Wednesday, June 14, 2017
He started off emotionally and verbally abusive and just gets worse.
I broke it off permanently after i hit his arm with the back of my hand to get his attention and he said “do that again and i will punch u in the f-ing face”. i asked him a week later and he confirmed it so i ended it.
He was not like this to his ex girlfriends.
I have attached my chart (leo sun), his chart (capricorn sun),and our synastry.
keep in mind i dont know his time of birth so his ascendant and houses are not included.
the third image is our aspects, im the horizontal.
Friday, August 21, 2015
I really don’t know much to answer your question but how do you know he wasn’t like this with his ex girlfriends?
I’m glad you broke it off. Him threatening you like that is not a good sign.
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Friday, November 22, 2013
sounds like a guy who has a simmering anger, who doesn’t like to be bothered and poked at, even if it’s to get his attention. Anger management should be on his list of to dos. You lucked out that you left.
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Friday, September 25, 2009
I was wondering the same thing. How do you know he wasn’t like this with exes? People are generally behave same through and through. I don’t know about the synastry, but he has Mars opp Saturn square Pluto. Mars in aspect to Saturn can be cruel, depending on how the person uses it. You have Mars aspect Saturn, too.
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Monday, January 10, 2011
He has Mars square Pluto, he means it. This aspect gives a powerful temper. It will take time and maturity (Saturn) until he can learn to tone it down.
You have Venus & Mars square Saturn, you can attract abusive partners with this placement, especially if your self-esteem is low and you don’t feel worthy of better treatment. If you don’t own your Mars energy and develop boundaries, you could meet cruel types and put up with them for too long. You did the right thing.
The indications of abuse are not so much in your synastry, your synastry is not bad, it’s in him.
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Tuesday, July 21, 2015
Wednesday, June 14, 2017
Idk I dont think mars square pluto is enough to explain this, because many people have this aspect and are not abusive. Mars-saturn is cruel but my aspect is much tighter than his .
What about his moon opposite mercury?
I also feel as if I may have brought this behavior out, I have a lot of cancer and venus and mars-saturn, not the easiest to handle.
Could this simply be just mars square pluto in our synastry?
Monday, January 10, 2011
Definitely not everyone with a Mars square Pluto will behave this way, but the person who tells me he will and has this placement, I would believe them,because the potential is there with a tight Mars/Pluto. Depending where it falls in the chart which house can show how it plays out, the angular houses being the most obvious to others. There are different vibrations to this energy, some more positive than others but all of them add intensity and force to a person. Some people can handle that power better, some will be tempted to abuse this power and overpower others. Either way, I wouldn’t recommend messing with someone with this aspect, because they are very unlikely to take it.
And yes, the fact that you have the same degree of Pluto, does probably contribute to why it plays out with you when maybe with another, he could control it better. It is more likely to play out with people who have the same Pluto or Mars placement that ‘activate’ the aspect. I had Mars square Pluto in synastry with a former boss and it was a hellish aspect that bred mistrust, power struggles and hostility, and their Mars also hit another personal placement in my chart so it was very much in my face. I’m not eager to experience it again.
If Mars or Pluto in hard aspect dominate the composite chart then that will exacerbate it further.
Moon opposite Mercury is an aspect of occasional irrationality, indecisiveness and moody thoughts. It could contribute to mental instability but that would be a pretty extreme case.
Your own chart also suggest intense and possibly volatile emotions (moon conjunct mars) which can get overblown (opposite jupiter) can be hidden and felt internally (8th house) but play out in intimate relationships (8th house) Mars in Cancer can be on the passive aggressive side and with a square to Saturn, possibly repressed. But when you do get mad and let it out, I imagine its pretty intense. If you are afraid of your anger and act like nothing makes you mad, you are likely to meet this energy in others who are acting out your shadow.
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Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Friday, May 28, 2010
First off…… remember the “80 – 20 Rule”: if you are happy 80% of the time and pissed-off at him 20% of the time (and vise versa)…… then the relationship is just fine.
Really? Reeeeeealy? Words only?
As a guy, I see this guy as behaving rather restraint. He gave a warning…… obviously something is bothering him. If “this” is a deal-breaker for you…… ok, then end the relationship.
Men acting as “gentlemen” will never hit a woman as the first reaction ((other men don’t get that courtesy)). I suspect there is something about your relationship that isn’t working out from his perspective.
If he was being vague for a few weeks, that was a big clue. Could be he was reconsidering why he should stay in the relationship, could be he found someone else he enjoys better. Could be…… stress from dealing with work or “other guys”. Could be no reason at all.
I wish you lots of luck with the next man. Please don’t expect him to change everything (at least not on his own) just to please you.
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