Is there a chance for a baby and family?
Dear members, I am struggling through my life to have a baby and have my own family. All these things came pretty late in my life and I have been trying to do as much as I can to achieve this thing in life because I need that, more and more as time goes by.
I have had more than dosen failled natural and assisted attempts. Latest nowadays.
I am with my partner 11y now also turbulent relationship, he is much younger than me, don't think we will stay together if we don't have a child. I wouldn't want him not to have a chance to make it with some other woman that can give him family.
Please can someone tell me if there is any more hope for a child and a family?
Welcome, Antares. I'm very sorry you're in such a painful situation. I don't think anyone is going to want to tell you that you can't or won't have a child. We don't really know. But in reality, you're nearing fifty years old. Your odds are going to be low and I think you experience has shown you this.
Again, I am very sorry. You have to come to terms with being childless, but if you choose this, you may actually find some relief.
As for your partner, you may be right about his leaving but you may also be wrong. 11 years is a long time to be with something. I bet he loves you. If having children were the main thing for him, you would not have to guess or worry about it - you'd know.
As painful as this might be, if it is to be your fate, try to accept it with as much grace as you can...because if it's not this, then it is something else you're meant to do.
Let me preface what I am about to say with this: I can't imagine how painful this situation is for you. Remember to focus on the fact that you want a child anyway and not just to keep your relationship intact. If you both want a child, there are ways to achieve this, either naturally or by surrogacy.
I cannot help but notice Saturn in your 4th house, which is the ruler of your 11th. To me, this increases the chance of adoption. On the other hand, the ruler of your 5th house, the Moon, is in Virgo in the 6th house. This means that the possibility of having a natural child is not excluded, as the Moon is trine Venus. The semisquare between Moon and Uranus jumped out to me as an indicator of an unexpected pregnancy (my sister has her Moon, ruler of her 5th house, conj Uranus, and she got pregnant even though she was sure she wouldn't have a child in a million years).
Sometimes the best things come when we stop fretting over them, so I think that if you enjoy your relationship with your partner, the other issues, even the child one, will be settled in time.
Dear Antares, you were born 6 months before me (May '74) and so my chart shares the outer planet signatures - these are very cardinal energy focused due to Pluto and Uranus in Libra, and Saturn in Cancer. Also due to Chiron being in Aries at the time of birth. Because your Venus is in Capricorn and Mars in Aries it creates a cardinal cross in your chart. I am mentioning this because transmitting Chiron is currently in Aries (12*) and thus has been and will be triggering your cardinal planets. Currently Chiron is applying by square to your Venus in Capricorn. Chiron will retrograde in July at 12* Aries and move back to 8*. I suggest keeping track of his movements against your chart over time. As your cardinal cross affects your 1st, 7th, 10th, 4th houses, it is affecting the whole structure of your chart, your angles..your sense of self, your relationships, your inner world and how you relate to the world, i.e big impact! I have Venus in Aries and Chiron is sitting on my Venus right now, I can tell you that it drags up a lot of feelings of not being worthwhile or valuable from the past and it gets projected into one to one relationships. It's not necessarily the reality of the now moment but a chance to consider old wounding, it can really hurt and make it hard to believe you are lovable and push people away or look for proof! With Chiron in Aries by transit and natally, I find a lot is coming up about my inner child and its condition. With Pluto and Uranus in Libra and Saturn in Cancer a lot of the past ways of relating and being nurtured are quite painful. Your wish to have a child might be well examined alongside your wishes as a small child to be loved, seen and cared for. Sometimes we wish to have a chance to restore our inner child through bearing a child. This is true of life, nothing wrong in it, but being conscious of your own inner child, giving it your full attention now will help you traverse this period and discover the way through.