Hi, I want help.
I’ve been in relationship with this sag guy 12/6 (we met in person and got into a long distance relationship), although he didn’t want to label it and I was okay with it until we meet again and make it official, then all of a sudden this guy came up with that let’s just end this for now, because I can’t give you time and stuff (which I don’t even demand, because I know sags wants a lot of space). Then he asked me to stay friends I was like okay. After that, he just kept asking; weren’t you serious? Because I was, and stuff. Even though I asked him to stay, but didn’t beg and end everything with mutual understanding.
Now whenever we talk about it, that how it ended, he gets a little mad, which keeps me in doubt if it really ended or not? And he gets mad with me real quick, so I had asked him quite few times if he wants me to leave him alone? Or just don’t want me to be around? He just doesn’t let me go either? He’s not letting me go. And tbh, I love this guy. (I’m a Cancer Leo cusp with Sag ascendant)
I want opinions? What should I do? What do you guys think, he’s doing to me?
That’s his birthchart, I don’t know the birth time though.
And that’s my chart
Honestly? Move on. I wouldn’t even be friends with him. It sounds like all you’re going to get out of this is more confusion and suffering.
@occhineri it’s just I can’t even sleep. He’s wants me and don’t want me? And on the other hand they say, sags are very blunt and honest? Where’s the honesty ?
I genuinely liked him, or I would have walked away long ago 🙁 I can’t take drama
@pikachu111 Maybe cutting him off completely will give you the space to get some perspective. It won’t be easy but probably for the best.
@occhineri I will, because when I try to talk to him, or ask him what he really wants? He just twists the whole situation, and get it all ended before it starts. Or just kept saying “wtf” in response to whatever I say. And being a cancer I find it disrespectful sometimes lol
@pikachu111 It is disrespectful. Try to put your own well-being before your feelings for him. There are much better guys out there for you!
@occhineri I think I should do that, it’s just I’m drawn to him because he gave me so much affection at first, then took it all away. I don’t know what he even played with my feelings, I’m very faithful and tbh, good in looks. I can really take any men I put my hand on, but I genuinely liked this guy.
@occhineri do you know if there’s any way to keep sags on their toes? I heard they like the chase, i don’t know how to do it
@occhineri I’ll try to detach, but it’s really hurting. It feels like I wouldn’t find anyone this attractive ever. 🙁 my life is mess rn
Sagittarius likes to leave doors open. I agree with Occhineri. He really doesn't suit you. Cancer/Capricorn etc in your chart want and need some security, which this man is not going to offer.
He's also got indications he tends to over-promise. You have better things to do.
@elsa what if I’m in love with him? Should I even try to get things settled with him? And what do you think? Why he’s doing that? If he doesn’t want me, why he’s not letting me go? Will I ever be able to pin this guy down or just making excuses so he can be with me when he wants to? ? I totally understand what you’re trying to say, but it’s just my heart I guess.
@pikachu111 He is letting you go. Did he tell you not to see other men?
He's playing a game. You're looking for something real. He does not have anything like that. I'm sorry.
@elsa he doesn’t say anything, that’s what I’m having issues with. When I say I’ll see other men, he gets jealous and try to become all nice and be there, and kept asking how am i doing? But then again, no commitment or atleast he should explain a little bit? So it’ll be easier for me to get over this guy. He just got this spell on me, I don’t know, he gave me the affection I’ve always wanted then took it all away, in a moment.
@elsa I know, I really am. People should be more open and shouldn’t hurt others being self centred and just to have some great time. It means a lot to a person like me who doesn’t give their heart to everyone out there. I would’ve moved on, but he’s like playing me this chase game, that he always keeps me guessing, what he wants. I’m just hurt to the point that I just want to know what’s in his mind, this is keeping me restless
I found trying to parse out what's in a man's mind unhelpful and unsatisfying in most cases. It usually was a way to just hang on to a dying situation. It's not what they say and think that's important...it's what they do. Is he loving and consistent. Does he seek out your company regularly. Does he try to build on what is happening. Does he introduce you to his friends and family?
I know....it seems like common sense but it took me most of my twenties, to discard my pre-occupation with 'what does he want" and "why is he doing that' and replace it with this more useful gauge of his feelings.
edit: I don't know if that's helpful but you kind of reminded me of me in my twenties.
@jana hi lovely, thanks for responding!!! Actually this is where it started from, he couldn’t write me once during whole day, when we were kinda planning to commit, when I complained like once, he was out and be like let’s finish this now, I want to be free, I’ve so much in my head now. And I’ve many things going on. So stay friends, we never got to have a very big relationship so that we can introduce each other to a families or friends, i told some of my friends but I don’t know about him, and it was a long distance so I never expected too much, but I never got to know when I fell in love with him and it took my happiness away, can’t eat or sleep. 🙁
@jana I don’t think I deserve this, I’m feeling helpless. I can’t just make him understand how do I feel. Don’t want to beg either. 🙁