Ugh, I feel you. I've struggled a lot with this. With loneliness and also with relationships, which I have trouble holding onto. I believe it's my karma, to some extent the deck has been stacked against me and to some extent my choices have made it worse. I feel like I've learned my lessons now but it might be too late. Objectively, I don't think it's ever too late and I hold out hope that I'll be fulfilled in this arena someday. Maybe someday, I'll have it in me to try harder to date and such but it can get exhausting and I'd rather just let it happen, if and when it's meant to happen. Trying to become more comfortable with that "if."
@space-cadet That’s the process i go through too. There’s so many factors that are out of our control. It’s almost like a spiritual journey…or maybe it helps to see it that way because it’s a somewhat powerless position so one is forced to have faith or acceptance. It goes so deep.
It's not just you it really is all of us. I have had some of the most shitshow relationships on earth, just horrible. I think Elsa is right, it is made more difficult in the conditions that have developed in the time we are currently in. You have solid values, healthy ways of relating with others and a great deal of emotional maturity. Having that l think can often be a magnet for those who lack those qualities. It seems that way anyway. It seems like a test or something, like they come out of the woodwork to try to put a black mark on what should be good. I don't know, it's just a mess sometimes and it sucks.
There are beautiful men out there . Don't give up. Keep open. I know you will. In truth most people connect with the right person a little later in their life, not early on. It's pretty normal.
We all get deeply disappointed by people who turn out to be not so good and lacking any stability. It's pretty shocking sometimes too, we get caught by surprise. I have anyway, over and over again.
You turned on a dime and turned that around fast ,skilfully. You did not waste time reconsidering within yourself or with others. That's a boss. A damn good boss. Give yourself a little credit for handling that so well. You are not failing when you don't settle. Refusing to settle works the soil in preparation for healthy growth and abundance. I think something good can and will grow your way. 🙂
I came upon this today from a fellow Scorpio Moon. It’s the most Scorpio Moon thing I’ve ever heard lol.
The truth is that everyone is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.
-Bob Marley
Yep ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Relating will always have its challenges simply bc everybody lives in a different body. We’re separate in that way and that can make stuff confusing and more. That’s the reason for the good stuff too, of course.
But some seem to have an easier time in relationships, while others seem to have more challenges. In reality, I think lots of those people are fine the way they are, but are confused because they are told in different ways they aren’t. And our natural and unique characteristics get all bent bc of that and we start making up stories to make sense of why we suck, or are broken, or something like that. When really, we’re just fine.
@buendia I’m gonna take this to heart because I do have that sense or idea that I am fundamentally flawed. Where did that come from? It’s the first and deepest spiritual wound right?
@buendia I’m gonna take this to heart because I do have that sense or idea that I am fundamentally flawed. Where did that come from? It’s the first and deepest spiritual wound right?
You reminded of this audio I would listen to like a meditation anytime my heart was broken. I don’t click links so I won’t post it, but if you want to listen to it, search Duncan Trussell heartbreak on YouTube. It’s five to six minutes. He’s so sweet and sincere, I love him so much. Even if he’s not “right,” I love that he’s been there.
But I hope you do take what I said to heart. I mean it. I’m going to reveal this about myself because I’m in a fuck it mood:), but I’ve been studying Human Design for a few years now and the things you’ve been posting about lately really speak to what I know of your design, particularly having a 3/5 profile. It makes me think about how we are told we need to be one way, that there’s this one way that’s right to be and every other way is deviant or will lead to unhappiness. When we say it aloud…that’s obviously fucking stupid right? We are fluent in the intricacies of astrology and we still fall prey. It’s just so hard to overcome the feelings of Being wrong. I don’t want to take away from that, because it feels like everything. That our Being is wrong, that we came out wrong, or something along the way fucked us up beyond repair.
The thing is, if everything was perfect, our care, our upbringing, our choices, our current lives, there would still be things within us, there would still be part of us (all) humans that are so unique to the point of being disagreeable to the mainstream, even the main off streams of the mainstream, like modern psychology. And it would still feel bad and lonely having to navigate that if we believed that our uniqueness meant we were broken and we had to be fixed.
You were talking about your attachment style recently I think, which is exactly the definition of the 3/5 profile. The weird thing about modern psych is that it pathologizes anything outside the mainstream. What’s the reason, what’s the reason. Mind stuff, right? The reason we like it is because it recognizes us (especially for projectors who see, but often aren’t seen, and just want to be). It validates why we are “wrong” or why they are “wrong” but it doesn’t consider that we may actually be just fine. Where’s the market for that, right?
It’s not you, I’m sure of that. Or rather, it IS you, just lonely and feeling weird against this backdrop cast up as the way. It’s not the way. It’s not, but it is hurtful nonetheless.
I'm sharing this to show you a different kind of relationship. This is my best friend of 50 plus years. She is a Cancer sun Libra moon and the truest friend I've ever had. I love her like family. And it's reciprocal. We were together when we had our babies and for every high and low.... she's my true North. My touchstone. I'm am hers.
I'd walk through a blizzard and a fire to help her. She'd do the same. This is how Cancer and Scorpio talk to and treat each other. There's no undertones or second guessing.
You'll see all kinds of opinions on what sign is this way or that way. The truth is you have to find compatible people.
People who see you. She knows my soul and treats me accordingly. So naturally anything short of this will never be good enough to invest in for either of us.
This is a heterosexual relationship. A suggestion of anything else would be disgusting. (I'm only saying this because you know how people twist things 😳 especially people who have never experienced deep friendship between water suns) (and on the internet)
This is real friendship. Show up. Fight back to back. You're sick? I'm on my way.
She needs me right now. Last time I needed her. I never have to worry that this will end. We never lose touch and never will.
Men have come and gone. But this relationship... got an A on this one! The trust and loyalty.... we will lose a lot when one of us lose the other... I dread the thought of it. This is the end of a text session today. I'm heading home to help her....
If I didn't have a husband I'd still have this.
May seem gross or mushy to some people but we never have to guess how we feel about each other.
We say it!
Having a friend like this makes it impossible for me to ever accept less in a partner. That's my measuring stick. So... that's why I had previous failures prior to the Pisces and he came later in life.
Don't give up yet! ❤️
I'm the green
@soup Absolutely friendship can be very deep and fulfillment. What a blessing your friend is. For me, my son is my purest love by far.
