Scorpio woman in love with a cancer man who turned cold
Here it goes….
What should i do??
Welcome, Mrsfreeze. I hate to say it but it sounds to me as if he bit off more than he can actually chew. I would not chase him. I know it's painful but he's letting you know he's headed in the other direction. I'm really sorry.
I agree with Elsa and would add that the distance and space already is an answer... and time will let you know otherwise.
"And also tell him that this is immature behaviour and unfair."
I mean, it's only been since Dec., 1 mo. I don't know if it is fair to say it's immature. You both hardly know each other despite the initial heated encounter. Putting his children first is honorable and unfortunately dating again is difficult territory to navigate and so I agree with Elsa he prob got in over his head without realizing.
I would definitely not chase. Watch John Gray for why. You will push him away if you do that. Give him the space he needs. That's simply how men make sense of whats going on for them emotionally, it's not personal. You of course are entitled to your feelings and you can express those if the moment presents itself, but attacking him by saying it's unfair and immature won't get you far.
The minute I read that he got divorced only nine months ago, I knew that he probably still had some healing to do. Nine months isn’t very long and he has kids. That’s already a lot. Then this passionate and intense and beautiful Scorpio comes along and it probably felt overwhelming. I think some people with Scorpio (myself included) forget sometimes that not everyone can live at full intensity all the time. And being overwhelmed makes it hard to formulate a way to express that- the best he could do was pull away. It felt like ghosting to you but its often survival for other signs.
Cancer has a shell so they use that when they need to breathe- and this guy just got out of a relationship- a divorce! He probably had no idea how to handle this whole thing.
I say give him a break. Do your thing, date other guys don’t contact him.
As far as closure- that’s always an internal process anyway. He can’t give it to you. He’s incapable or unwilling or both. Scorpio needs this to let go right? I’m not a Scorpio Sun but I do have a Scorpio Moon and some other planets there. I have struggled to release things but have found some things that work.
Rituals have been especially powerful for me. Like burning paper with their name written on it and then burying the ashes. In one I took a piece of string that represented our bond and cut it. Maybe offer a willingness to forgive too (forgiveness is sooooooo powerful for Scorpios- have you forgiven your father? You don’t have to answer that here but it’s something to consider). Remember to wish him well because resentment is the ultimate thing that will prevent you from moving on snf that makes us feel sick inside (at least it makes me feel sick). You could even write him a letter or write yourself one from him with the words you’d wished he’d said then burn that. I don’t know I’m just brainstorming. I continue with these ritual until I feel better.
Stuff like that gives me my power back- because THATS what closure is really about in my experience for Scorpio. You just gotta figure out a way to get yours back. Making him an asshole in your mind is one way to do that, but I think there are healthier ways like the one I talked about.
Are you sure he's actually divorced? Might want to check court records online, free public access in most areas.
Scorpio woman in love with Cancer man who turned cold.
We met online in December
Reading that this way, see how this looks. It's January 11th.
This thing came and went fast. I would say count yourself lucky you know what you know now. Do not call or text this man.
I am a Scorpio. There isn't anything I don't understand about this. Also, to a Cancer sun those kids will always be first. I have Cancer rising. I know this too.
You are blessed with knowing everything you need to know right now. He is fresh out of a divorce. He ran back to his shell. He is either not interested or cannot do it right now. When he said he needs time.... give him that. Give him space too. Like, all the space he will ever need and then some. Bye boy.
In fact, knowing what you know... I would not go out with him again after this little ghost episode. If he can do it now, he can do it anytime. Cancer men are moody. But they are also Cardinal. Cardinal signs go after what they want.
This sucks, it hurts and its awful. I don't think anyone gets gutted as deeply as a Scorpio. And we never forget it. Use that amputation device you were born with and CUT him off.
It takes a special person to put up with a sign as moody as Cancer. Scorpio gets them and loves them. But romantically? I don't know. I mean, a moody Cancer with a Scorpio? Scorpio may be water, but we are fire water. Flaming fire water.
People show you who they are. We never want to see the flaming red flags in the beginning. Many times, we think we can change people or screw them into oblivion, and they will change...
This? In the very beginning? No. You just got a preview. You are lucky. Imagine if he pulled this crap 6 months in, or a year in.
Closure comes from within. Nothing anyone can say or do can give that to you, but yourself.
Your special gift is amputation. USE IT