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Sijune
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DOB 20 September 1986

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I'm pretty dissapointed from my personal social life and i haven't done ever a relationship,so i fear if will not be able to make relationships next 3-4 years,then will remain single the rest of my life. 😖 😔 😕 

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 Kim
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Hi Sijune. You have Venus conjunct Pluto in Scorpio. I would say that you are intense, and that can come across differently to different people. For some people, they would love that, and for others, that may just be too much for them. This intensity even comes across in your posts.

My advice is probably the same for anyone with or without a chart in front of me. Try not to focus so much on obtaining a relationship. It's never something that can be forced, so you might as well stop worrying about it. When you meet someone who appreciates you for who you are, you'll know. Make friends, live your life, and focus on self-improvement, which is always attractive.

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The issue comes to the lack of creating or keep friends,lack of self confidence,low self esteem,introvertion and extreme shyness,i haven't been able from 18-35 yo to meet women,be talkative,attractive,it's complicated and not easy to handle it.

I really see not many opportunities coming,women see a weirdo,creepy,boring man, unattractive,with lack of experience.

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Due to my close character,inferiority and psychology issues from childhood years,i wasn't able to be social guy,talkative and meeting girls and women.

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I'm 36 and new year coming,if will not do it into 2023,i fear will never come the chance for me. 😥 

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If I were you I would focus more on enjoying myself in the dating scene and improving myself.

So you can start therapy, since you have mentioned past trauma, or if that is expensive for you then just read a lot. There are a lot of insightful articles and forums out there. You will start to see the difference in yourself once you are not dragged down by all those issues from the past

Now when it comes to women hoestly we humans are simple creatures, I bet you can easily get a date if you worked more on your wardrobe and hairstyle. Joining the gym will immensly improve your attractiveness too. The more dates you have the more likely you are to find the right person for you

Since someone mentioned you having scorpio energy I recommend reading the zahir by paulo coelho, it was life transforming for me

Good luck!

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Posted by: @resurgam

If I were you I would focus more on enjoying myself in the dating scene and improving myself.

So you can start therapy, since you have mentioned past trauma, or if that is expensive for you then just read a lot. There are a lot of insightful articles and forums out there. You will start to see the difference in yourself once you are not dragged down by all those issues from the past

Now when it comes to women hoestly we humans are simple creatures, I bet you can easily get a date if you worked more on your wardrobe and hairstyle. Joining the gym will immensly improve your attractiveness too. The more dates you have the more likely you are to find the right person for you

Since someone mentioned you having scorpio energy I recommend reading the zahir by paulo coelho, it was life transforming for me

Good luck!

 

There are some obstacles i face for years,let's say chronic loneliness after school years,symptoms such as inferiority,extreme introvertion,extreme lonelines,recently with avoidant personality disorder diagnosed,hyper sensitive to negative criticism.

Women,they think i'm too serious,weirdo,creepy,it's not easy for the other side to approach or talk with me.I'm not familiar with volunteer,reading or books just are too boring for me to do that.

Therapy didn't gave me much at all,so i stopped as i couldn't paying much money.

So,if the chart suggest another lonely year for me,then i have to realize soon that in the age after 40,my life could be more diffucult for a relationship or soulmate. 😥 

 

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@sijune I don't know if this helps but my childhood was hectic and I used to be really introverted and avoidant too. What helped was having friends who I knew for sure loved me back, cause feeling I had worth to other people was difficult for me

So my advice would be to start there, surround yourself with people who love you platonically first, and then use that ego boost to look for a partner

Maybe join a club or pursue a hobby, there are higher chances to find people similar to you personality wise when you do that

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