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AstroHoe81
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Hello! I'm Kim and new to the forum! I've recently become very interested in natal and synastry aspects. Synastry more-so because I just went through a soul shattering breakup that ended exactly the way synastry said it would! Cry

I know most will say that it doesn't happen that way, but I'd like to get others opinions on this. Have your past relationships succumbed to issues spelled out in your synastry charts? Have you ever had a long lasting, fufilling relationship with someone you had bad synastry with?

My ex and I had a LOT of Saturn Venus Square Saturn/Sun Conjunct Satrun/Venus Conjunct saturn....etc

 My Venus conjuncted his Neptune. I held him as ideal and we felt we were soulmates. We walked away from our (miserable) marriages to be together and planned a life together, but he suddenly abandoned the relationship with no real explanation just like Venus conjunct Neptune suggest. We also have Sun square Uranus which means a relationship will start with a bang and end just as suddenly, and abruptly...exactly like ours did. Sad Are there aspects that make a relationship almost impossible to work?

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Hi Kim!

It's my understanding that Saturn is a teacher and was meant to teach you something in that relationship. Once the lessons were learned, the relationship was no longer needed. That's how Saturn operates in astrology. He teaches you. 

I don't think you two will ever forget each other because Saturn is binding.

Did you have any Pluto synastry aspects with him? That aspect is definitely meant to shake you up from the inside, tear you apart, and you rise from the ashes a new person.

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Hey Girl!

It makes sense that even though it was short term, we had a very serious relationship because we did. 

I looked up our Pluto aspects:

Moon square Pluto in synastry

His Pluto in my 5th house

Mars and Mercury conjunct Pluto in synastry

He's not very heartbroken, he just kept it moving so I don't know what he learned but I'm devastated for sure and the way he just abandoned things leaves me with no closure and so many questions ? 

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@kimikko81 I'm so sorry this happened to you ?

I would say that yes, the synastry always plays out for me. Of course, this being astrology, there are multiple ways the same aspect to manifest, so it's important to look at the overall pattern or "story" that is being told. One aspect does not tell the whole tale!

I've learned that I need to stay away, or tread very carefully, with people with planets that fall into my 12th. I tend to idealize them, good or bad. I'm not able to see clearly.

I would also say that a relationship without Saturn supporting it somehow will not work out. However, Saturn in harsh aspect to the moon is not a thing I ever want to experience again.

PS: Welcome! ?

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@shortpants

Thanks for your input 🙂 I definitely believe there needs to be at least some Saturn to last. I know in the future I will avoid heavy Venus/Saturn, Venus Neptune and/or Uranus placements. I was pretty much in a fog for most of the relationship until he just abruptly ended it.

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@kimikko81

I forgot to mention how much I love your username.

It could be his Pluto falling into your 5th house that makes you feel devastated at the breakup, along with Moon square Pluto. Can I ask who's Pluto and who's the Moon?

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@purplestargirl

 

Hmm good question! I think I'm Pluto.

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I don't really see any synastry as doomed, I don't enjoy such fatalistic terms. My parents have Moon square to Neptune, Saturn, Mars and Venus and they together for 30 years. 

But for me personally, difficult Mercury aspects cause a lot of issues because if we can't talk, what can we do? Can't stare into each others eyes all the time. whacky   I'd never give up on someone because our synastry is "bad". 

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@problematique 

Hi!

 

I do understand that there are many other factors that make couples stay together no matter what, especially in past era's when divorce wasn't so easy for many reasons. However, do you think they were happy or just together? I agree about Mercury though. Bad communication sucks.

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