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Hot Topics: Problems, Paralysis, Libra, Predictions, Internet, Narcissists, Limerence, Shocking, Power, Jupiter& Saturn — 2 Comments

  1. I have been listening to a podcast by a psychologist who often talks about narcissists. He mentioned that narcissistic parents can cause borderline in children and also talks a lot about narcissistic supply.

    I’m thinking about self soothing today. Craving to talk about kt. This concept of teaching children to somehow calm themselves down when they are in a negative space like if they’ve fallen down. What a strange concept I wonder if it’s real. I don’t know if I’m good at it. I know I have learned to calm myself down a bit with music and podcasts.. but without them it’s harder and I need to vent to people. My friend asked me if there’s a better (i.e. more mature or less damaging) way to relieve bad emotions or reactions to negative things than to vent to someone, like to write or blog about it. During Saturn in Libra I tried to therapize myself through writing but it didn’t work. I needed to be talked down or else I spiral. It’s very hard not to share. And I resent having to hide it :/

    Anyway, I wonder what a child self soothing looks like. What correct self soothing is. Or if it’s a psychology concept that will be outmoded. Some people think feel your feelings and think your thoughts, but one thing I’ve experienced to be helpful is naming the feeling. I don’t know any Neptune heavy people who that works on. I’m beginning to realize why. Some things are too painful to name all the time, some emotions go better with music. Some depression is unproductive to focus on without starting a spiral of self hatred. Some people are slimy fish who can’t be caught.

    • How can you tell if someone is bad at self soothing? Does being able to talk about your emotions mean you’re good at dealing with them? I’m beginning to doubt that venting is a mature way of handling or controling emotions. Everyone I know would be like duh I bet. But I still feel more emotionally adept than people who hide their feelings or eat them or stuff them. Not to say I don’t do that a lot too now.

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