Hey guys what do you think of my synastry chart with my boyfriend ? We’re about to have a baby and the 12th house is scarying me !
Oops, accidentally posted too soon
I like this synastry. Your ascendent’s are trine, your stellium, including Sun/Jupiter are in his fourth house, your ASC ruler, Venus, is in his fifth. You light up his home and are literally giving him children:))
All that Jupiter/Venus/Mercury/Sun activity is really beautiful. Considering the aspects it’s making, I’d say you two probably express the better aspects of the twelfth house. He might be a creative in some way, like you, or maybe you both are soulful in some way
With Neptune/Neptune square your moon, your emotions, at times, might be confusing to him. But they probably are to you, too, at times, and I think the rest your synastry will carry you through any misunderstandings.
I get a very sweet feeling from this synastry. I feel like there is friendship, romantic love and good sex, understanding, and now family.
Also, regarding Neptune/Neptune square Venus—maybe he puts you on a pedestal sometimes. That can sometimes be uncomfortable, as we all want to trust we can express our flaws and still be loved. However, that Neptune action is also trine your stellium, including your Sun, which says unconditional love to me, no matter the “flaws” that will inevitably be revealed.
Saturn on top of Saturn trine chart ruler Venus—that’s love glue. Deserving, humble, grounded, long lasting love. The energy is all around well balanced here.
Congrats to you and your boyfriend about your baby!!
So I normally have lots to say (hehe) yet I feel here there is not that much for me to say after reading Buendia's posts which are so so concise and spot on 🙂
I'll try to keep my post short (a challenge for me, hehe.) I'll add two things from my personal experience having Moon in harsh aspect to Neptune, having neptune harsh aspects with my husband and some synastry comments.
Buendia says "But they probably are to you, too, at times"
I completely agree with this statement. I have Moon opposite Neptune and one of the negatives of Moon Neptune in harsh aspect is imagining things going wrong, a tendency to be anxious and sometimes imagining things happening that are not happening at all (having a huge misunderstanding about something discussed and feeling lost and confused and overwhelmed for a day or more and then finding out one was completely wrong about something heard or said.)
So your own Moon Neptune dynamics are in place with the worries you have now, I think, around the 12th house.
2) Your Sun (and other planets) is in the 12th house so you'll have some blind spots and some deep deep identity matters that will unfold as the years go by (I've seen friends with 12th house Suns unfold and change and know themselves much more as the years and life stages go by.)
You'll need some me-time to from time to time with those 12th house planets (and your boyfriend will love staying at home with all those 4th house planets.
Your boyfriend's planets in your 12th come from his 4th (both water houses, the 12th and 4th) so he's probably supportive of you and nurturing, even when he might see things in you that you can't see (12th house.) He is caring so your 12th house (and your 12th house planets) are quite safe with him, I'd say.
3) Lovely synastry like Buendia mentions. Saturn glue and lovely stuff.
I see all the Virgo energy attunement and understanding and his MC ruler conjunct your IC ruler (lots of support there too.) Lovely. And Jupiter-Sun and Jupiter-Venus lovely aspects (Stephen Arroyo talks about these and he's right.) The positive aspects (overwhelmingly high, a good thing for compatibility - astrologer Nance McCullough in her Love Formulas book -) and their accompanying goodwill will help, as Buendia says, with the misunderstandings.
It might not be important to you at all or not in your mind right now (baby on the way!) yet I see marriage as a strong strong thing for the future due to the abundance of combinations of ASC and DSC rulers in your synastry via the conjunction aspect (an astrological factor that the late astrologer Robert Blaschke shared - about when a couple is likely to marry - that I've researched since 2013 and it always works a charm.)
Your ASC/DSC axis is ruled by Venus and Mars and his is ruled by Mercury and Jupiter.
You have the following combos -> Mercury conjunct Venus; Jupiter conjunct Jupiter; Jupiter conjunct Venus; and Jupiter and Mercury. That's a lot of marriage energy! It's destiny, I'd say!
4) Another personal experience thing. My husband and I have Mercury-Neptune (harsh aspect) and Venus-Neptune (harsh aspect) and we have lots of misunderstandings!!!
With my Moon Neptune aspect I'm the one of the two who suffers more with them and sometimes I let my imagination run wild in unhelpful ways (like I imagine a bad thing and then believe what I imagined - I am right now shaking my head in disbelief - this dynamic in me has gotten much better with age yet I'll always have to watch out for it)
We also have Jupiter Venus conjunction (and many of the Blaschke marriage combos) and it really helps with the misunderstandings - we survive them and it gets better.
You two have lots of goodwill and good communication - it will be fine.
Pregnancy...It's also normal for anxiety to go up in pregnancy: there is a huge life change ahead; the responsibility; the unknown (this little person, how you'll deal with things, work, money...) plus the pandemic is not helping either with normal pregnancy milestones and rituals being blocked right now (e.g. going to groups in person, family visits or physical support, etc.)
I have a friend who is now pregnant after a long stint of infertility and she is riddled with anxiety. She has Mercury in opposition to Neptune and she can imagine things and then believe them 100%
I'd give Neptune another channel - like listening daily to music, drawing, watching films, dancing to music, singing to music, paint, looking at art (e.g. study an art movement or era)...see if it helps with your worries/anxiety about the 12th house and other things.
All my best wishes!
(No, I couldn't keep the post brief -ay)