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Why i haven't still made my first relationship?

Sijune
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astro 2gw why i still haven t made my first rel.70008
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Sijune
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Hello,34 yo and still no girlfriend or relationship has come to me,another year wasted,what you think?

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leobra1221
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@sijune

You say : "No girlfriend or relationship has come to me"

Do you expect it to just happen, or fall into your lap?
Have you made efforts? Have you gone after someone you see potential in?

 

You have to work for the good things in life!

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optimistic_cynic
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@leobra1221 agree with this 100% I have a 31 y/o male friend who has never had a relationship because he won’t ask anyone out / make an effort. My advice to op: take a chance, ask someone out, go on a dating app, go to a bar for karaoke night. Put yourself out there and tell someone if you like them! Reckless abandon.

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leobra1221
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@optimistic_cynic 

Yes! Life is too short not to make opportunities or go after things...

Facing these fears will only empower you! 

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Sijune
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@leobra1221 

 

I'm a person with avoidant personality disorder,this is an obstacle to be social.So my efforts often end before even start. Formal Smile  

People with avoidant personality disorder have chronic feelings of inadequacy and are highly sensitive to being negatively judged by others. Though they would like to interact with others, they tend to avoid social interaction due to the intense fear of being rejected by others.

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Estella
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@sijune Mutable angles, Sun in Virgo square Neptune on 5th cusp, Merc in Libra in 2nd. I have given my time to answer your SR Q 3 times now.

Simply put: you are too much in your head. You expect things to happen to you. This could be for any number of reasons. Obviously things don’t just happen - in my experience relationships don’t just jump out at you. You must go after the things you want and since you have Moon in Aries conjunct NN in 8th, and Venus conjunct Pluto, I guess a fear of taking action in love or money or whatever is something you must overcome. 

All the best transits, best SR etc etc will come to nothing if you do nothing. 

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jana
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Hi Sijune,

You have Jupiter well placed in Pisces in the house of relationships (7th). It trines Venus ;). Later you will get transiting Jupiter returning to its original place, (Jupiter Return). I'm no expert, But that looks auspicious.

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Elsa
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It's a good question. I suspect you look disinterested, possibly as a defense.

You will clearly need to force yourself into new territory if you want a new result. But as, Jana, stated, the potential is there.

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canscocappy
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First things first: My sister is a Leo and had her first relationship 2 years ago, aged 35/36. My soon to be brother-in-law is turning 46 this year and even though he has had quite a few relationships before he met my sister, he was around 6 years fully single before he met her. Now my sister is pregnant and they are due to get married, their first (and hopefully the only) time for both. 

Now what jumped out to me was the Saturn in Sagittarius squaring your Ascendant and Descendant and conjuncting the IC. I can see that due to circumstances you may have endured you may tend to conceal your feelings and be rather anxious about how others perceive you. Furthermore, that Venus conjunction Pluto in Scorpio increases the anxiety about "keeping" a relationship intact (however, a relationship is not kept; it is maintained and evolves with and by both parties).

The key out of this conundrum is your Jupiter in Pisces, which trines your Venus and sextiles your Mars. You can be really generous and affectionate and maintain a winning attitude i.e. you don't let yourself get easily disappointed. Keep an eye on the Solar Eclipse in Gemini on June 10th, because it will be on your 10th house squaring your Sun and Jupiter. This means that you will get noticed one way or another for at least the next six months or so, so it's a great time to get out there. Even if the first tries don't get successful, remember that Mars sextile Jupiter: deep inside you know you'll make it, so let it shine. Smile

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Sijune
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Posted by: @canscocappy

 

Now what jumped out to me was the Saturn in Sagittarius squaring your Ascendant and Descendant and conjuncting the IC. I can see that due to circumstances you may have endured you may tend to conceal your feelings and be rather anxious about how others perceive you. Furthermore, that Venus conjunction Pluto in Scorpio increases the anxiety about "keeping" a relationship intact (however, a relationship is not kept; it is maintained and evolves with and by both parties).

That's very true and causing me to hide my emotions as a defence,so other side cannot easily get into my place.

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canscocappy
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@sijune There you have it, then. Your winning attitude is infectious, though, as I mentioned, so you make the best of it. Smile

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Sijune
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There is a girl at workplace that i like,she is shy as i am and we talk sometimes,should i make a move? ? 

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Elsa
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@sijune yesssssss!

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BellaDonna
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@sijune yes even making a smaller nudge would be helpful to see if she is interested. Maybe after already conversing, when the moment feels right, take the moment to look at her directly with a smile and make some sort of comment that lets her know you are interested in her. See how she responds and if she seems open, go for it. 

Remember, sometimes when people aren't open, it's not necessarily because they are NOT interested... it can be many many things/reasons... it's simply not the right timing &or person for now, but that's okay

Because you are worth it! So, give it a shot 

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