So, It's Me and my Scorpio's one year anniversary today. I already gave him his gift which I spoiled him with something that he has wanted I paid attention and paid about $350. Not that the dollar amount matters but I want to get the point across that if it makes him happy its worth it. We celebrated yesterday because he has his kid tonight. He took me to a Simple Mexican restaurant. But, I didn't get any gift or even flowers.
Now I do not expect him to splurge like I did because it doesn't matter. But, atleast some flowers would of been nice. I appreciate us going out to dinner but, I am a gift giver especially with anniversaries. A week or 2 ago he mentioned our anniversary coming up and he was like I got to get you a gift I gotta figure out what I am getting you.
Now, If you would of never said that I wouldn't be as upset I suppose. I would of been happy with dinner and flowers atleast...
Am I wrong to expect atleast something. I am a sucker for thoughful things over material so he could of not spent a dime and just did something sweet I would of been touched.
In the past he has gotten me flowers randomly for no reason, but not on anniversary? Granted he has not done something like this in months.
I guess I see our first year together as a big deal, and I am happy with him... He got me christmas gifts and a birthday gift so its not like he has never been a gift giver.
I guess I am just disappointed. I expect someone to treat me how I treat them and I suppose it gets me disappointment.
Like I said he did take me out, so am I an asshole? I guess I just wanted to feel like the day was as special to him as it is to me and it doesnt feel that way.
Gee, I don’t even know how I would bring that up. Maybe he’s just really unsure of what to get, what kind of gift would be the best thing for you for a first anniversary. And Valentine’s Day is very soon, so maybe he’ll do something big for that.
I think we've all been there with situations like this! The main thing is, you feel upset and the best remedy is to talk to him about it. If you don't talk to him it will become a resentment and too many of those building up causes difficulty later. So, aim to get it off your chest and say you were disappointed. He can't know or make efforts to change things if he doesn't know he's taken a misstep.
It's a Libra dilemma. Holding back about your needs due to fear of the outcome in the other, but assume he'll listen and take it in his stride. He's a Scorpio after all 🙂
I don't think you're an asshole, but I would let this go. How he treats you, day to day, is what matters.
I guess Leos are idealistic types, and act that way and expect the same in return.
And if not, there is disappointment - not necessarily materially but idealistically.
I 'm a Leo with a Leo partner - we pretty much try to outdo each other with birthday and Christmas gifts. It's a game! Things don't have to be expensive, but fun or surprising.
But I can totally understand your disappointment - you accord importance to this and see that your partner is not on the same wavelength - it kinda makes him seem like a stranger, speaking another language...
This isn’t the first time this guy has made you question how he really feels. Seems like a pattern.
I understand where you’re coming from. It’s weird to tell someone you’re getting them a gift, and then not, and then not say anything about it. What is he thinking you won’t notice? That’s weird. My husbands a Scorpio too.
Anytime he has said he was going to get me something and couldn’t follow through, he says something to me. Like, “I’m sorry I couldn’t get you something baby. I hope this is enough.” ?