and don’t even know how many plans that makes. What’s surprising is there are no rules that say you can’t just start anew even at the end of ze alphabet. There’s a scrabble game I keep under my bed. It’s a Hawaiian alphabet game. Called “Hulo” and translates “Hurray.”

  2. Ha ha, divorced My first husband at 42. After the pluto square pluto transit, the other 2 was a piece of cake, but I do relate to them. It was a very difficult 3 years of being single, Having my daughter and new born grandson living with me and dealing with my sons early teen years. At 49 I had a little bit of a mid life crisis not satisfied with what I had done with my life. I guess I will be looking forward to what 70 brings in 5 years.

  3. Tr Saturn is currently squaring my natal Sun-Pluto opposition (1st/7th respectively). Tr Pluto is trine/sextile my natal mars/saturn opposition, also 1st/7th. Considering that I’m still slowly emerging from the transits I had since later 2014/early 2015, I hope I’m not too optimistic when starting no outer transit will get me any lower spiritually than where I have been… and yet, I might be wrong! ?

  4. I’m 43 and totally living some of my childhood dreams. I might have too much freedom, but it’s fun. I also have some major medical baggage. Maybe it evens out?

  5. If you’re a planner and have been following the ‘planned’ or traditional way, I guess these transits will be the ‘wreak havoc in your life’ transits.

    For me, it has been some of the 10 roughest years, ever since Pluto began traveling my 12th house, and on hi s way squaring my Libra Planets, by which includes both my Moon, Saturn and himself in the 8th house. Tough love, tough life…. Oh yes.
    I have been in therapy for the past 2 years + all the other years together have put me in therapy on/off.

    I was finally diagnosed correctly and psychological assesed and can now see how my diagnosis has f*cked things and plans in my life up. The next big thing is Pluto square himself. I guess that will be something about my job/professional area… or some nasty health condition.
    The connection to my family is pretty much gone by now, due to their misjudgement (cue – diagnosis), and I am learning to deal with it.

    It’s a long road towards acceptance and how the way I have been conducting my life so far and my diagnosis are responsible for a lot of my feelings and health condition now. Pluto is 3 degrees from himself before he will enter my 1st house in 2024-25.

    I feel like I am already feeling the effects of Neptune square himself, even if there’s some good years yet. In the meantime I have my Chiron conjunction to look forward to as well, right on the degree of Algol.

    After these transits I expect my life will be very different. Uranus opposite Uranus will also be a joker, but at least a fun one – natal Uranus sextiles my Ascendant….

  6. A great post, Midara, as always thought-provoking. I’m 52 now and have spent the last two and a half years rebuilding, from scratch, it’s great and true to me (and thanks to a still active uranus trine natal sun transit for the great journey.) I can honestly agree with what you said. The worst peak for me was between ages 46 and 49, along with the usual mid-life transits, Pluto was conjunct my natal mercury in 8th house square natal moon in aries 12th house (I’m a gemini ascendant, this was scary!!!) I am writing this to say hold on and make it through to your fifties. I nearly lost my mind when Pluto was conjunct my natal mercury. If not for my caring and tolerant husband and eldest son I could well be in a mental institution now. I really feel for people who are suffering mentally, it’s a scary place to be at and one really needs non-judgemental people who care selflessly to get you through the terrain. Sadly not always around, I have been lucky and know so. It’s truly possible to get through the tough transits, they do pass and lead you to a better and thoroughly happy place, stronger and more suitably productive for the ordeal. A great and thoughtful subject Midara, thanks so much for your posts.

  7. The toughest aspect was the pluto transit through sag (it really began being tough at the last gew degrees of scorpio) and at 5 degrees os sag it really kicked in. I have natal pluto at mid virgo.

    Uranus/Neptune going throgh Aquarius was tough – deep depression which I slowly slipped into and only really mostly recovered when those two planets left Aquarius.

    In the words of Bernard summer of new order – just wait until tommorrow, thats what they all say just before they fall apart.

    Im now in my mid fifties, does not feel any easier to myself – indeed in feels more difficult on the iner level.

  8. it’s a heck of a lot better than my saturn return! or my first uranus or saturn squares. perspective really helps. ask me in a couple years once i’ve finished though lol…

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