Thursday, June 4, 2009
Sunday, March 15, 2009
A host of reasons. Number one, and the only one that would have gotten me to make this commitment, is that he is the love of my life.
Two, I am absolutely worth marrying. Yes, I see it that way. I see myself as deserving of the commitment from him and I want it. I think these theads of why would (fill in the blank) ever marry, assume some sort of interchangeability of one person for another (and admittedly, people are working hard these days to make sure they are just like everybody else out there, so it’s an understandable assumption). I am finally grateful to my mother for all those times growing up when she said, don’t be afraid to be different.
Why marry, when you can always get all the same things on your own, or from any other person so easily. Oh really? Trust me, my husband can not get what he gets from me from anybody else. And I can’t get what I can get from him from anybody else.
The other thing, (and I don’t feel like people hear this very well when I say it), is that the making of a complete and total commitment to your Love is an act that is, in and of itself, holy. (Nothing to do with religion. I am of no professed religion – I’m clarifying because I wonder if that is what puts people off this concept?)
And fourthly, it puts another brick in the fortress. It declares to the World, this is Us and we are together. It declares it to children, schools, exes, family, coworkers, everybody. And I like declaring it. And I think children like it declared. Nothing wrong with security. And depth. It’s like those of us who decide to live in one place most of our lives, commit to a place. Nothing wrong with depth, it may not be for everyone. But my roots run deep, and I like it like that.
I feel like I could easily go on with another 5 reasons, but this is a wrap. 🙂
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Sunday, April 10, 2011
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
would libra think in terms of difference of the sexes?..sure there are…ok long story…
why would l want to get married?? because of the ritual and l know it gives you something extra l can’t even exlain this?!! it’s pshycological for the peole who do it (at least for me) and also for the outside world.
this is something l still want to do (sure l’m afraid ghm ghm maybe it’s pluto libra here) but l also have libra NN and yes l would love to marry before l get too old 😉
this is the only reason here. it makes the picture more complete for me. it would not be for money, children, etc…but just because l would truly want to experience it!!
… l know there are also men out there who still want to get married.
Thursday, February 23, 2012
For some people it fulfills them emotionally for me it doesn’t. I don’t want the governments influence in my relationship. I can have a long term relationship and feel just as emotionally fulfilled as someone with the government “Mrs.” title. But this is just me everyone has their different reasons but I don’t think people have to get married to have their relationship taken seriously.
Monday, August 17, 2009
I got married because I did not want to be with anyone else. When I looked into his eyes I saw my universe. I got married because I had been waiting to partner with a man I loved for 11 years. And when he showed me he did not want to be with anyone else either, it just fit. I am not saying it was a perfect marriage. But when we looked into each other’s eyes on our wedding day, we knew we were doing the right thing then and there. Unfortunately circumstances warped our intention to remain married. If I had I had to do it all over again, I would and I would not have left him.
Friday, February 6, 2009
Monday, June 4, 2012
Revisiting this, five years later, I got married because I knew my husband was the man for me. I wanted to join forces with him, take on his problems as he took on mine. We were better together than apart.
I also think it was God’s will, we be together.
End of story.
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Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Six years later, and I have a lot more insight into myself, after years of being single.
Ive been praying for the man thats meant for me to come into my life. (If anyone would like to do the same for me, Id appreciate it). I dont want to be single anymore. I never really did, I just didnt want to repeat a pattern and on some level, I think I knew that I had to stop and change my ideas about things.
I feel now, that I have an idea of what a healthy relationship can be. But at the point in my life, when I asked this question, I was terrified that Id get stuck in another mess, and might not be able to get out, because I escaped that one by the grace of God, and the skin of my teeth. I didnt think the Universe would be so generous if I repeated the same mistake, so I felt I had to figure out where I went wrong and now I know that my understanding was wrong on a fundamental level.
So, why would I get married now? For all the right reasons. Love, companionship, stability, friendship, respect. I finally have faith in myself to make a sound choice, wheras before, I did not trust my judgement.
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Thursday, September 20, 2018
Will pray the man who’s meant for you will come along, Libra Noir.
I have never been married but recently feel I would like to be. For love and for stability (Cap Moon). Have 3 planets in 7th. Marriage really appeals.
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Friday, August 21, 2015
I was young when I was married so my reason was very simple. I loved him and couldn’t picture my life without him. That was it. I needed no other reason. We never talked about kids, money or long term goals. We just knew we wanted our own life together. We had been together 3 years before he proposed. I remember people telling us we were too young. They thought we should live life more but it worked for us. We both wanted to just have fun doing what we like and then one day decided to have kids on a whim but I’m sure deep down we both had this goal of having a family. I don’t feel I missed out on anything. I like how things have worked out.
I don’t think if I were single now, at almost 40, It’d be that simple. Now I’d probably think about so much more. Finances. Patterns. Family. These are things I never worried about when I was young. Love was enough. And I guess it is because we have been together almost 20 years. It’s good. We are great friends too. That’s highly important for me.
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Monday, June 4, 2012
He’s my best friend. Best friend I have ever had in my life. I know this doesn’t sound romantic…but of course we have that too.
He is the first person I want to see in the morning and the last I want to see before I go to sleep at night. I love him. The shit storms don’t seem so intense with him as a partner. We have each others back….the loyalty is as solid as it gets.
I married him because I love him. But I couldn’t have loved him without all the above.
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Monday, December 20, 2010
I married once, back when I was very young.
I did not love him, my family placed a lot of
importance on marriage and felt it should be
done early on. I was already in love with a
married man. I went thru with the ceremony,
knowing full well I was making a huge
mistake. I decided to not marry again, as I
realized it was just not for me. My then
married boyfriend is still married to his wife,
and my ex husband and I are still on friendly
terms and he remarried shortly after our
split. He and his wife had 5 children.
I have North Node tightly conjunct my
Cancer Ascendant, so Capricorn themes
on my South Node Descendant. I have
had a ton of relationships, and am in my
longest one now of 8 years.
Marriage is an institution, and I do not
want to be institutionalized! hahahaha
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Monday, December 20, 2010