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Had mom over yesterday at a last minute whim. She has suffered a lifetime of alcohol violence from dad. 
Now she’s a cat/craft hoarder. 
The cat hoarding is so confusing & bizarre because I was actually spending nights w/ her so we could have some family time after dad is out of the picture. Now, she’s got so much hoarding & the cat smell is so bad I can barely breathe in there. 
She came to my home yesterday,   was very critical of things. Too many plants, stove not clean enough? Mind you, her cats pee pee on her stove eyes. Her everything.  I feel sorry for her. But I don’t understand why she can’t just brag on one thing I’ve done or complement one thing I do. As opposed to jabs. Thing is, she’s the sweetest person. It’s just so bizarre. She did say she was happy I finally invited her over again. But, I was emotionally exhausted. Or just average human survival from her painful traumas. 
Is this possible astrology related? She’s never drank alcohol but makes me want a big Ole Proactive Margarita 🤩

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Sorry for the weird comment. I was trying to edit but got long winded. Most women would not have made it through what I witnessed her go through. Domestic violence @ its worst. 

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I’m not angry at all with her or her words. Just curious as to the subject of hoarding and astrology. Anyone deal with this on a personal level? Is hoarding in Astrology? 

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How old is she?

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She’s 76. 

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@woodenbowl  This is the point where you just have to forgive her, pretty much everything.  A person's cognition degrades as they age. Your mother is elderly... she is not likely to improve.  These last months of stress have been really hard on people.  As jacked as it seems to you, she is probably giving you the best she's got. I'm sorry.

 

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yes mam, I know. I’m not upset or depressed with it. Just confused as to the obvious wanting the cats instead of me at night when I’ve made it so clear I can stay anytime she needs me, yet, makes it impossible for a sleep over. 
I’ll always take care of her. Even is she had a hundred elephants in her home.

it’s just getting more tricky- with all her babies. Inlove  So I hoped to see if hoarding was in Astrology! Just being curious 

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During the pandemic- she actually got most of her cats that weren’t fixed, fixed - as if she was expecting the worst. No more kittens. She’s really smart. I’m really not complaining. Honest. Just curious and bringing up an additional topic. Hoarding verses critical comments about me having too many plants lol. 

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@woodenbowl I understand. It's a great topic.

I was addressing the confusion part of this.  She makes no sense because some of her sense has probably left the building. I guess I work with a lot of people who are dealing with aging parents. I recognize this. There is some sort of flip you make when you realize the parent you once had is disappearing before your eyes. Again, I'm sorry.

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Gotcha! That makes total sense. She isn’t even aware she says those things. It’s true. She’s disappearing & I love her & it’s hard to watch. 
Hoarding may come from her traumas. Protection tactics as she’s getting older. Helping cats gives her purpose. Crafting keeps her mentally sharp & active as possible. For now. 

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I tried to pull her chart - no birth time. 
Her chart is so bunched up into maybe 3 houses, mostly 2..... that I was sure I had it wrong. 

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