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Elsa
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Friday, May 19, 2017 - 4:53 pm
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I was talking to a gal I know. She was telling me about how this man screwed up this older couple and how wrong it was to do. I really like this woman. I like the old couple and while I don't know the man that well, I like him as well.

"That old guy! What's his name? He's the one who did this," she said, railing, in her Boston accent.

"The old bastard? The coot? He's in the hospital, dyin', did you know?" I asked.

"He is?"

"Yeah. Well, he's in the hospital and he's ninety-four years old, so what do you think? He's been in there awhile...ten days?  He's been the hospital, not sure he's getting out. Don't you think it would be best to forgive this guy? Yes, he did what you say, but now he's in the hospital, dyin', so that's probably enough.  He must have thought, I sure hope I can mess them up before I'm dead. I guess he managed to but now look at him..."

I don't think she's tellin' this story anymore.

Personally, I think anyone who makes it to 94, especially an old salty Marine like this guy, can do whatever they want, even if it's the wrong thing!

You just can't hold a grudge against a 94 year old, can ya?

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Friday, May 19, 2017 - 5:15 pm
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Maybe. If my dad's half-sister was 94 I could hold a grudge. She isn't a nice person, she is a felon to be exact.

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Friday, May 19, 2017 - 5:24 pm
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I don't think that forgiveness is required. But then again, it depends on what someone's religion says about that.

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A person that age is probably not in their right mind.

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I see it differently. I don't know what age has to do with it. I've never understood giving someone more or less respect because of their age. There's 94 yr old murderers, rapists, and child molesters. I just don't think living a long time means that much when it comes to stuff like this. 

I think there's other reasons to let go of the grudge though. Mainly that it wears out your own soul and depletes energy. 

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When I wasn't medicated for my bipolar, I once physically jumped another girl my age, I was about in my late teens. I was so out of my mind. I know too much about 'not being of the right mind'.

I hope if that guy is 'out of his mind' that she, and other people, can forgive him. People can be so severe in their judgments and 'morals'. They forget that other people are suffering, or going through something.

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I see it differently. I don't know what age has to do with it. I've never understood giving someone more or less respect because of their age. There's 94 yr old murderers, rapists, and child molesters. I just don't think living a long time means that much when it comes to stuff like this. 

I think there's other reasons to let go of the grudge though. Mainly that it wears out your own soul and depletes energy.   

It depends on if they were a good/great person for a long time. If, in 94 years of his life, he had never did anything wrong, why start now? He's probably senile, and I'm not making fun of him.

My guess is if someone has been good for a long time and suddenly snaps, it's probably a brain problem. People usually don't change, usually not that abruptly.

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I think it's always easier to be forgiving towards someone who hasn't personally hurt you. Mean people usually only get meaner with age. The woman has every right to feel however she feels and to forgive or not. It's probably a waste of her energy to spend any time thinking about this guy one way or another, he doesn't sound worth it.

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People in their 90s abuse and kill. Are they entitled because of their age? I don't think so.

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Friday, May 19, 2017 - 7:35 pm
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My huge a$$ Libra stellium can see both sides! laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Offtopic, @anonymoushermit, I'm on a crash course to learn about bipolar, because someone who has come to matter to me very much, in person, irl, lives with this.  He says, "this has nothing to do with the highs and lows of bipolar," and I see/hear/perceive that he's speaking sincerely, from his heart.  As handicaps go, someone who has a good handle on knowing their mental health status... who backs it up, with facts: far impressive.

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It might make a difference in your opinions if you knew the whole story. Or not.

But I'm definitely not going to be hating on an old person on their deathbed. They'll be facing the music soon enough.

Seriously, I can't imagine wasting the energy. The man is leaving this world. Case closed.

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Or not, that is what I think, too.  There's a whole bunch of "and, so what - no longer matters" when people are dying, or dead.

Now, all of us participating here, we're living our lives.   Eventually, we'll each of us have our turn at that huge, great leap into the afterlife (or whatever, for the atheists).

Personally, I hope to live to very very old, and tell lies to whatever journalist comes to ask, how did I succeed in living a century.... I met a woman who said, "Ever since I passed 100 years, I started to feel my agedness..."  She was irritated with me, that when she wanted the bathroom mirror in the hospital room we shared, I was showering.  She had to apply her lipstick with a small mirror to guide her!!!

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Elsa said
It might make a difference in your opinions if you knew the whole story. Or not.
But I'm definitely not going to be hating on an old person on their deathbed. They'll be facing the music soon enough.
Seriously, I can't imagine wasting the energy. The man is leaving this world. Case closed.  

It's ok to feel nothing. It's ok to feel horrible. It's ok to feel elated. It's ok to feel relieved. It's ok to feel there is justification even if there is none. Feeling is energy, it is not wasted.

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Monday, May 22, 2017 - 5:56 am
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I think the waste of energy vs "is it worth it?" is the main question. Probably not worth it, and what's the use, anyway?

Even more so if the bad was done to someone else!

Aside from that, a life-long sh*t head is still a sh*t head if he's that way up until the end.

If someone is holding a grudge, perhaps the person's death would be a good riddance, but I'm not sure this is always the case.

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