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Calliope

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November 14, 2019 3:37 am

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What planets/ aspects in synastry can provoke strong attraction and fear at the same time?

There is a guy I knew many years ago whom I liked very much, but felt scared of him, like running away from him while I felt pulled back... He liked me too.

His Pluto and Uranus conjunct my Sun and Moon (in my natal chart inside the 12 house), his Saturn opp my Sun and Moon, his Moon falls into my 8 house, while my Pluto and Saturn conjunct his Mars, among others aspects... What could explain the push-pull feeling I had? Is this a Pluto thing? A Saturn thing? I'm trying to understand what provoked such an strong fear inside me... while I felt equally attracted. I trembled in his presence and so did he in my presence... We never got the chance to get together, the timing/ context was always off between us... but we had a confession years later... that we were both on the same page with the attraction.

I've never had such an attraction-fear dynamic for anyone... The attraction was very good, but too intense... the fear was like running for my life. I can't even describe its intensity... almost insane. I'm trying to pin this down astrologically. At that time I didn't know about astrology, I just felt what I felt...

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I don't know specifically, but seeing as the 12th and 8th houses are involved, I can relate to it. This guy that I was crazy about -- I had the same thing you describe, literally trembling in his presence -- had his sun/Venus/Mercury in my 12th house and moon in my 8th.

Just insane attraction. I've honestly never felt that before. I don't know if the story's over between us, but it's taking a break right now. I don't know how he felt, since I never got the chance to ask him, but he certainly pursued me in the beginning, quite strongly.

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Sounds a lot like Pluto to me.

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That's definitely Pluto to me.

I'm in a similar situation. His Pluto trines my Venus and Moon, squares my Sun, and sextiles my Mars. I'm very much attracted to him, however he scares me at the same time because it feels like he has this ability to look deep into my soul and figure out my true self. I don't like the fact that anyone can do that because Pluto is my chart ruler. It also doesn't help that his Moon falls into my 4th house and my Venus and Moon fall into his 12th.

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I heard fear sex is hot.

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It might be Uranus. Uranus is surprising, which isn't for everyone!

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