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Sunday, July 5, 2015 - 9:35 am
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In some ways, I think the House of the composite Sun can provide even more insight than the Sun sign alone. It’s interesting to think about the subject, to see in which area of Life does the relationship “shine”. 

For instance, In the last three years, I have seen three men. The first one was the Love of my Life, we had a 7th House composite Sun. Then somehow with the last two men, one of whom I have only dated for three months because the relationship couldn’t seem to work, the trend was reversed and I had a Composite 1st House Sun with both of them. The difference was palpable, even more so because with the last person, the 1st House Composite Sun fell in Libra, a relationship-oriented sign, but in a very individualistic House. 
I must say, the Libran composite Sun made our relationship VERY civilized. We NEVER fought! Not even once. (10/10, would recommend, haha.) But the 1st House undertone was very present – there was this youthful enthusiasm about our relationship, even though he was older and we would discuss serious subjects like marriage and kids, we would do so in a bold, 1st House kind of way. With the other 1st House relationship this was even more obvious, there was even less talk about the future and a more intense feeling of living “in the moment”. And I think this synthetizes the Essence of a 1st House Sun in composite. 

Care about sharing your observation about Composite Sun placement by House? Do you notice a pattern in your relationships, in this regard? What Composite Sun placement did you feel most comfortable with, so far? Which one did you find unsettling or uncompatible with your relationship needs?

I’m talking about relationships of any kind but of course if you want to discuss the placement you have with your current SO and you can explain it more detailedly, it’s good!

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My husband and I have an Aries composite sun in the 7th. It feels forced in some ways. It does for me in that internally I fight the One Unit, the fused partnership where two become one and we merge and all that crap. His natal Venus is in the 7th so he NEEDS fusion. I’m ok on my own as a person. Aries sun (the “me, I”) in the 7th (“we, ours”). I pull out, he wants to pull me in.

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Oh for the record, I’m not necessarily against merging and all that. It just goes over the top sometimes and that makes me ick. Don’t erase me dude! lol

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Thanks for sharing Allie, it’s interesting because I can relate, apparently there can be conflict when 7th House/Libra and 1st House/Aries overlap… at least basing on what you have said about your composite, which is something that resonates with my experience of 1st House Libra composite Sun. 

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My husband and I have composite sun in Scorpio 9th house.

We have traveled the world together because of his career in the military.

We both are very protective of our relationship with each other. We do not allow anyone to stick their noses in our personal business because we together have built a boundary that we don’t allow anyone to cross. We take our commitment to each other extremely serious.

Together we are more than we could have ever been apart from each other. We have achieved more together than we ever could have apart also. We have mercury conjunct that sun in 9th and a very wide conjunction of Neptune as well. (Neptune also conjuncts the composite MC).

That mercury conjunct Sun in 9th house has provided us with 22+ years of conversation and we’ve never run out of things to talk about with each other.

It is a second marriage for both of us.

 

  

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My Hubs and I have a composite stellium in the 4th. We definitely shine at home! We are at our best when we are at home. When I met him, it was definitely a feeling of being home. It’s in Virgo… we do a lot of cleaning and organizing together making sure everything is effective and working right. Sometimes I wish we could laugh a little more! We’re kind of serious. …but sometimes our double Gemini daughter helps us with that!

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My Husband and I have Composite Sun 11th house, in Cancer. And yes, we are very much each other’s best friends, too. I thin this is especially true for my Huband, he has an 8th house Sun, and is very private, deep down.

My Ex and I had 4th house Sun. I lived with his family. Now, we are in contact because of business. He sent me photos of her mother, who’d asked how I was doing, yesterday. I genuinly love his mother, so I love to hear of her. Still, that he’d send the photos 11 years after I was there, is telling of your relationship. It was never just us, but his family. I think he came to realize this, afterwards.

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My boyfriend and I have an 8th house composite sun in Gemini. We have Chiron and mercury in Gemini and Jupiter in Taurus and all of them are conjunct the sun in the 8th house. Venus in Taurus is in the 7th house and loosely conjunct our 8th house stellium. We also have moon conjunct MC in Leo in the tenth house. 

I should probably get a composite chart from Elsa…

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My boyfriend and I have an 8th house composite sun in Gemini. We have Chiron and mercury in Gemini and Jupiter in Taurus and all of them are conjunct the sun in the 8th house. Venus in Taurus is in the 7th house and loosely conjunct our 8th house stellium. We also have moon conjunct MC in Leo in the tenth house.

How does it feel?

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My boyfriend and I have an 8th house composite sun in Gemini. We have Chiron and mercury in Gemini and Jupiter in Taurus and all of them are conjunct the sun in the 8th house. Venus in Taurus is in the 7th house and loosely conjunct our 8th house stellium. We also have moon conjunct MC in Leo in the tenth house.

How does it feel?

 

Well, it’s a little hard to describe. Our relationship is very harmonious and logical. We don’t fight, we talk things out like rational people. We teach and support each other and instill confidence in one another. It feels safe, as if as long as we are together we are going to be okay and we can acheive whatever we set out to do. I definitely feel as though destiny had a hand in us meeting although I don’t think my boyfriend feels that way. He doesn’t believe in things such as fate and destiny. Neither of us were seeking a relationship when we met and both of us were seeing counsellors at the time. I believe we met to heal one another, as we were both going through difficult emotional periods, and also to help us grow into the next stage of the people we are to become. There was an on again off again quality to our relationship but we never went away and were always pulled back together. I feel like we definitely both make up for each other’s weaknesses. There definitely are some obstacles for us. I’d like to eventually live together, get married and start a family and although he says we will there’s a part of me that doesn’t believe it will happen or that it’s something he really wants to do since I’m the one who mentions that stuff all of the time and he doesn’t and changes the subject after I begin talking about it (but that might just be my own insecurity that makes me feel that way). We can openly discuss difficult topics such as past relationships. I jokingly tell him that I’m the masculine one and he’s the feminine one since I’ve got a bit of a brusque and sporty personality and his is a bit metrosexual. 

