I have recently gotten out of a 31 year marriage that was hell. I found an old boyfriend (he was 13 and I was 15) and have been seeing him once a week for about 6 weeks now. We were crazy about each other in 1970 and now I feel like we may have a chance at a serious relationship.
He just started holding my hand about 2 weeks ago and he does kiss me a bit. No extreme kissing or anything. He is so sweet to me and looks at me with love, respect, and passion all rolled into one. Last night I spent the night at his house (I live 45 minutes away) and we slept in the same bed. The thing is he never tried to do anything with me. He cuddled me all night long. He has told me that he wants to take things slow and that he wants to make sure we are both 100% sure this is what we want.
He is a Pisces man and he has been divorced for 13 years. We never had sex when we were teenagers so when we do have sex, I want it to be absolutely great. Is this slow moving behavior normal for a Pisces? Should I just sit back and enjoy his attention and let him take the lead, or should I try and seduce him? I can see myself being with this man for a long time. What do you think???
The first thing that occurs to me is he may have a problem getting an erection. If this is the case, there are drugs on the market to remedy the problem in most cases, but you’ll have to find out if this in fact what is going on. And you should probably do this as gently as possible as he seems somewhat fragile.
Now unfortunately, you have indications of a thwarted or reduced sex life in your chart which does not mean you are destined to be bereft of sex… but does make me think you might fare better if you lower your expectations. Because you do seem to care for this man (and he for you) and if he has some kind of problem, your high hopes have probably got him scared to death. So here’s my advice:
Yes of course continue to see him, and yes or course attempt to seduce him… but go very easy, giving him lots of time to tell you what his problem is.