Hi Elsa Elsa,
I’m pulling my damn hair out. I’m in a relationship with a Gemini and I’m a freakin’ Cancer. Ugh. I hate being a Cancer in this relationship!
I don’t know how to argue with her. She coolly spits out her venom while I lose it and flail my arms. She insults and lashes out every one of her fears on me. She is so damn stubborn, jealous, selfish and controlling.
She is scared of love and life and SELFISHLY proclaims her disappointments and my shortcomings. I work two jobs trying to save money to move back closer to her but she doesn’t see this! She thinks I am just “broke” all the time. Uhhh it costs money to save money. Hello?
But I forget. How silly am I? She needs to be spoiled and taken on lavish outings. And I’m supposed to know this already, even when she says she likes supporting my money saving. SHE DOESN’T.
She thinks my vague and indirect Cancer ways are equivalent to lying. Her possessive, jealous rages are insane and scary! They’re enough to cause an ulcer. I think I have one.
But… I am a Cancer. My claws are embedded deep and it’s tough to let go. My cancer tears are a deep well of worry.
How do I show a Gemini my heart and earn her trust?? There’s gotta be a way to make this work!??? What is the solution here!? Any advice????
Frantic and Fretting Cancer
Yikes, man. You’ve got your hands full, don’t you? And apparently you like it. And I am not sure what I can tell you besides this is this gal’s nature. And yours.
By that I mean, she has Venus and Mars in Aries, so she is going to want to fight. She is not interested in wimps. And you may be a Cancer, but you have an Aries Moon, did you know? So what looks like “home” to you is… her! So sorry, hon.
And her Gemini Sun? Well you have Venus in Gemini. Isn’t that funny? So who do you love? This flighty chick!
Further, she’s a Virgo rising and what do you have in Virgo? One, two, three, four planets!! Ha ha ha ha!
And you are a Sagittarius rising and she has Sagittarius Moon and I guess you’re getting the picture here. Obviously there is a real affinity between you two. Some of these connections are nothing less than superb. However, the pathology is flying in both directions and it’s thick. It’s thick enough you’ll most likely need a referee (a therapist) if you want to make it long term. And while that is outside the scope of this blog, I can offer this quick diagnosis.
She has Jupiter conjunct her Sun and thinks she know the TRUTH. She also has a Sadge Moon and thinks she can sense the TRUTH. However, Gemini is Gemini (lies all the time) and Neptune is conjunct her Moon, a combination that is known to be evasive. And she may very well be projecting the lying thing, since this is what people with oppositions in their charts do! Live one side and project the other that is.
And you? Well you have a stellium in Virgo and you want to FIX everything. Including and especially this gal. And let me tell you something. Gemini doesn’t want to be fixed. It’s not interesting to them, okay? And if you bore a Gemini and you’re history.
Sadge likes being fixed even less if this is possible! Because Sadge is inflated, okay? They think they are GREAT to begin with…. so you see the problems here. And obviously they will persist unless both of you get your asses in gear.