Hi Elsa,
I’m having guy problems. There’s this one guy who’s really in to me. I ended it with him kind of abruptly last year because I didn’t have feelings for him, and to have stayed with him would’ve been a lie. He was a great person to talk to, and I admired his drive and ambition – and we have a good intellectual rapport. But I just didn’t have that spark, you know?!
Well I’ve been keeping in touch with him, and he’s still quite taken with me! It’s been a year now. He’s kind, faithful, and all the qualities that any girl would love in a guy. It’s like he wants to know everything about me, and I have trouble letting anyone in. He also wants me to be with him, and only him. I don’t think I’m even capable of being tied down!
Should I try and make it work out between us and trust him or just continue to be friends with him? He’s begging me to take him back. What should I do?
Girl With A Problem
Dear Girl,
You are asking me if you should sacrifice yourself and what do you think I’m going to say? Hmm.
How’s this?
Dear Girl, you are sixteen years old. How much time do you think you have anyway? The last thing you should ever do is pay attention to your feelings since they are irrelevant and always will beeee…
Well? What do you think? Does that make any sense to you?
Look. It’s nice the nice boy likes you but you are not available. Because here is a fact: it is very hard to “make it work” when you are head over heels in lovesick love (and you don’t have to take my word for it, just look around). You don’t have a hope in hell when you’re ambivalent or lukewarm, and this is especially true for you!
You are an Aquarian. Aquarius opposes Leo, and Leo is an actor. Do you want to act as if you are in love with this guy? Does that sound like a good life? I think that would be ludicrous and I bet you agree. So here’s the deal.
Saturn is in Leo, opposing (impacting) Aquarius. Saturn is about boundaries. It is about drawing lines between you and other people and enforcing them. And this is what I believe this situation is about for you.
You are asking, “Should I cave?”
No. Hold out for something / someone who gives you a zing.
Good luck.
Thanks for the advice Elsa. It had me laughing out loud.
“Dear Girl, you are sixteen years old. How much time do you think you have anyway? The last thing you should ever do is pay attention to your feelings since they are irrelevant and always will beeee…”
Haha! Yeah definetly not caving in =). Thanks again!