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And am I experiencing the opposite of growth by finding myself getting angry at a tea bag telling me how to think? 😂 (psssst: please don’t encourage being a pushover, Buddha Teas!)

Sometimes my Aries is showing!

What do you think growth is? 

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By the way, I would change it to:

”Growth is deleting an entire paragraph and calling instead.” Or wait till you see them in person to diplomatically address what’s on your mind. F*ck being a pushover, I’ve done it too long!

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If you're 11 it means you're an inch taller! Smile

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@elsa Haha yes! Sometimes the answer really is so simple 

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I feel this lol but growth idk I feel like growth is very uncomfortable like being trapped and pushed to change every direction you’re going in life it’s lonely bc the growth is a you thing and no one else is doing or experiencing it the same way .. or maybe that’s just me lol because this is how I feel right now 🫡🤣

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@mirandag True - everyone's journey is pretty unique, right? Just like how our charts and our personalities are all 100% unique!

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@rapunzelsoldierfish agreed! I think I’m having such a hard time bc of my current situation I work in a salon I like to be left alone but I can’t be left alone im dealing with so many people a day every 20 minutes no chance to breathe in between them, I get so many types too and it’s really really draining, then get home take care of the kids I wanna be a fun mom but I feel drained and so guilty all at the same time and then I’m also studying real estate because of the potential of making great money from it,  My anxiety is up on max all day long I really shouldn’t complain though I am blessed but life feels stressful right now and growing hurts also for me lol

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@mirandag Woooow that's tough!! You never know what kind of personalities you're gonna get! Do you have the option of turning up the music a bit louder while doing their hair? Maybe just kinda hum along to the music when you can so you can give yourself a break from talking to them? I've had someone cut my hair before and she was singing "I Feel Good" by James Brown on the radio and I thought, "Wow, she's really getting in the zone and doing what she needs to do to give me a good haircut" haha

How long have you been working there? Juggling the work and the chit chat may just be something you'll get used to over time. It could be a much needed skill you may need to develop for later down the road.  When I was doing my fieldwork in school, I had a fieldwork rotation for hand therapy occupational therapy, which was a lot of sitting with people, showing them hand exercises and massaging their hands but there was a lot of small talk I had to juggle while remembering to do things correctly. It was one of the most draining things in my life and I remember going home and feeling depressed that I was zapped of energy and felt like I didn't have a life outside of fieldwork I wasn't getting paid for.  But after those 8 intense weeks, I felt like I generally knew what people had in common and no one was really a surprise anymore. So I kinda learned people, so to speak.   I know exactly what you mean by barely having time to breathe. But life is a university that puts us outside of our comfort zone. I would try to schedule some productive down time for yourself when you can (bath, meditation, etc), put on a video and dance with the kids and let the videos do all the direction for you. 

Congrats on your decision with real estate - that is awesome!! Really good choice, so lucrative. I've always thought it looked like a lot of fun and I kinda wish I was interested in learning more about homes and financial stuff so I could do it too. I wish you the best with your studies!! 😀 

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It seems like a minimalist, anti-ego sentiment.  They are, after all, "Buddha" Teas.

If growth is maturity, strength, wisdom, it could include a "know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em" philosophy.

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@warped What a great perspective and seems to be the one that all emotionally mature people have. I think it's a balance we kind of have to learn over the years. Thank you for this!

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Haha I like that tea bag message! I'm wordy (and sometimes argumentative for no good reason) so for me it's more like "you don't need to explain that you already know what they meant or extend some unnecessary dialogue to prove some point, just say ok!" 

My Aries relates to yours though. I hate being bossed around. I will do the opposite of what someone tells me just because they need to know they aren't in charge of me 😂

As for growth - seems to be a circuitous process for me. I keep coming back to the same place I started and realizing that I stress myself out over nothing a lot. I need to eat more frequently so I don't get low blood sugar anger 😆 I swear that's the answer to all the problems in my life, I just can't remember it enough. Like "hey dolce, when's the last time you ate? Calm down and have a snack. Then you could experience growth."

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@dolce Oooh, true! I see exactly how the "OK" serves the purpose of keeping it simple. I had professor who would say just "K.I.S.S it" when replying to people. Meaning: "Keep it simple, stupid" hahaha. I need to follow that advice more because I'm a rambler when kept unchecked.

>> "I will do the opposite of what someone tells me just because they need to know they aren't in charge of me"  Yeah I love that!!  I really wanna embrace my Aries these days. It's embarrassing but I'll curse in my car and feel like a boss, like I just owned that person somehow. And then I'll be like this Samuel L. Jackson person in my mind, thinking yeah mutha*cka, no one's gonna f*ck with me anymore lol! But if that same person cut off me in with their shopping cart in the store, I'd be the one saying sorry! The irony.......

So true about food! Everyone needs an emergency granola bar in their pocket or something! I am willing to bet more than half the world has this hanger problem! 

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