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What makes a Sagittarius settle down?
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Saturday, October 6, 2012 - 3:26 am
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this is a great post. as i have a sag sun w/ sag rising and a triple conjunction of venus, neptune and mercury in sadge. i think i might blog about this…LOL!

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Shotgun wedding…just kidding.

Believe it or not, we do mature…it’s a sloooow process but it happens. Sag tend to fight every change that may seem like a threat to our sense of “freedom”.

It’s a fear of losing ourselves and being needed too much. I know that sounds so selfish, but it’s true.

That’s why it’s so important for spouse, family and friends to give us our free time. Let us go and if we love you, we’ll always come back.

If when we’re young, we get to run wild and free, eventually we tire of it and want to slow down and commit to something or someone.

Every important maturing event in my life was scary.

Staying in a loving relationship, “wow, this is nice, okay, I can do this.”

Having children, “OMG how am I going to do this?” The best gift I ever got!

Buying a house, “oh crap, did I just sign that paper for 30 years?” Roots arn’t so bad.

It’s just like taming that shy, skittish horse…gently is the best way.

BTW…I don’t know of any Sagittarian that you can force to do anything they don’t want to do. They just dig in deeper or run.

Sag men are just the same as the women. My uncle was a Sag, he didn’t marry until his late twenties, he swore he never wanted children. He and his Pisces wife had a wonderful marriage of over 50 years and they eventually had 3 sons. He was a wonderful father, grandfather and a devoted husband. Haha…he couldn’t sit still and he was always busy doing, but it also kept him young.

A good male friend of mine was a GORGEOUS Sag man. (He is 9 yrs older than me, but we did become good buddies). He traveled all over the world when he was young. (Told me everyone was so kind to him wherever he went in Europe). If you saw him you’d know why. LOL He was charming, smart and great fun. He didn’t marry until he was about 40 (and still gorgeous). Long time girlfriend, she got preggies and they finally tied the knot. Their daughter is now in college. They did eventually divorce. And yes, that SOB is still handsome, even in his middle sixties. The baby boomers refuse to age!

He’s an english teacher at a college. Such a Sag thing. I’m betting the college girls drooled over him.

He had more women than anyone I knew. He didn’t have to do much of anything, except do his “awe-shucks” thing and flash that smile. But he was never out to hurt anyone. He wasn’t cruel.

Physically he was about 6′, very slim, but not skinny. The thickest blond wavy hair, blue eyes, that famous Sag smile and he really does have dimples. When I first met him, I think my tongue hung out. He was that handsome.

So, why didn’t I go after him, you may ask? At first I thought, “hot damn”, but as I got to know him, it was like looking at myself, (not physically) but personality wise. And I saw lots of my Sag negatives mirrored in him. Having a good time is great, but everyone, including Sagittarians need more. The more time we spent together the more I knew we would only ever be great pals.

Eventually the party is over and ya have to turn out the lights and go home 🙂

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Some of the most interesting people I’ve ever known were Sag. They are extremely intellectually curious and farsighted. The ones I’ve known closely can talk about anything in a totally dispassionate way, but somehow maintain their personal fire. One way you can settle a Sag down in a relationship is to show them you have an eqully curious mind, and seek the Truth. You gotta give them something to think about, and come off the wall occasionally!

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Monday, October 8, 2012 - 8:06 pm
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Based on my Grandmother, 2 of my Uncles and a friend for over 20 years… I will say this… they will settle down because they see you as being someone being all about their shizz, playful, fun and willing to have adventures. My Grandmother married my Grandfather a few years after arriving in London but meeting in St Lucia first, 31 years strong. Both my Uncles have gone on holidays with their wives and came back to tell the adventure and do nearly everything together 15 years and 8 years strong. My friend fell pregnant, went to Jamaica and he proposed and they got married the next day (how romantic), 5 years strong. As long as you allow the Sadge to have their freedom and you have yours then there shouldn’t be anything to worry about.

