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[Closed] Do emotional manipulators believe they’re in love?


oceanvalley
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so long story short, I knew someone was a psychopth/narcissist. He used love bombing and I understand everything about the manipulation tactics and underlying reasons etc. 
Tho I feel like he at the same time liked me alot.
Could it be possible? Bcuz even from a distance now he tries to somehow show that he likes me.. creepy stalker vibe huh..

I remember that I told him that I see what he’s doing and I started ignoring him for months at school completely.

Tho he still tried so hard to get thru but not as much.

so what do you all think, do u think he could of liked me for real besides all the bullshit or was it only to feel loved and validated and have me believing this was fated love? Lol.

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Libra Noir
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It’s not so much “like” as they are getting fed. If he really is a psychopath, then you were a means to an end for him.

In my own experience with a psychopath the hardest step was admitting to myself that this person did not love me, or like me, but that I served a purpose for him. I was also sick at the time and figured that that must mean that I was unloveable or unlikeable. Of course I now know that him not loving me had nothing to do with my loveability.  I was vulnerable and my patterns fit his so it was a match. In your case, I hope you keep that in mind. That wether he really liked you or not, says everything about him and nothing about your worthiness or loveability. 

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  1. @libra-noir ur right and I agree. Thank u for sharing! 
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Narcissists do not really love.  They need a mirror.  You were probably potential to feed his narcissistic need.

When I feel the narc vibe I run for the hills.  The deeper you go into such a relationship the more you lose.

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@lakshmi Yeah totally, it’s so crazy to think about who he really is but also that he was my teacher.

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