Sorry if this is TMI and that it is so long.

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My boyfriend and I have an 8th house composite sun in Gemini. We have Chiron and mercury in Gemini and Jupiter in Taurus and all of them are conjunct the sun in the 8th house. Venus in Taurus is in the 7th house and loosely conjunct our 8th house stellium. We also have moon conjunct MC in Leo in the tenth house. 

I should probably get a composite chart from Elsa…

You should get a composite chart…I got one with me and my husband, and it definitely gave me a different perspective.

My husband and I have a composite Sun in Leo at 14 degrees in the 10th house; the 11th house starts at 15 degrees Leo, so in our interps we are given an 11th house Sun. Our Sun is conjunct Mercury and Venus in Leo, too. But it opposes our 4th house Aquarius Moon.

With that being said…we can be great friends.  Very great friends.  We work well together professionally (we met at work 15 years ago) and while we have our moments, generally speaking we are good friends, able to provide each other with great advice and help when we need it.  But our detached Moon kills me inside.  I cannot deal with the ups and downs and unsteady feelings of love.  I need the love to be operating at the same level all the time, not in spurts or sporadically or when he feels like it.

I do not believe I am his great love in life, and of course this kills me inside as I am the mother of his children. I believe his first wife, the total bitch shrew whore Libra with Taurus Moon was and remains the one woman on Earth who in his eyes, the Sun rises and sets on her and her alone.  In the beginning of our relationship he used to tell me how much I reminded him of her, but I being *young and dumb* had no idea what a bad sign it was to be compared to an ex wife who broke his heart more than once.  Once I knew more about their relationship, it incensed me to be compared to her.  I began to recognize the misty look in his eyes when she was brought up, and it took a great deal of restraint to not want to act on my internal impulses during those times. Maybe this is what an 11th house Sun can do…make you such good friends with each other that the relationship is too platonic and there is not enough love and sex and intimacy involved.

ANYWAY…I would love to know what an 8th house or 7th house composite Sun relationship was like.  Or even one with the Moon in that house.  I would love to have that intimacy, that private and personal connection.  

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ANYWAY…I would love to know what an 8th house or 7th house composite Sun relationship was like.  Or even one with the Moon in that house.  I would love to have that intimacy, that private and personal connection.  

I’m sorry, Goldie, that sounds awful. Is anything of his hitting your Chiron?

I am personally in an 8th house composite sun relationship — we have Sun, Saturn, Mercury and Pluto in Scorpio in the 8th, opposing a 2nd house Taurus moon. Dawn Bodrogi wrote beautifully about composite 8th house suns here

If a couple has a packed eighth house, there is a need for intimacy and deep exchange within the partnership.  This might be okay for the half of the couple that is more Plutonian or depth-oriented.  If the other partner is more air/fire this may make the relationship difficult–we will feel as if we are struggling to breathe every moment, while the relationship keeps pulling us underwater.  This is true for any of the water houses (4, 8, 12) but is exaggerated in the 8th, which has a thrust to intimacy all its own.  Even for those of us comfortable with transformation, this kind of intensity may not seem right for us at this moment, or with this person.  This composite  house isn’t about the dissolve (that comes in the 12th) but is about our ability to burn to the core of our known selves and come back to ourselves renewed.

There’s more at the link but I would say that being in my first 8th house relationship is an irresistibly fascinating subject for me. I read everything that Elsa has to say about it here, and I am always on the lookout for other people’s descriptions of their own 8th house composite suns.

Sometimes I feel as though I’ve known him for longer than I have. For me he is the only person in focus when we are together; he is the only creature that exists in any real shape or form, even when other people are talking to me. I love him in an active, yearning way that scares me a little. Nobody told me that would happen. It never happened to me in the past.

We’re not perfect, and one part of our issues is that he is an expressly independent person and I’m more codependent, and we both, too, need to work on our careers without compromising that deep 8th house bond. It is very easy to get insecure when it isn’t maintained, and that is at the root of many of our arguments. But I do think we are learning, and instead of growing apart we are growing together. Not easy for two people who have Aquarius.

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Piya, I would have thought 8th house composite Sun would already have that innate deep bond…but I’m sure a lot of this is my unrealistic expectation of relationships in general.  I think every relationship needs maintenance, no matter what.  

It’s probably very reckless of me to assume that 8th House composite Suns have the intimacy down to a science already, right?

Oh, and my husband’s chiron squares stuff like my Mercury and Jupiter, and semi squares my Mars.  Our synastry is probably pretty complicated, lol.  

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Piya, I would have thought 8th house composite Sun would already have that innate deep bond…but I’m sure a lot of this is my unrealistic expectation of relationships in general.  I think every relationship needs maintenance, no matter what.  

It’s probably very reckless of me to assume that 8th House composite Suns have the intimacy down to a science already, right?

Ah! But if you look at this post, Elsa says that the composite sun shows the “purpose” of the relationship. If the purpose is to merge, then you must have started somewhere separately, right?

Add that to the fact that some people just don’t want to merge. Some people are perfectly okay without the sort of heart-stopping intimacy that I want (and that I think he wants too). You see, some people just don’t want to feel that close, to anybody. But he and I both have watery moons with chewy centers and, well, I don’t think living solely by your wits is in the cards for us, not with all those feeeeelings.

Just because someone has a composite 8th house with you does not mean they are prepared for it, or that they want that sort of thing. But I do. I want something deep like that, and I want to be married, eventually, and I’m just not capable of skimming along the surface for too long, with anybody.

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