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Elsa
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Look at these words:

caginess
 chariness
 cynicism
 distrust
 mistrust
 suspicion
 wariness
 disbelief
 doubt
 unbelief
 scepticism UK
 doubtfulness
 questioning
 dubiety
 incredulity
 skepticism US
 uncertainty
 misgiving
 incertitude
 misgivings
 dubiousness
 dubitation
 reservation
 mistrustfulness
 query
 distrustfulness
 misdoubt
 qualms
 leeriness
 qualm
 lack of conviction
 lack of confidence
 confusion
 indecision
 unsureness
 reservations

Not too pretty, huh?  They're all associated with the phrase, "lack of trust".

Do you know there is such a thing as a person with so little trust in others, it's nearly disabling?

This is like some crazy phenomena. I wonder if anyone has encountered it or knows anything about it.  Like a person has to be wary; every minute someone is about to screw them over.

What is this other than a complete lack of faith, which is what occurs to me.
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Lack also of faith in their own ability to defeat or deflect anyone who's about to screw them over.

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@warped-by-wuthering-heights That’s what I was thinking. I found that when I worked on trusting others, it really came down to me needing to work on trusting myself.

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Some individuals develop a lack of trust in others when they've been subjected to trauma over prolonged periods of time. It happened to me and I still don't fully trust people.

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Exactly this for me too. 

 

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I was looking for the word "paranoia" but did not see it.

In some ways, this phenomenon is odd, because the person who distrusts others suspects that their expectations will not be met, BUT then their expectations for being tricked will be met.

There is a mutual dance happening, whether one likes it or not. Both sides projects their desires, fears, etc unto each other, daring the other person to play the game.

Having a some personal expectations is essential, but beyond that, expecting or forcing them upon others leaves one distraught or disappointed because people cannot be controlled and should be allowed to be who they are. Just calls for appropriate responses.

I know a few who currently cannot trust others at all. What remains is their need to objectify others, dehumanize, which means they are not totally human either. Their energy is stale, dank, pushy, anti-social.

And yet their is the situation of children taken advantage of by adults, or adults who aren't fully aware being taken advantage of too. We tend to sympathize with kids, not "adults", and our reactions to those who claim others are disabling them are "paranoid", "dubious", "conspirators", or just need to get their shit together and deal with it.

This would then result in the "adult" who is not well-adjusted, which more than likely began when the said person was a child. The behavior is learned and relatively fixed but can be changed.

The genocide, violent usurping of land/resources, historical trauma, is very evident in America's history (& other countries) and is very prominent today via epigenetic evidence & social programming by people such as Alfred Kinsey, Pavlov, Edward Berneys, Margeret Sanger, and many more.

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Would certain 12th house activity be a cause? I know in Synastry when there's a 12th house overlay, it can cause a deep distrust of your partner.

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The House person generally does not trust the planet person. Or there's a fog surrounding the planet person that house person does not see.

In my case of someone I loved, I didn't trust him and I was the planet person. I had my Moon and Venus there. Like I stated above though, I don't trust anyone.

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@soup I will eventually find out everything about someone...wether I like it or not, so I’ve just learned to trust THAT. I mean, there’s some shit I don’t want to know lol, but even that stuff comes to light within a matter of time.  It’s that Pluto energy that rules exposure of the icky. Forcing that process just seems to cause misery for both parties. Relaxation for Plutonian Scorpionic people is so important I think.

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@libra-noirI agree about relaxation. I used to say- who is obsessed? Not me. Are you crazy. I have learned that I can play an endless loop in my mind about whatever I get fixated on. I don't like to force it anymore either. It will come on its own... I say... to myself, relax your mind. Watch a comedy, read, go outside... STOP... because there are things I don't want to know... but in time I will. I will deal with them then, right? It all comes out eventually....

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