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Metcalf22
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Hello, 

 I am a virgo female and need some advise. This might be a bit long. I am a gamer and I met a guy online back in Jan. It is has been closer to 8 months that we have been friends. We talk almost daily and have shared some deep intimate conversations of his life which is not something a lot of scorpios do unless they fully trust you. Which he distinctively told me one day 'do not second guess that I trust you." I once told him that I liked him but, he said he did not want to hurt me or ruin our friendship. kinda feel friend zoned here. The thing is though, a few nights back when we was having this deep conversation and sharing music he told me some very very personal things about his past. Not just that but, he was sending me love songs. Yes, I did ask him to share some music with me. We have done this before but, never has he sent love songs and quite a few of them. Now I could be completely wrong but, with him opening up to me like that and sending me love songs I literally felt something there. Maybe it was just me but, who knows. He sent me a song and said...if you want to know who I am then this song is completely me. This song was talking about wanting a girl that does not exist anymore. Like that rare breed thats perfectly loyal and devoted. That's the thing...I know it probably sounds like I am just saying this but, I know I am that rare breed. I know I am exactly what hes looking for at least in that aspect. The song went on saying how he wants the girl who understands his music and this was a very deep song to which I am virgo I understood it completely to the point I cried. It was so raw and real. To show me this side of him being a scorpio just kind took me by surprise. I thought maybe just maybe he liked me after all. Well, I havn't heard one word from him for 2 days now after he went and spent a night out on the town. I messaged him just once to say hey I hope you had fun and that youre ok. That's all I said just to make sure hes ok but, nothing. I am not sure if I upset him in some way or what. We speak online and he already said he didnt want to ruin our friendship or hurt me soooo maybe he is just ghosting me or something. Any advise would be appreciated. And yes I know I probably should have walked away from the idea when he said he didnt want to ruin friendship but, at the same time I know scorpios sometimes say this to see if you will fight for them, to see if you really do want to be with them so I am confused. Help!

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Hello, 

 I am a virgo female and need some advise. This might be a bit long. I am a gamer and I met a guy online back in Jan. It is has been closer to 8 months that we have been friends. We talk almost daily and have shared some deep intimate conversations of his life which is not something a lot of scorpios do unless they fully trust you. Which he distinctively told me one day 'do not second guess that I trust you." I once told him that I liked him but, he said he did not want to hurt me or ruin our friendship. kinda feel friend zoned here. The thing is though, a few nights back when we was having this deep conversation and sharing music he told me some very very personal things about his past. Not just that but, he was sending me love songs. Yes, I did ask him to share some music with me. We have done this before but, never has he sent love songs and quite a few of them. Now I could be completely wrong but, with him opening up to me like that and sending me love songs I literally felt something there. Maybe it was just me but, who knows. He sent me a song and said...if you want to know who I am then this song is completely me. This song was talking about wanting a girl that does not exist anymore. Like that rare breed thats perfectly loyal and devoted. That's the thing...I know it probably sounds like I am just saying this but, I know I am that rare breed. I know I am exactly what hes looking for at least in that aspect. The song went on saying how he wants the girl who understands his music and this was a very deep song to which I am virgo I understood it completely to the point I cried. It was so raw and real. To show me this side of him being a scorpio just kind took me by surprise. I thought maybe just maybe he liked me after all. Well, I havn't heard one word from him for 2 days now after he went and spent a night out on the town. I messaged him just once to say hey I hope you had fun and that youre ok. That's all I said just to make sure hes ok but, nothing. I am not sure if I upset him in some way or what. We speak online and he already said he didnt want to ruin our friendship or hurt me soooo maybe he is just ghosting me or something. Any advise would be appreciated. And yes I know I probably should have walked away from the idea when he said he didnt want to ruin friendship but, at the same time I know scorpios sometimes say this to see if you will fight for them, to see if you really do want to be with them so I am confused. Help!

Hi Metcalf22,

 

I don't think I will be too much of the help as astrology is in question, but maybe I could give you an insight as I have really a lot of experience of online dating and long-distance relationships. When I met my ex-boyfriend, it was almost 11 years ago, he isn't a Scorpio, tho he has Mars and Saturn in Scorpio, same as I do, we are just a month apart. We had similar talks, but then he just disappeared and came back again like 5 months later. I never found out what was the reason, but I assume it was because of his ex-girlfriend. My advice would be: if he didn't clearly show you any kind of emotions, affection, said any exact words that would show the same, please don't hold on thin ice, such as those songs. I know I may be sound a bit harsh, but when it comes to online dating and relationships, exact communication is very important, because we tend to weigh every single word, sentence, we try finding meaning in all those little things, but until someone says something directly, better be careful than hurt. Trust me, having a heart on the sleeve is beautiful, but always try to protect it. I hope everything will turn out with the best intentions. in love  

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I wonder why did he said he didn't want to ruin the firendship or hurt you? Is he alone or is he missing some ex of his? There could be many reasons for such afirmation... How much do you know about his real life?

I agree with Dori: try to protect a bit your heart and soul.

If he replies to your last question, you can continue the dialogue with him and clarify why he says such things... what is the reason behind: keep you in the friendship zone/ is he undecided yet/ is he missing someone from the past, is he interested in someone else in parallel, etc?

I write all of these things because I dated someone, many years ago, - not a Scorpio - who said such things and I know now I would have digged deeper to see what's behind such a sentence. I know the reasons now, but this is another story...  

The Scorpios I know are no game players, but very honest and no second guessing with them. Whenever I asked them something, I got the pure truth even if it was not pleasant sometimes for me. If you'd talk to him in the following days, try to clarify for yourself, for your heart where is this leading to.

Much love and light to you heart  

By the way, I'm a Virgo too Smile  

 

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Reading your post @metcalf22, I don't think that you are wrong about something developing between the two of you, so I would be confident in sensing that. However, you are also sensing there may be something that is holding him back and making him cautious. There is a secret being held I feel. Playing the love songs seems to have ambiguous meaning, he created a space where he showed you he is a deep feeling person and what he values in a partner. I think he senses you could have those qualities and is showing you his private space within. However, it seems these feelings could also connect with his past too, he wants to move forward but may still be entangled emotionally with someone, we don't know at what level. Scorpios find it hard to let go, can get obsessed and fixate on people they are connected with. It's a big deal for them to share themselves and takes time to heal. Men also in general can be devastated when relationships end, they are more fragile emotionally than women and don't bounce back quickly. I would try to find out more about his past and what is in his heart, it doesn't necessarily mean there isn't a chance for you. Resilience is needed in early stages of relating as sometimes when you meet someone new your feelings open and you reflect those of the past. Dori and Calliope are right, tread carefully but stay open hearted and keep your expectations flexible.

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Hi Metcalf22. Hope you are doing well:) I found an article about the Scorpio male Virgo female compatibility, it's about 71%, and as I understand it's not the best match. You can check the article here - removed link

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