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Creamcheese113
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Hello Smile

I met a scorpion man (I am a cancer woman) back in november, things were going well but suddenly he disappeared in January. Back in March, I sent him a random text and we decided to meet for a drink, we had great fun and he admitted that he likes me and wanted to see me but he was going through intense personal problems (ex wife, kids), we met the week after, we had a great night but he told me that he couldn't be in a relationship at the moment, when I left the next morning he asked me if we will see each other again and I said yes. It's been more that a month and I haven't heard from him... He knows that I like him and I don't want to be a sex friend and I miss him terribly... I don't know what to do... I respect the fact that he doesn't want a relationship... Can he change his mind? I am simply afraid that he will meet someone else ?

I may sound desperate and I probably am but I really like the guy and I am confused by his behavior.

When we met one month ago he seemed genuinely happy to see me and I know he enjoyed the time we spent together and I know somehow that a man who says that he doesn't want a relationship... Doesn't want a relationship... But I don't understand how he can be so nice when we are together and then, nothing. Not a single text in one month... Maybe he expected me to write... I don't know...

I'm lost and slightly heartbroken... 

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Elsa
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Welcome, Creamcheese113. Smile

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*Hugs*.

One thing women don't seem to get very often, at least amongst my age group that have had their social skills eroded by feminism/ modern living, is that men can change their minds. Effort, energy, sweetness etc. may change his mind or may not (i.e. you risk waisting your time) but for some reason many women seem to think it definitely will not. It's like they want a man to sign a contract before they really know him.

Not exactly predictable Scorpios.

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Many thanks for your reply Smile

When I left him that morning and he said that he wanted to see me again (I suppose that it meant at his place and for some fun), I was ready to fight for him and try to change his mind...

 

I don't want him to sign a contract but  he didn't give me any news for the last month...  (since I left him) 🙁 I fear that he is just not that into me... Maybe if he had given me some news I would have written to him... i know from a friend of mine who work with him that he has problems but he also has a very busy life with his friends... 

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@creamcheese113 I say this with caring and concern: if a man were truly into you, not even a 365 roster as a space sweeper on Mars would keep him from contacting you. 

When we want something to the point that we are willing to bend our own standards of behaviour, prepared to lower our expectations of the other to nil, you have to question if it is really good for you. 🤗

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Welcome and Im sorry.

It seems that hes been pretty honest with you. Dont let his desire to have sex fool you into thinking that hes not telling you the truth. In my experience a Scorpio man will have sex if he’s attracted to you and youre willing. Itll even be deeply connective sex, but it doesnt mean theyve bonded to you. I would say thats true for most men actually. But specifically Scorpio men arent exactly chivalrous when it comes to sex. 

And Scorpios do disappear and pop up again, especially if they are going through something. 

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You a re right and I feel that he is honest and it is something that I really appreciate with him... For some reason, I've never doubted him but because I like him, it's hard and I  have no clue what to do. I like him, he seemed to like me but withdrew because he was going through personal problems. From What I've heard, he goes out with friends, plans holidays but he doesn't want to see me... I've seen him with a woman (I somehow doubt they were dating) having a coffee...And still, the fool and romantic cancer that I am like him a lot and still hope that he will come back. I'm afraid of losing him if I don't do the right move but I have to be realistic since he said he doesn't want a relationship : (

But you are right, I have read many times that scorpio men tend to disappear without saying a word. In January, I stopped hearing from him and thought that he didn't want to see me again. I wrote to him three months afterwards and he seemed happy to hear from me, he told me "I really like and I wanted to see you but I couldn't", my answer was simple: "I understand, but try it from my point of view, I simply thought you didn't want to see me because you didn't like me".... 

I just don't want to be his toy... I already like him a lot and I don't want to be seen as a sexfriend... That's the reason I am not pursuing him. 

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@creamcheese113 can u tell me did u and the Scorpio ever get together in relationship, i am going through the same thing , it hurts.

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@starlite_22 (((starlite_22))) You can post here or create a new topic, people here will definitely help. Much love <3

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