I have Saturn in Sadge too so I’m trying to settle down but gosh the need to be that half man, half horse who wants to shoot arrows and forget the structure can be overwhelming. I have to remember though to bring the balance and really doing that is just careless.

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Saturn in Sag makes me FEEL settled. Like I’ve lost all my Sag will to move or go or do. I’ve spent the entirety of it in a single city. And shortly after it ends I’m moving to a new city where I have a FOUR YEAR commitment. Could you get any more settled?????? 

Unless I decide to give up all happiness and freedom for 18yrs and get a child, I doubt another human could EVER get me to settle. If they even suggested it I would most likely never want to speak to them again. The only reason to settle is if you’re dead. 

If I met someone who didn’t have to live with me… or follow me…. and let me do absolutely anything and everything I wanted…. and didn’t try to join our lives together…… and was super interesting and awesome….. and sometimes went on cool vacations with me but not every time…..and that I was willing to hang out with a lot when I was in the same city as them….. and I could have a house with them and stay in it in the in-between periods, between life paths…… that’s basically settling down, right? Like especially if, initially, I lived in the same city as them for like 2-3yrs? And even purposefully went back to that city just to see them? And maybe every few years spent a few months living with them? That’s basically married. I could see myself doing that. It’s good to have a person who is like home to touch base with. For now it’s my parents, but they’ll be dead eventually. I could use another person, and if my besties decide to get married I’ll have to find someone else. 

 

I have Sun, Moon, and Saturn in Sag squared by Jupiter. I also have Uranus in Sag. And Pluto, Mercury, and Venus trined by Jupiter. 

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my husband has sagittarius in his chart, and so does my son. 

I dont know many Sagittarius men at all, just ones i met through my husband, and they are OK earners. I was reading through the topic, and not all of them are great earners. Just decent.  I find the men with Gemini in their charts much more competitive. My husband’s best friend is an Aries/Taurus moon Gemini dominant and his other child hood friend is a taurus with lots of gemini. My husband is more chill at earning money and his Gemini dominant childhood friend is super ambitious and now he has bought a home in a neighborhood where you need to earn millions. He told me in his teens, his Gemini domiannt friend always did more so he earned thousands more.

they do work hard (my husband’s colleage is always stressed and complains to him, venting about work) lol.  The famous couples i have researched, Sagittarius sun/Capricorn moon/Aqua venus Scorpio mars Ray Romano who made that show, “Everybody loves Raymond” I really like that show, and my family and me watched it.  He’s a Sagittarius and married to a Pisces woman.

There’s also that Sagittarius Stephen Spielberg, Scorpio moon /Stellium married to a Scorpio woman, with lots of Libra. And my husband’s colleague, he just bought his first house with his new wife, in his 50s.  Before that, he had odd jobs and never settled down. He is a great guy, with lots of jobs in the past, taking care of his daughter by himself with lots of odd jobs. 

And Jay-Z,  Sag sun/Libra moon, married to a Virgo/Scorpio moon Beyonce. They look like they are super happy. And of course we know the Angelina Jolie/Brad Pitt. And Ozzy Osbourne who was married to Sharon, they divorced sadly.

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I personally think Sags don’t get a reputation for earning more because they work more (although the ones I know do work hard). I think it’s because they are totally fine with taking risks and risks pay off. 

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My almost 16 yo daughter is a 4x Sagittarius.  She’s a talented artist, wants to study engineering in college and might even go into the Air Force.

She’s a force of nature, and heaven forbid anyone who tries to quash her spirit.  She’ll bolt, but not before telling the person off!

She doesn’t have a boyfriend right now.  It’s because most boys are completely intimidated by her.  She’s no follower and no ditz.  She has her own mind and does her own thing.  That’s “too much” for some kid who just wants a meaningless fling, but who wants that?

Whoever she winds up with has to appreciate everything she’s about and not try to control her life or interests in any way.

