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Saturday, January 5, 2019 - 9:25 am
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I first came across the phrase, “weaponized femininity”, in 2013.  Six years later, it’s commonplace. I wonder what people think of this.

If you are a woman, do you feel your femininity is a weapon?
Or do you feel that your femininity makes your vulnerable?

Also, do you feel you are at war with men or masculinity. How and/or why?

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Feminine/Masculine is one area that Ive explored a lot, and really enjoy discussing! 

 

So, I do not feel that my femininity is a weapon, but it is a strength. 

“Weapon” is actually a Masculine  principle. So I think this is just another attempt to undermine what’s happening cosmically, which is a call for the divine feminine to Be honored again, in ourselves. Thats the spiritual perspective. 

The sociological perspective is that everything is just warped. And if a message is coming across in an ad to sell me something (makeup, etc), I dont trust that its going to empower me. Its going to turn me into a consumer slave, which I will pass on. 

Am I at war with men or masculinity? No lol. Ive been able to balance the masculine and feminine within (mostly). They are not at war, so Im not at war with anyone. 

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I believe the idea that feminity and masculinity are historically at war is an inaccurate  perception that has been foisted on my generation…..along with gender is a totally social construction and men and women are not different lol.  

Historically, men and women have had to band together to co-operate.  Because for most men and women, life was/is just plain hard. And there were harsh biological realities to work around and a division of labor was established. Our technology allowed us more flexibility in recent times but sorting through social changes when there are massive technological revolutions is a tricky business and people really need to think for themselves when dealing with the ideologically possessed lol

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Wednesday, January 23, 2019 - 1:39 pm
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I agree that, historically, we band together.  Yet there are people who see dominance (men “owning” women) as the unifying factor – I do not.  Real love is a real fact, in every time in history.  I know this.  It’s my hope for all of us, men and women, that we all find a strong ally, who we can love, with whom to weather the storms that life brings.

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I don’t feel my femininity is a weapon and I don’t think it’s a vulnerability, overall. I have a hard time wrapping my head around these absolute dualities. People have strengths, weaknesses, women are, overall, weaker physically, than men in brute strength. But some things cannot be measured between the two: women who have gone through childbirth are strong af, but how would we measure a man at this? 

Both genders can be smart, manipulative, weak, whatever… Nowadays, any girl or woman can enter any field or sport she wants. are people going to talk smack? Maybe. Get over it and do the work. Don’t try to be the first woman to do XYZ. Try to be the woman who contributes all she can. Encounter naysayers? Fuck em. Do the work.

Women and men are born different, for the most part. They just come out that way. We’ve all seen this in babies.  

I’m not at war with men or masculinity. I’m at war with stupidity and people who feel the need to force shit on you. Doesn’t matter if it’s make or female.

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The idea makes me shudder, but that may be venus 12th talking.

 

If I did something like that karma would probably slap the hell out of me.

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This is the first I’m hearing of “weaponized femininity.” I have heard of “toxic masculinity.” Why is there SO MUCH talk now about gender and things related? I don’t even know what anything is or means anymore. Honestly I get so confused.

I looked up weaponized femininity and I don’t fit the bill. Originally I thought it must mean crying to get away with something, or to get something you want. Oh how naive I can be. Anyway, I don’t put on make up and a tight dress to dominate a man (apparently that is weaponized femininity). But I get the concept. 

I don’t think my femininity makes me vulnerable either — I’m just a woman, I can’t really see it beyond that. Is that strange? I have my interests and activities and responsibilities and I’m a woman doing those things…

Not at war with men – I married a very masculine man because I like being the woman in a relationship. I’m attracted to courage, aggression, stoicism and dominance. I like that he carries heavy things for me and opens jars. I admire more about him than I could possibly write here, including how he protects and teaches our kids, and looks out for his mother.

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Friday, January 11, 2019 - 4:55 am
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After reading your post, I had to look it up too. Now I’m wondering if this is a modern version of using “feminine wiles”?

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Friday, January 11, 2019 - 7:23 am
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Yes, and one site I read said it’s doing masculine things while looking feminine in order to intimidate men. That whole “changing a tire in heels” thing.

In my day to day life this weaponized femininity isn’t something I see much if ever, so from my vantage point this term could be all propaganda and now everyone’s just repeating it, like so many other things.

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Sunday, January 13, 2019 - 7:51 pm
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Haha exactly!

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Friday, January 11, 2019 - 7:58 am
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I had never heard of this term either. Glad i’m not the only one.

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https://www.bustle.com/p/makeu…..ized-51078

Seems that makeup 💄 💅  has served as a weapon for a long time. 

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Friday, January 11, 2019 - 7:20 am
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Interesting how at the end of the article it says make up was used also to “keep women in their place.” I think it’s all subjective to a degree!

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Saturday, January 12, 2019 - 11:47 am
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Fascinating article! 

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