Who can you be your “true” self with?
I realized today I can only be my real self with two people - my mom and my BF. Maybe I’m lucky to have any people like this at all - I’m sure there are some people who can’t show their true or hidden self to anyone.
By real/true/hidden/self, I wonder if I am talking about the moon in astrology. My Pisces moon (squaring Venus) means I’m sensitive with flip-flopping emotions. I’m not too proud of this but thankfully my mom gets it and my BF has learned to accept it and is very patient about it. I hide this from the world and I tend to over-smile and people-please. Only these two people get to see the real me, the Pisces moon that can’t always handle the world.
Who can you show your “real self” to? Maybe it’s everybody? Maybe it’s no one?
Only with my two BFFs. My bf doesn't quite understand me and he is annoyed with some parts of my character, so I decided to adjust and not to show my true self. for example, when I'm angry or upset, I can be quite dramatic, I yell a lot, blame it on my Moon in Leo. Well, he doesn't like that, it's too much drama for him, so I never act in front of him like that. But, he felt left out when once I said I can do this kind of acting only with my late mom or my BFF.
My husband and all of my actual friends. I consider myself lucky!
I also think this is a good thing to consider.
out of curiosity, what do you think is why you can be real with them? Are they mature? Flexible? Open-minded? Do they love you more than anything?
What a good question. I don't know about "love me more than anything" but the other things - yes. I think high intelligence is the main thing. Truly intelligent people grow up, and are open and able to learn and adapt.
I may be a friend to someone who lacks these qualities but anyone who is a friend to me, has them. Humility is another quality, which is also tied to intelligence in my mind.
The older I become, the more true to myself I am. I feel comfortable with who I am. I accept myself pretty fully, even my flaws. So, I would say I am true to myself with everyone I meet and know. Now, opening up to just anyone is another story. Do I feel I can bare my soul to anyone? No. I think it’s the norm, but there have only been a few people who have come into my life that have connected with my soul.