Personally, I think she’d be a good match for an Aries, another Sag, Scorpio (because of Sun conjunct Pluto) and Cap (she has a few Saturn oppositions to somewhat ground her).

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My almost 16 yo daughter is a 4x Sagittarius.  She’s a talented artist, wants to study engineering in college and might even go into the Air Force.

She’s a force of nature, and heaven forbid anyone who tries to quash her spirit.  She’ll bolt, but not before telling the person off!

She doesn’t have a boyfriend right now.  It’s because most boys are completely intimidated by her.  She’s no follower and no ditz.  She has her own mind and does her own thing.  That’s “too much” for some kid who just wants a meaningless fling, but who wants that?

Whoever she winds up with has to appreciate everything she’s about and not try to control her life or interests in any way.

Personally, I think she’d be a good match for an Aries, another Sag, Scorpio (because of Sun conjunct Pluto) and Cap (she has a few Saturn oppositions to somewhat ground her).  

no mutables? 😀

how about Gemini and Libra men? I notice people with some sag in the chart likes gemini (their opposite or 3rd house, neptune gemini)

 

to answer, from what i’ve seen with my sister and some family members, they dont like someone who is negative too much and a downer and gives them alot of space and room.

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I have sun mercury and Neptune in sag and ALOT of Chiron.

Mr cancer and I were together a loong time before we got married (I’m married 😳? That is a weird feeling still)..

I had a very literal feeling of a fence closing in on me some time before the wedding, I started hyperventilating. Complete panic attack. 

Until mr cancer said, you know, we don’t HAVE to get married if you don’t want to.

phew…! Fence gone :). And we got married.

Freedom. That is so so important. I know that I can go where I want and he will be there. 

We can also be extremely thick trying to grasp ideas like “settle down” “be responsible and grown up”. 🤓

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I had to reply because I’m actually attending the wedding of a Sagittarius man today! He is Sun conjunct Uranus in Sagittarius, Mars in Aquarius, and Moon in Pisces, getting married to an Aquarius Sun with a Sagittarius moon. They both have Venus in Capricorn. When I look at their synastry, I think they are well matched. Neither is likely to suffocate the other and they would respect the others need for space, because they both need it, but their Capricorn Venus values solid, enduring relationships and is taking it seriously. 

I think if they find the right partner for them who respects their space, and if they have some grounding influences in their chart, they might be more settled down.

My Sagittarius Sun cousin has Venus in Scorpio and Moon in Cancer, he is married for almost 20 years now to an Aries Sun and Taurus Venus woman. They both have Mars in Aquarius. I forget where her Moon is, but I know her Saturn in Cancer is conjunct his Moon in Cancer. 

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Tell them you have all the answers to life, and God. laugh laugh laugh

Just kidding.

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strawb. said
I had to reply because I’m actually attending the wedding of a Sagittarius man today! He is Sun conjunct Uranus in Sagittarius, Mars in Aquarius, and Moon in Pisces, getting married to an Aquarius Sun with a Sagittarius moon. They both have Venus in Capricorn. When I look at their synastry, I think they are well matched. Neither is likely to suffocate the other and they would respect the others need for space, because they both need it, but their Capricorn Venus values solid, enduring relationships and is taking it seriously. 

I think if they find the right partner for them who respects their space, and if they have some grounding influences in their chart, they might be more settled down.

His chart sounds like mine only a few days earlier because I have Aries Moon. Was he born in 1984?

I once read that Sagittarius will at some point just decide to settle down and will then settle down with whoever they are with. More to do with decision than finding their true everlasting love. I’m currently in my longest lasting relationship ever (almost three years) and I just decided that it’s time I had an actual relationship. We’re not about to get married though or have kids; we don’t even live together. So maybe I still haven’t fully decided to settle down. We’ll see.

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^ yes, 1984

I think his water moon makes him more needing of close partnership. Both Sagittarians I know who settled down (early) have water moons..

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