When my current boyfriend and I started a relationship, we kept it hidden for almost 3 years because we worked together. By "we", mostly it goes "he". I was okay to keep it for ourselves for a while, in the beginning, but after 6 months, I didn't actually care who will know. My parents met at work, worked together, and got married, it's not the best environment for a couple, work is work, but anything can be overcome if you are sure of what you are, and what you have. But my boyfriend always found some reason why we should stay hidden, tho everyone knew that we are together. Actually, after a while, it seems stupid that we hide like kids, and actually, we are late 30's. But I played the game and deep down inside I felt just like you, "other life". I know this is not a topic, but, the feeling is the same. I also couldn't post anything, so others wouldn't see that we went on a holiday together, or I could even say that we went on a trip together, I had to hide, tho I didn't want it, I felt stupid. So at work, we were "just colleagues", and outside of it, a couple. This is not about significant others' baby mamas, it's about being hidden. And he is not the only one who kept me hidden, I had other cases too. While the reasons could be completely realistic, I've learned that there is always something they aren't telling us everything. You are right to be suspicious. I believe he's a good person, but something is hidden, there is something he's not telling you.
Something feels off recently.
I overheard him tell a coworker that She doesnt talk to him, yet they text all the time which doesnt add up.
He used to be laying in bed with me and would reply to her right in front of me no big deal, always seemed to be about the kid
But recently it seems as if he doesnt reply to her or open the messages in front of me.
I will see a text pop up from her while we are laying on our phones he wont open it, but as soon as i go to the bathroom i come out and see him texting and by time i get over to him hes is "back to scrolling on fb"
Just is not sitting right with me. And it seems they text alot... he has another baby mama and they dont talk nearly that much. A text or call here and there thats it.
But it seems this one is always messaging him.
Now i do understand how he wants to keep things smooth with her and he will communicate an be friendly. But, him being secretive over the last couple weeks or atleast thats what it feel slike.
I have told myself to brush it off, no biggie. And i also have a past of being cheated on so i didnt want to fall into toxic thoughts as i trust my bf.
But my intuition is telling me other wise, his body language.
Now i know he is not cheating.... he is with me all the time and when he has the kids i am not around but, i have stopped by to drop stuff off before and its just him and the kids.
I dont know what it is to be secretive about but its slowly festering inside of me to the point where if i see her message him and him not open it in front of me i have this boiling flame inside of me.
I have had feelings similar to this, started off small and little things i blew off and it turned out to be something i was right.
I dont know weather to confront him, or wait and pay attention... i do not want to come off as the crazy insecure gf but i know something is off...
"I don't want to come off". This is a big red flag in my opinion. If this is a worry, you are not really in an trusting, intimate relationship with this man. You are on the defense--trying to "appear as" to maneuver things to handle him and make things the way you want them. You are over 3 years into this thing and you feel like there is a commitment here, yet it seems you walk around on eggshells all the time. That can't be fun at all. Three years is a lot of time in a woman's life, if you plan on having a family of your own. I think you are correct in re-assessing this relationship.
In my experience with Scorpios, they are honest if you ask them. My SO is Scorpio. Whenever I had a doubt in my mind I asked him directly about it. Maybe in the very beginning, my directness surprised him, but I told him I want to clarify and close the topic, not let it boil in my mind. And believe me there were someeee questions... not at all comfortable from my side!
I noticed from the very beginning he's not sugar coating anything, very honest in his responses even if they were sometimes not what I liked to hear.
I have always preferred to clarify whatever doubts I had with him directly. He was the only one who could give me the real reason, answer, and truth. Also, I didn't want to let thoughts eat my mind (I have a very mercurial chart, I know this... and where it leads...). So, whatever the doubt I ask for answers & clarity from him directly.
Check in as a woman, and a Scorpio.
Number one. We never dis the other woman. Ever. Who knows wtf she was putting up with. I want to hear what she has to say. I do not sympathize with a man that swears she did... whatever.
Number two. RUN!!!!!!!! Do not even consider marrying this dude.. with the two baby mommas and the need to hide one of them. I have 5 planets in Scorpio. I am one through and through. If I am hiding something, there is a reason for it and it's never in that person's favor.
Can't discuss you on Facebook? Can't show you as 'the one' on Facebook. When I divorced my ex, I didn't gaf what he thought of who I was seeing. You can't keep a mother or father from seeing their kid.
You won't like this, and it is not the popular answer. He is still sleeping with her. Scorpio DL sleeps with their exes ....
RUN...
Are you a Leo? NO.
Take it from someone who was on and off with a Leo for years. 15.
There are millions of men out there that don't have all those suitcases attached to them...
Just telling you this as a woman with heavy Scorpio placements and as a person who has decades of experience with failed relationships and owning my part in them.... RUN!
So, technically, she can’t stop him from letting you around the kids. Not if they have some kind of custody arrangement from the court. If they don’t, maybe that’s the next step.