Elsa posted a very interesting read on projection phenomena. I'm new to astrology and seldom have lasting romantic relationships but hopeful. Pls help me figure this out. Here's my chart; retrograde Venus in the Aquarius 7th. Help!
Welcome❤️🥰
Try to search her site here for Aquarius aspects, it’s an air fixed sign, then look at the aspects you have - I can’t see this chart good, but it looks like you may have a moon sq. Venus.
Elsa also has a post about that exact aspect and I just commented on it.
Stick around and hang out here and eventually someone else can help you. I have an appointment at 11:30, but I’ll be back later to look at your chart better.
Astrology is a wonderful gift and tool for unlocking secrets to our situations - good or bad. I wish you the best hun ❤️
@woodenbowl thank you kindly. I'll try uploading a better chart. I just can't continue failing at love or anything. I can learn to improve.
@newgal mars at the top of your chart in Taurus is a great sign that you can be very motivated and capable of drive for whatever you want.
saturn in the 11th house of friendship and groups is a great placement in Gemini- Saturn (structure)- you can discipline yourself, understand the assignment and follow through.
You have Venus in the 7th house - house of relationship and marriage- libra (Venus) is the fair game. If you can see yourself from the other persons eyes, correct what you think is causing you the most conflict with relationships, and love yourself enough to do the self care and work, this is also a great placement for Venus- it being in Aquarius- just don’t become detached easily and don’t over think (air) Aquarius…. Jupiter is also in the 7th and Jupiter magnifies- so whatever energy you’re using, Jupiter will enlarge it, if your projecting (anxiety or being pre-occupied, or anger)… there’s the possibility others will feel it better with the Jupiter there.
with Capricorn in your 6th house - I’d bet that you like to work at being healthy, maybe walking, conscious of how you eat, I’m just guessing…. But If so - continue to open up areas of your life to learning ways to understand projection and how we subconsciously do it. Cancer is also opposite your 7th house - In the 12th, so you may hide in your shell and desire love but not always feel safe with others, given your Venus square mars and Venus square moon. Trust that you are capable of overcoming all of this, grow, learn and study astrology. Your chart doesn’t speak that you’re doomed in love. We all have positive and negative in our charts. We all have to overcome our emotions and issues. Astrology does teach us why we do what we do. I bet you think you’re pretty one day and not pretty another day. For example… I’m not a great chart reader - but I hope I made some correct points. Sorry it took me so long to get back to ya- it’s been chaotic here at my house.
Edit to say- by safe - I mean, if arguing is one of the things you do, or anger comes up, or you’re frustrated while with the person your engaging with. That’s coming from the Venus square mars…. The wanting to argue, nick pick, etc… and as Elsa said Capricorn does tend to reject before being rejected- so be careful there too.
I meant to say that Cancer is your Ascendent and your 12th house- not necessarily opposite your 7th… 12th house can be our shadow house, how we are at home, alone, example- how we self undo, self- sabotage, under love ourselves when we’re feeling too emotional to be positive & fighting for our dreams. Cancer is also water sign and water can heal and be significant for tears, nurture, wanting to be alone and hide from the world and so focus on your mars in Taurus and your MC, it’s actually Aries and Aries is a fire (go-getter attitude). I’d bet you’re very well balanced- just maybe got down from some failed relationships. Don’t give up, I do see lots of potential!❤️🥰
@newgal I know someone irl who has Aquarius in their 7th house- they have a great marriage. 7th house is naturally ruled by libra -Venus/ -
She has a great career and so does he. They have balanced their friendship, work, & marriage with much trust and have their own space and a great marriage. She’s real estate and he’s government.
both very top of their game.
Also, your 5th house is Sagittarius, which is recreation, sex, pleasure, hobbies and self-expressions! That’s also positive 🥰
with that aquarius venus, i only know a couple who are close to me, that are my aunt and uncle married for threedecades since they graduated from university. They have a very good marriage, they travel alot and are very giving and generous. They both have Aquarius venus, and he's an Aquarius sun, Capricorn mars and she's a Pisces sun, Scorpio mars, Aries moon. I'm guessing because she has a commitment phobic type venus and a very independent Moon, she can be with an Aquarius sun Aquarius venus long term and happily too, both super loyal. But i dont know their rising/houses so alot could explain deeper. They are both very successful, both top of their careers; and they give back to their families and extended families and even charity.
i believe someone with some aquarius and scorpio (your moon will probably need someone who will ride through the thick and thin with you) and also touch and go, independent and free (aquarius). good luck ^^
Welcome, NewGal. Your situation is pretty complicated but I will try to hit the high points.
First, Venus in Aquarius tends to be commitment-phobic. Your Capricorn can help, if you work with it but left to it's own devices, Capricorn will reject in order to avoid being rejected.
Again, you have free will but without considering what you're doing, you probably don't stick around? You may leave or provoke the other to leave... it may seen easier,
Mars squaring Venus is also problematic as is your moon completing the Fixed T-square.
You don't want to be bored, you probably do want to fight, you want security and loyalty. This is exists - my marriage is like this, but it doesn't grow on trees.
Not sure what you MO is, but if you decide to hunt love on instinct - this would work with your chart. I'm just saying the quiet part out loud, as they say.
Good luck!
I think you've nailed most of it Elsa!!!!! Whoa you are *amazing* 0.0
I selfsabotage by being codependent yet fiercely independent. I just long for affection, love that grows and supports his/my growth. I don't mind a fight. 10th house Mars taurus: I'm somehow tossed overboard and le ft for.dead in most situations(she is stromg she can take.it!) , until the end when most find out not only did it make it, I've reached shore against all odds...see? Told ya she'd make it! But hell, I hunt them forever, patiently. Moon Scorpio. Mars 10th Taurus: yep. I'm feared removed link I'm in Politics. I'd very much like to.find him. The one.
Your descendant is actually in Capricorn, and your Sun is conjunct. I wonder if there’s a tendency to lose yourself in a relationship and then your Venus in Aquarius rebels. Moon in Scorpio will probably want someone who can withstand that trial by fire. Maybe lots of on and off relationships. I wonder if deep down you feel like you are “too much” or a handful. You aren’t, you just have to find the person that can meet you on a few different levels (intellectually as well as emotionally and physically) and who respects your boundaries, because you can actually handle a really complex relationship with someone else who is complex. But probably always a good idea to have other outlet’s besides the relationship, hobbies and passions etc. and that will temper the tendency to run hot and cold.
Also, look into what your attachment style is- it can be really useful to know.
@libra-noir thank you. This is spot on. I'd like some practical guidance so that I can improve based on my chart strengths. Could you pls help me read it?