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Stepson is married and leaving the country.
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Wednesday, November 14, 2018 - 6:54 am
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Likely not. He’s getting close to 30 and his Saturn return. That “everyone owes me” attitude will never go away.

The husband supposedly bought a house for them, so why is he still here? Nothing about this situation makes any sense.

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Wednesday, November 14, 2018 - 8:49 am
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His SR will likely be very harsh. The universe throwing lessons hisway 😣

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LisLioness said
https://www.military.com/spous…..ouses.html

This is probably the real reason behind his marriage, according to my dad, who was in the service (Scorpio Sun, Cap rising).

Not surprising if you look at his track record, which is “What’s in it for me?” and “How can I get the goodies without working for them, because I’m owed them?”  

that’s really nice for those marrying military. 🙂

My parents live close to military housing and we have military family members too, and they get so many great benefits, such as free entrance to many amusement parks which are usually 75-100 dollars/euros to get in. I like that, especially for family gatherings, events. lol 

although about your step son, i thought he got a job there from his military husband. Maybe he will actually be productive, and be more responsible. 

It’s kind of exciting to know what’s happening with his “growth” ;d

It could go either way, it seems. Not too late.

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Thursday, November 15, 2018 - 7:17 am
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Man, what a mess!

Does he enjoy screwing up people’s lives, or is he oblivious to that, too far out?

Sorry that you have to worry about someone like that, a mad monkey escaped from someone else’s circus.

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Thursday, November 15, 2018 - 9:32 am
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I thought he was getting a job. I don’t know how civilian jobs with the Army work. I don’t know how long it takes people to get these jobs.

I think he’s too far gone to care about how he affects others. He’s damaged goods, and he has no interest in healing himself.

I went no contact with him, and it’s been seven years now. The one and only time I broke NC was when I confronted him over a CPS “welfare check” that he initiated. That was four years ago. That was when I finally dropped the rope concerning him. He lives in a fantasy world. He doesn’t pay his way. He has a ton of unpaid credit accounts. He’s mentally ill but never diagnosed. I can’t fix this mess. I never could. I chose to not dwell on it any more.

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Thursday, November 15, 2018 - 3:16 pm
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It’s probably not all his mental health, it’s partly his entitled attitude too.

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Difficult to say what comes first (if there is any “logic” in this sort of context).

The problem with “us” so-called “normal” people vs deranged people is that logic doesn’t always apply.

For those who enjoy chaos, great fun to be had by all!

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Friday, November 16, 2018 - 8:02 am
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Sorry, I probably wasn’t explicite.

What I meant to say is that maybe his entitlement attitude comes from his mental mess & not the other way round. And that all of that is difficult to understand.

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Ahh, I see what you mean. What came first, the chicken, or the egg? 

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Friday, November 16, 2018 - 5:06 pm
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Is he still married?

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Tuesday, November 27, 2018 - 8:45 am
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I have no idea. No one seems to know.

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Wednesday, November 28, 2018 - 11:28 pm
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I feel so bad for your IL’s….this has gone on for YEARS…..

Good to see you btw….xo

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Thursday, November 29, 2018 - 7:28 am
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LisLioness said
I thought he was getting a job. I don’t know how civilian jobs with the Army work. I don’t know how long it takes people to get these jobs.

I think he’s too far gone to care about how he affects others. He’s damaged goods, and he has no interest in healing himself.

I went no contact with him, and it’s been seven years now. The one and only time I broke NC was when I confronted him over a CPS “welfare check” that he initiated. That was four years ago. That was when I finally dropped the rope concerning him. He lives in a fantasy world. He doesn’t pay his way. He has a ton of unpaid credit accounts. He’s mentally ill but never diagnosed. I can’t fix this mess. I never could. I chose to not dwell on it any more.  

Sounds like my first husband. We always had “hope”… every year, another decade passed and the last hope was his mother, and now his mother is too old and retired now. You always wonder if they will ever change before they die, you know. Even if they don’t change, at least like in the AA anonymous recital, they have this passage, where the individual recites that they are accepting of the things they cannot change, and to move forward with that. 

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Forgive me, but this thread really made ma day! I laughed out loud to your comments reading them through haha

 

Because I’m new to this forum, so I did not know anything of the backstory to all this.

I just saw the title and immidiately thought “Aww a poor stepmother who is so sad for loosing her stepson:( “

I was like “wait, whuut?!” in total dismay when I found it was something completely opposite  and so unexpected haha

 

I mean,  I was looking for a “I’m crying I’m so sad”comments  only to read

The comments “He’s moving to Italy. His husband (I’m really shocked that anyone would take on a bottomless pit of need like him,”  and

” The first thing I thought before this was confirmed was, is this for real? Then I thought, he better not be back pounding on MIL’s door in six months/a year or two because the husband can’t deal with him any more. Shit’s real now, guy.”

 

and “Let us know if he gets on the plane”

Really slowly enlightened me and made me choke  haha Its was hilarious to read this thread, bless you guys!

 

And as an end note, I really hope he won’t bother you ever LisLioness! <3

I don’t know the backstory, but he seems to be a problem causing person, so I hope he will be out of your hair!  <3

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Ha! It’s now January 5. It’s a bright shiny New Year. And he’s STILL here!

Now the move out date is February. The supposed husband moved stateside last summer and still hasn’t met anyone in the family, not even the ILs.

The last time I saw stepson was in October at a family reunion. (No one spoke to him, of course.) The husband wasn’t with him.

March 1 will come and go and he’ll still be here.

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