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How Do I Break Up Cleanly With My Scorpio?

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It's interesting how the very thing you want comes to you the moment you least expect it.

My Scorpio and I after 6 years of knowing each other with our on and offs finally became exclusive around June of this year. However, I have not received any form of communication from him since 2 weeks back and I feel that based on this among other factors that maybe us being in a relationship may not work. 

Our composite chart (birth times are unknown) is below if this helps anyone. 

How can I end things with him cleanly without hurting him? 

Thanks! 

 

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He hasn't spoken to you in two weeks? 

I wouldn't reach out. Ignore him. When he does, don't respond. See how he likes it. If a man I really liked didn't reach out for 2 weeks it would hurt me. I wouldn't play games....and I also wouldn't care if it hurt him that I didn't respond when he decided to finally call.... 

Who's the Venus in this....

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Yeah no contact for more than two weeks now. I haven't reached out at all either (not that I ever really initiate in the first place lol). Is it because he finally told me he loves me? Or is this all just him trying to get back at me from before? My Venus is in Taurus and his is in Sagittarius though. Not sure how to read composite or synastry charts though. Thanks! 

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The thing about Scorpio that's super annoying is that they constantly test you. "How will you respond if I don't communicate with you, yet we're exclusive" sounds to me like a Scorpio kinda test.

That said your composite has Saturn at 29 critical degree in Sag which may feel like there's a battle for freedom or perhaps adventure in the relationship or maybe one of you feels this way (without time of birth it's hard to say for sure). Generally, the 29th degree is like a last hurrah to achieve something. Your composite has Venus squaring Saturn, which can initially feel like a committed love but it can easily become cool or chill (quite similar to the lack of communication for 2 weeks). And when you add the fact that Venus is quincunx Mars, sometimes things flow really nicely, and then other times there can be tension.

The Sun at 0 critical degree Capricorn (ruled by Saturn) is also an interesting placement; likely that the purpose of the relationship is to strive for the beginning (0 degrees) of structure, foundation, or to deal with careers or even how to handle challenges or authority between both of you (Capricorn). Again times of birth would provide more clarity.

Basically, it comes back to the Venus square Saturn aspect. Here's a link that talks about the conjunction, but there are plenty stories that you may find helpful:

https://elsaelsa.com/astrology/venus-saturn-in-a-composite-chart-good-or-bad/

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You've known each other for 6 years. Is this normal to go two weeks without contact?

Example: I used to be crazy about a Leo. This was years and years ago. But, we would come together, then go on our way, then pick up where we left off like no time went by between us. This went on for 15 years. No one was crying when the other one didn't call. We were the best of friends. And, moved naturally into a romantic place always remaining friends.  It was the happiest friendship I have ever had.... even including girlfriends.... 

I knew what I needed and even though I was young, I knew he was not in a place for marriage and kids, and we were having fun....concerts, movies, long walks and talks...but I was ready to settle and I have no idea what he was ready to do. He gave me no indication he wanted more.  I was not unhappy about it, I just kept living my life and when a man presented himself as wanting more....I just kept living my life. I didn't consider what the Leo thought because sometimes we didn't talk for long periods of time. 

I could call him today, and pick up right where we left off. I would never do it. But, I could. It would be a repeat of what happened back in 1979 ....and the years that followed. I have known him that long.... he is a very nice man, but was my friend more than anything else. 

He told me once that he knew I would never stay if he asked me to. He said I was a 'runner' and to keep me from running he never applied any pressure to it. I don't know if I believe all that.... (eye roll) 

He has Venus in Gemini.... that is a big NO for me in a committed relationship/marriage. 

If you know it won't work, because you know the kind of person that doesn't call you for two weeks is not the kind of person you would want for a lifetime....I wouldn't worry about hurting him. Unless....you want to go back to friends. Tell him for you.... here are the things you need. You have nothing to lose. Tell him that romantically you need X things and you don't see that happening but would love to still have a friendship.... you have nothing to lose. You haven't heard from him in two weeks.... 

I think the thing between me and the Leo was ....it was unspoken. We already knew. No one had to say anything. I didn't have to make a grand gesture about splitting up....it was unspoken that it just was, what it was for as long as we both wanted to keep doing it. He has a different take on it.... it's about lessons, past lives, souls and karma... I thought I was just having fun. 

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My husband and I have Venus Sq Saturn.... we are glue. But, he has a Cap moon... we are as glued together as two people can be. One of us is going to have to die to end this....and the other one will probably die when it happens. 

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