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Children of Narcissists

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(@kashmiri)
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If you were raised by a narcissist, can you see what is 'missing' for your sibling(s), if you have them? Or for yourself if you are an only child?

I will refrain from offering the clinical definition of narcissism but if anyone else wants to--please feel free. Add the astrology if you can!

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(@annonymous)
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I wasn't raised by narcissists but I do know people who are very vain (maybe narcissist...I dunno). And it seems to me that jealousy is a central theme played out in these people's lives. I can only imagine how the rest of their family responds to them. Quite possibly they would either develope a similar view of the world around them or develope an opposite reaction to that particular world view. My best guess of the likely antithesis might be anger at the world around them because the world never "bestowed" such admiration on them. Fear might be another reactionary response to the world, fear that the world is going to take away what little success they might have in life. And keep in mind that not everyone related to the narcissist will actually form a problem based on their relatives' problems. They just might not develope a problem at all.

Of course this is just one person's point of view.

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(@rachel)
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An inner sense of completeness that is not there. A void at your core..... I'm a beginner at astrology but I wonder if an afflicted Leo plays into this.

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(@Anonymous)
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My mom is completely fucked up, and yes, I believe her mother was/is a narcissist. I think a true narcissist is far worse than these Facebooking, texting loonies of today. I mean yeah, that stuff is self centered but... well, a woman like this... you really just have no idea the damage it can do.

It's my opinion that a narcissist can't raise a baby, because at the critical point in time when the child's sense of self is developing, the narc. mother is too busy looking in the mirror/tooting her own horn at any given opportunity.

What results is an adult stuck in an early phase of emotional development. In other words: a grown woman who behaves like a 3 year old for a lot of the time.

PS: despite my mom being fucked up, I think I turned out rather well. I'll give her credit when it's due: she read a lot of psychology books. All that gemini, what else was she going to do but read?

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(@kashmiri)
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Yeah, annon, I'm talking about something else, not just garden variety selfishness or vanity. Also, I do realize that not all people who are raised by narcissists will have problems, just like all people who were beaten as children won't beat their kids, etc.

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(@pixie)
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These children are raised to be who their parents want them to be. That is a lot of pressure to be Star in footballl and the cheerleader or Barbie. Superficial Jones and the show off the kids to out friends. The sad part is that the kid is miserable if it's not who they are. The good part: adolesence when the kid fights back.

The parents are clueless and wonder what happened... The kids can't wait to get away and always feel either abandoned, voiceless, and ANGRY.

Yes. I might be speaking from experience..

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