Would love to hear everyone's thoughts on twin flames.
Do you believe this is a real thing that exists?
If so, why?
If not, why?
Also, anyone who is willing to share their own personal experience, I think those stories would be super interesting to hear!
Peace ✌️ and happy Friday 🙌
** editing to add: if you believe twin flames can be identified in one's chart, would definitely love to hear your thoughts there as well!
I did a lot of recent research on the subject after a reading with a psychic. I'd heard the pop-cultural referencing many a time and now after researching realized (like astrology) how misunderstood/misused the subject is.
That being said, while I find it super interesting, I also find it potentially very harmful depending on the recipient and interpretation (that which can be used to enable one's toxic patterns).
Particularly for those already prone to abusive/ trauma-bond dynamics or Neptunian problem-related relationships/projections. I can see how easy it would be to cast a lover as a twin flame to unconsciously enable the dynamic, and it can be extremely toxic and waste away people's time and life hanging onto the hope.
In my case, I had a psychic tarot reading with someone I've had many with and I asked him about a recent lover. He never said twin flame, but to my surprise, he didn't dismiss the "relationship"/dynamic altogether as I was expecting. Instead, his first response was - when he read his energy/our dynamic - he had a very clear vision of a mirror - that it was like our souls were mirrors at this moment in time. That sparked my curiosity because of so much of what I'd already been feeling/experiencing with this person. And, I don't mean mirror in a pleasant way, per se. It was a very uncomfortable dynamic in fact, very much described within a twin flame relationship. We also had many other applicable elements that the twin flame thing details - many weird interlacings of stories, life experiences, views, etc... yet we were also like total opposites in so many ways, from totally different countries, our actual physical appearances etc.
I think the lessons of the twin flame mirroring still very much applied... and he definitely darted so fast as described by the (runner/chaser) thing, except I wasn't chasing him after he ran. And the initiation of our meeting was very electric and intoxicating as well the way it is often described..
but my hang-up is - so are a lot of toxic, not meant to last relationships. Most relationships are seasons and honestly, every relationship is a mirror in many ways...
so I guess I don't believe in the whole reunion part of the twin flame thing so then I guess that means I don't really believe in twin flames, but I do think there's a lot of validity to the mirroring part that one can learn from and even though that can be said for all relationships, there can be certain people that our souls indeed align with that have the profundity of this very intense, accelerated journey that elevates our consciousness of self and how we relate to the other and therefore a path to unconditional love for both self and the other...
but I think it's very very tricky... because if you've got a Neptunian streak like me, hanging onto the possibility of a return is so so likely and obviously very damaging.
So, while I related to so much of the description of the experience, I had to let go of the narrative and take the lesson as one still within a season.. otherwise, I'd be hanging onto a fantasy forever and blocking reality.
as for the astrology, no idea although I'd be curious... I never had his exact birth time to compare charts, so couldn't conclude anything anyway - maybe involving N & S nodes?
basically, I think this particular dynamic did elevate my consciousness and gave me a better understanding of self, acceptance, surrender, and so on...
If he ever comes back.. I'll follow up - then maybe this whole thing could be true after all - but I sure as hell ain't waiting around believing in the narrative. Instead, I'll let myself be pleasantly surprised 😉
apology not necessary...
"I asked because your experience sounds like what I’ve been investigating as “nodal experiences,” which I’ve observed are sometimes interpreted (or misinterpreted, I’m not sure) as twin flame encounters."
interesting! ya I so wish I had his birth time but he didn't know it
I posted something years ago here about a relationship I had with someone at the time and someone commented that it sounded like a twin flame. I don’t know if it was or not, but I can say that if that’s what it was….then the “twin flame journey” sucks.
It was incredibly unhealthy and some of the stories I hear from others about being a twin flame sound unhealthy too. To be totally honest with you about what I think- I think the new age community portrays a lot of unhealthy and self destructive behavior patterns in a spiritual light. I think the ego can easily attach itself to many concepts like twin flame, starseed, etc. It’s a belief system after all (one that actually aligns a bit with my own, but not to the point where common sense is undermined).
Twin flames is an interesting concept to learn about but the way the journey is described does sound extremely toxic to me. I mean I'll keep an open mind about it but nothing further.
What I don’t understand is why it needs a label in the first place. I believe in love at first sight, I believe in transformative relationships you feel at the soul level, where you can communicate without words...
I believe those types of relationships exist. They are beautiful and can even bring you closer to source and your own true nature, they bring out the best in you and make you want to be better... they feel like coming home and can be a source of comfort and inspiration.
However you want to label it, these types of relationships exist and that’s good enough for me. I don’t see a need to put a label on it. Pretty much everything that humans have put labels on has been effed up beyond belief. Now every person who is obsessed with someone can say they’ve met their twin flame and they can use it as an excuse for their toxic behavior.