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Thursday, November 8, 2018 - 10:03 am
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In my experience in life it just seems that is the case. 

For love of family sacrificed the Truth.

For love of a man of color sacrificed  my relationship with family.

For the love of my first husband and children and desire for a home life sacrificed self.

For the love of the Love of my life I have sacrificed comfort and so much more that I cant describe.

John 3 16 

What sacrifice have you made for love?

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Wow. Sounds like Venus Neptune. Or maybe hard aspect between Venus and Moon or Venus and Mars. 

I havent sacrificed anything for love, which might be why Im single. I dont have anything to spare that I could sacrifice. Some have called me selfish, who wanted my love. But I knew that they didn’t understand what I would be sacrificing if I did love them, so I didnt feel comfortable. 

For the love of my son, I probably sacrificed a lot. Career for sure. Relationships for sure. But they dont feel like sacrifices to me. They were easy choices for me to make, so not really sacrifices in that sense. 

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I don’t think I’ve ever sacrificed anything for love. I was very lucky in that my family and friends loved my husband since day 1.

I don’t think I’ve sacrificed anything for my kids either. I do lots for them but they are my priority so everything I do I do because I want to.

I know someone who is the epitome of someone who’s always sacrificing herself. She’s a Pisces actually. I don’t know anything about her chart but her sun. It would be interesting to look at now that I think about it. She had a sister die and she took on her 2 kids one of who was disabled. She also took on her mother who was much older and had dementia. She took on her brother who has some sort of mental illness. She has sisters who never helped with these burdens. I guess she also sacrificed her happiness staying with an abusive alcoholic husband for the sake of keeping her family together. Her life is just not easy and you can see it in her face. She never looks happy. 🙁

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Thursday, November 8, 2018 - 6:39 pm
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I sacrificed my peace of mind one time, can’t recommend it.

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Friday, November 9, 2018 - 8:54 am
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It seems that I haven’t sacrificed anything for love, but I have a low life experience so far.

I don’t know if this is good or bad, and I don’t feel that it was a conscious choice.

Probably I just didn’t have any pre-set idealistic ideas. Sometimes I really feel wierd, compared to normal people.

This does not exclude ups and downs, but sacrifice doesn’t seem to be part of it.

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“For the love of my first husband and children and desire for a home life sacrificed self.”

Absolutely. Not entirely of course. Speaking for myself, I chose this path. But I have given up more than I ever realized possible. Out of love, yes, but also out of duty. 

I don’t think there is anything wrong with sacrificing oneself for those they love, especially children. We can’t all just have what we want when we want it. To be clear, I haven’t sacrificed my personality or anything that deep rooted. I’m talking about giving up things that once made you happy but are no longer practical. Some of these things can feel like they are part of your identity, and when you give them up, out of love and duty, you can feel lost! I know I have. But it’s the long game that matters. And you have to decide what matters most in life, and to me, that is people and love and community.

One day when my kids are older, I will be able to do more, I hope. But they will always tether me to them, even when they’re on their own. And that is fine. If you can’t sacrifice for your children or spouse, maybe you’d be better off staying on your own. I know I have daydreamed about what would have been had I not married and become a mother. All sorts of adventures and achievement. 😉 There are opportunity costs, and you have to go one way or the other, you can’t do both. At least I can’t. And I can’t imagine it.

I have Gemini Venus opposing Sagittarius Neptune, and both sq. Virgo Saturn 🙂 

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Monday, November 12, 2018 - 6:41 pm
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I have a stellium in the 12th house. Mercury in scorpio being there as well. Sometimes I have a difficult time expressing exactly what I am thinking.

I guess I was just thinking in terms of Love and sacrifice go hand and hand and should be expected?

Sort of like with freedom comes responsibility.

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Thats how I understood what you were saying. 

I dont think its a rule for everyone though. Thats what made me think of those placements that I mentioned. Id probably add Venus Pluto/Scorpio/eighth house to that, just because of the tradeoff factor. 

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Tuesday, November 13, 2018 - 6:56 am
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Yes, I understand.

Agree with Libra it’s maybe not always a tradeoff, or give-and-take type of transaction.

But, true also that many interactions come with “rights and duties”, even if they’re not always explicitly expressed or negotiated.

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