WHO DO YOU BLAME?
I also think blame is an excuse not to take responsibility. If my parents did certain things differently, sure, I may not have had certain problems. But maybe I still would. Maybe I would have worse problems. Maybe my problems have nothing to do with them, maybe it was everyone else's fault. But it's all my cross to bear and deal with. People are not perfect. It's okay to acknowledge the effect someone had on you. But harboring feelings of blame seems like agreeing to be stuck in a prison.
I blame no one. I am a full grown woman and my life and what happens to me is a reflection of my own choices and mistakes. End of story.
I know plenty of people though that will beat the dead horse until eternity. I guess it's easier to put the blame on someone when you refuse to accept to take responsibility for yourself.
Oh I did blame my parents for years. I blamed them for the decisions I made on a subconscious level. Actually until I attended domestic violence groups and counseling it had not even occurred to me. Then the onion gets peeled.
The reality is parents are human.
As I have matured I don't blame them. Even though they are both dead I can still be hurt by them, Memories and Ptsd suck.
I tend to mourn, rather than blame. It's a really good question.
I blame Santa too Chad... that liar!!!!!!!!!!!!
Libra Noir said
She told me that you can't make anyone conscious but yourself. What I said to that gal, she probably won't understand. It was a waste of my breath. I should've showed her compassion instead of trying to wake her up.
I feel like I have talked to someone till I am blue in the face and you can see an absolute 'blank stare' and no matter which angle I come from....they just can't get it and won't get it. It's like trying to force a round peg into a square hole. Not happening.