“For the love of my first husband and children and desire for a home life sacrificed self.”

Absolutely. Not entirely of course. Speaking for myself, I chose this path. But I have given up more than I ever realized possible. Out of love, yes, but also out of duty. 

I don’t think there is anything wrong with sacrificing oneself for those they love, especially children. We can’t all just have what we want when we want it. To be clear, I haven’t sacrificed my personality or anything that deep rooted. I’m talking about giving up things that once made you happy but are no longer practical. Some of these things can feel like they are part of your identity, and when you give them up, out of love and duty, you can feel lost! I know I have. But it’s the long game that matters. And you have to decide what matters most in life, and to me, that is people and love and community.

One day when my kids are older, I will be able to do more, I hope. But they will always tether me to them, even when they’re on their own. And that is fine. If you can’t sacrifice for your children or spouse, maybe you’d be better off staying on your own. I know I have daydreamed about what would have been had I not married and become a mother. All sorts of adventures and achievement. 😉 There are opportunity costs, and you have to go one way or the other, you can’t do both. At least I can’t. And I can’t imagine it.

I have Gemini Venus opposing Sagittarius Neptune, and both sq. Virgo Saturn 🙂