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my (ex) boyfriend said he will punch me in the face.
What are the indicators of abuse in our synastry?
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Wednesday, June 14, 2017 - 1:15 am
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He started off emotionally and verbally abusive and just gets worse.

I broke it off permanently after i hit his arm with the back of my hand to get his attention and he said "do that again and i will punch u in the f-ing face". i asked him a week later and he confirmed it so i ended it.

He was not like this to his ex girlfriends.

I have attached my chart (leo sun), his chart (capricorn sun),and our synastry.

keep in mind i dont know his time of birth so his ascendant and houses are not included.

the third image is our aspects, im the horizontal.

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Wednesday, June 14, 2017 - 12:57 pm
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I really don't know much to answer your question but how do you know he wasn't like this with his ex girlfriends?

I'm glad you broke it off. Him threatening you like that is not a good sign.

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sounds like a guy who has a simmering anger, who doesn't like to be bothered and poked at, even if it's to get his attention. Anger management should be on his list of to dos. You lucked out that you left.

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I was wondering the same thing. How do you know he wasn't like this with exes? People are generally behave same through and through. I don't know about the synastry, but he has Mars opp Saturn square Pluto. Mars in aspect to Saturn can be cruel, depending on how the person uses it. You have Mars aspect Saturn, too.

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He has Mars square Pluto, he means it. This aspect gives a powerful temper. It will take time and maturity (Saturn) until he can learn to tone it down. 

You have Venus & Mars square Saturn, you can attract abusive partners with this placement, especially if your self-esteem is low and you don't feel worthy of better treatment. If you don't own your Mars energy and develop boundaries, you could meet cruel types and put up with them for too long. You did the right thing. 

The indications of abuse are not so much in your synastry, your synastry is not bad, it's in him. 

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Wednesday, June 14, 2017 - 7:52 pm
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He has Sun in Capricorn and Moon in Leo. He likes to be in charge. That's not always used in a wise way by everyone!

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Idk I dont think mars square pluto is enough to explain this, because many people have this aspect and are not abusive. Mars-saturn is cruel but my aspect is much tighter than his .

What about his moon opposite mercury?

I also feel as if I may have brought this behavior out, I have a lot of cancer and venus and mars-saturn, not the easiest to handle.

Could this simply be just mars square pluto in our synastry?

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Definitely not everyone with a Mars square Pluto will behave this way, but the person who tells me he will and has this placement, I would believe them,because the potential is there with a tight Mars/Pluto. Depending where it falls in the chart which house can show how it plays out, the angular houses being the most obvious to others. There are different vibrations to this energy, some more positive than others but all of them add intensity and force to a person. Some people can handle that power better, some will be tempted to abuse this power and overpower others. Either way, I wouldn't recommend messing with someone with this aspect, because they are very unlikely to take it.

And yes, the fact that you have the same degree of Pluto, does probably contribute to why it plays out with you when maybe with another, he could control it better. It is more likely to play out with people who have the same Pluto or Mars placement that 'activate' the aspect. I had Mars square Pluto in synastry with a former boss and it was a hellish aspect that bred mistrust, power struggles and hostility, and their Mars also hit another personal placement in my chart so it was very much in my face. I'm not eager to experience it again.

If Mars or Pluto in hard aspect dominate the composite chart then that will exacerbate it further. 

Moon opposite Mercury is an aspect of occasional irrationality, indecisiveness and moody thoughts. It could contribute to mental instability but that would be a pretty extreme case. 

Your own chart also suggest intense and possibly volatile emotions (moon conjunct mars) which can get overblown (opposite jupiter) can be hidden and felt internally (8th house) but play out in intimate relationships (8th house) Mars in Cancer can be on the passive aggressive side and with a square to Saturn, possibly repressed. But when you do get mad and let it out, I imagine its pretty intense. If you are afraid of your anger and act like nothing makes you mad, you are likely to meet this energy in others who are acting out your shadow.

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Monday, June 19, 2017 - 7:02 am
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Astrology, aside, there is no way he was not like this to his exes. Or at least had the potential to be that way.

Good riddance to him.

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